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Context: A dispute my wife and me were having at the house about her father. This touchy subject always has differences in opinion.
Interaction: My wife and I were debating on when we wanted her father to come up to New York so he could visit. She wanted her father to visit us around Christmas that way her oldest sister could take time off of work and accompany him up here because he is hard of hearing. The conflict started when she insisted that we get her father a chaperon for the flight from Texas to New York or if she may travel to Texas and accompany him back up here. The reason for this was because of the fact her sister could not take leave from work, and my wife did not feel comfortable with her father traveling alone. I replied "No, that is unnecessary" and enlightened her on how I felt. Her father is a grown man, I stated. He works for a construction company, pays almost all of his bills, and provides for himself to maintain his well-being; why does he need help traveling from one place to the other? His disability does not prevent him to see neither does it prevent him to interpret what people are trying to tell him since he can read lips and has a hearing device that costs thousands of dollars. With regard to what was just said, I think she does not need to coddle him all of the time. My wife did not take my input well. She informed me that it is not about if he can go to the store and purchase groceries or if he can work, the problem is him not being able to accurately comprehend what people are saying most of the time and it may hinder him from getting on the correct flight. Lastly, she informed me that her father is sensitive to the disability he has. As the conversation was coming to a closure, I r...
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...ds of others. The reason could be from people wanting to gain popularity amongst others to being perceived as reasonable, eventually sometimes making you compromise yourself.
According to accommodation, my decision reflected that I gave into the demands of my wife in which showed her I am reasonable and care for the both of them. In order for one of us to win the other one has to lose. I allowed my wife to have her way just because it wasnt that big of a dispute, as there was no reason to make a minor conflict into something outrageous. I want my wife to know that I am here to support her and show her that I do care for the safety of her and her family. This will not be the last time my wife and I encounter this conflict about her father but I can be sure it will not be the same result. I do not want my wife to think that I will always accommodate to her needs.
It has been researched that when one person says something others rally behind it and convince themselves that it is true.
Ethos, or the appeal to credibility and ethics, sways others to believe in a certain idea and to participate in the action as a way to further support
In society it is hard to break away from boundaries, people like to stick with majorities vote. Ever notice why people follow the crowd? Even though they probably don’t agree with what they stand for. This is because people do not want to stick out and be the odd one. They like to feel secure and the fact that they’re not alone. People tend to just follow the crowd due to their lack of
agreed to do as she is told but has given an answer which will please
Dadi speaks on the importance of the mother in law, the mother in law was to be respected in any way possible when you were a new daughter in law. If the mother in law was not respected the husband would teach the wife a lesson for not respecting his mother. Now, daughter in laws exert their power towards not only their mother in law but also their husband. In early era, daughter in laws used to fear their mother in laws as they were not to speak up for themselves on how they were treated, as Dadi explains. As times has changed we see a difference on how Dadi speaks on her experiences to what we see now with the interaction with the daughter in laws and her family in law. We see Darshini as someone who speaks up towards her mother in law. Darshini feels the amount of work they have to do is all because of Dadi. Dadi is also seen talking poorly on her daughter in law Sita, and Darshini is quick to put Dadi in her place and tell her to stop and get back to work. The use of speaking back to one’s mother in law is one huge difference on how women were timid and how times have changed, daughter in laws have become more out spoken and confident to talk back. Dadi expresses that no one listens to the mother in law now. If the same energy was used in Dadi’s era, the women would quickly be beaten for being disrespectful. Dadi let us know that
The story commences talking about a married couple that seems to have a solid relationship where they work really well together. Having this cohesive and unified relationship really helps to set the story up for the conversation they have about racism and marriage. The husband believes he knows his wife, but he doesn’t really know her at all. The husband says to the wife, “A person from their culture and a person from our culture could never really know each other”(247). In this part of the story, the husband relates culture with the idea of race and as the conversation proceeds and personal beliefs come into play, the husband upsets his wife. He takes the conversation to a place where it probably shouldn’t have gone by implying that he won’t marry her if she were black. She didn’t initially mean to turn this conversation into an argument, but the husband didn’t want to let the subject go. He knew that, “sometimes his wife got this look where she pinched her brows together and bit her lower lip and stared down at something. When he saw her like this he knew he should keep his mouth shut, but he never did”(246). Caught up in the argument, the husband says, “Jesus, Ann. All right. No”(248). This moment of the conversation changes the whole dynamic of the relationship.
People often conform to this uniform truth, they want to be like other people. This conformation leads to a uniform voice from the public. This voice is often
Well how you spect to make her mind? Wives is like children. You have to let ’em know who got the upper hand. Nothing can do that better than a good sound beating. (Pg 35)
The astute reader may notice that this review does not include any papers that did not find a false consensus effect. The reason for this is not that this paper is not representative of the literature, but rather, that it is. The uniformity of the literature suggests that the phenomenon is fairly common. Some interesting arguments as to why this is are motivational or cognitive in nature. The motivational premise is based in the idea that people are motivated to believe that they have a place in their social environment. This argument is a based in self-justification, in that if many people share a given belief or behavior, it makes it easier to justify that this attitude or behavior is either right, or not as bad as it might seem.
The article “My problem with her anger” was written by Eric Bartles. It is a first person point of view about the multiple problems he and his wife face while raising a family. The author goes into detail about the domestic problems that arise after having children, while both parents maintain a job. Bartles continues to state the anger his wife projects on him, which he believes is due to his shortcomings. The writer expresses the difficulties of their relationship, and tell readers ultimately no matter how bad things get it, it continued to work.
The second motive that explains why people conform according to Deutsch and Gerard, (1955) is based on informational social influence. According to Festinger, (1950, 1954 in Hogg & Vaughan 2007) this type of influence is associated with uncertainty. Here individuals are uncertain and lack knowledge as to how to behave in certain situations. Festinger referred to this as social comparison in which individuals are not fully confident about their beliefs, attitudes and opinions and therefore yield to majority in order to be correct. This occurs particularly under ambiguous conditions and is clearly demonstrated in Asch’s (1956 in Hogg and Vaughan 2007) and Sherif’s (1936 in Hogg and Vaughan 2007) studies in which participants converged on similar answers particularly when the tasks became extremely difficult for them to be able to rely on their own judgments (in Bailey et al.
When her husband came home she had to become a caretaker of him and a mediator between him and other people, especially the children. Now that her husband is back she is having difficulties keeping up with the new demands on her role as a wife. She wants to be there for him while he is struggling through his issues, but he does not want to comfort that she is offering. She also needs support from him for what she went through (Knobloch & Theiss, 2012). There was one scene when she was talking with her two daughters about their father and why he was behaving the way he was. She was trying to explain behavior that she did not even really understand herself, but she tried to support and understand him even when it became very difficult to do. In Knobloch and Theiss’ article, they say that partners must manage strong emotions and try to share their experiences. During the reunion period when the soldier comes home it is very difficult to do those things and the partner must be able to deal with it, and it may be very difficult, like it is for the wife in this
Remember those times in class when the teacher has asked a question and the answer in mind is surely correct, yet when you look around the majority have chosen an option completely opposite? What about the time your friends pressured you into stealing that shirt or CD or involving in mocking little Johnny because he was a ‘geek’? At the time there was no problems. As a part of the group you felt confident, secure and “like so cool”.
The wife always wants to please the husband and listen to his word as though it was law. She never wants to displease her husband or go against any of his advice. This is apparent when the wife quits writing, which calms her down, just because her husband feels that it would be better for her. The wife takes the man’s advice in this situation, because that is what society has trained her to do. In her mind she is not her own person, she is only John’s wife.
People do this to rebel or fit in the society they live in, others do