Mothers have a unique ability to see their daughters. They see them in a way no one else does. Often what a daughter perceives as her mother’s opinion is really not how she feels at all. The mothers in Joy Luck Club see more then what is on the surface of their daughters, they see inside them. As An-mei Hsu tells her daughter “A mother is best. A mother knows what is inside you” (Tan 188). The mothers in the Joy Luck Club want more for their daughters then the daughters realize. Ying-ying wants her daughter to have a more honest, less passive relationship then she had with her husband and she believes that Lena deserves it. The section American Translation opens with a short story which shows a mother who sees in her daughter, not only the daughter, but the child she will have and the mother she will become. Her mother sees more than what is obvious. Lena’s mother does too. She sees that Lena’s life is currently “a room with no life in it” and that she and her husband spend too much time saying “words that mean nothing” (Tan 252).
As a child, Lena literally translated much of her parents’ life for them. Her father spoke little Chinese and her mother spoke only some English. Lena learned to translate so each parent would hear what she thought they wanted to hear (Tan 112). She never learned the way a husband and wife should really communicate and she carried this through to her marriage. Her one positive communication role model was their neighbor. For years, she thought their yelling and arguing ended in violence, until she finally realized their arguments were “shouting with love” (Tan 115). Her neighbors gave her hope that life would not be terrible, that people could find the good in each other.
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...able or their marriage could make it collapse. Harold pays no more attention to the fact that the table can collapse then he does to Lena and their marriage. When the table finally breaks, Lena’s mother’s comment is “fallen down” (Tan 165) just like Lena’s marriage.
Lena tells her mother that she knew the table would break and her mother asks the simple question “why you not stop it?” (Tan 165). Lena’s mother doesn’t want her to make the same mistake she made in not communicating with her husband. She knows that Lena could improve the foundation of her marriage by speaking up for herself. Years ago, Ying-ying became and “unseen spirit” (Tan 251) because of her first husband and she expects more from her daughter. Ying-ying sees that Lena can be more the “ghost” that you cannot see (Tan 163). Lena can create her own future, not just passively let it happen.
Helena Viramontes' short story, "Miss Clairol," takes the reader through a day in the life of Arlene, a single Hispanic mother, and her daughter, Champ. They begin their day at K-Mart in search for just the right beauty products for Arlene because she is going on a date that evening. After leaving without paying, they spend the day at home. Arlene prepares for the date while Champ assists her, watches television, and fixes herself dinner. Once Arlene is sufficiently fixed, she leaves for the date, ignoring Champ as she yells goodbye. Although I had to read "Miss Clairol" all the way through several times in order to develop a full understanding of the story and its purpose, I needed no extra reading to understand Arlene and my feelings about her. From the beginning of the story, my gut reaction to Arlene was disgust, and as I continued to read, my distaste only enlarged. Although I do not feel that Viramontes' sole purpose was to disturb the reader by her characterization of this single mother, that was what kept my attention from the moment she was introduced.
Surroundings greatly influence and affect the way An-Mei’s personality is shaped. Her stern upbringing from her grandmother teaches her a silent obedience that she will continue to struggle with as a result of her fear of this woman. An-Mei states, “All my life, Popo scared me.” (33). Popo continued to solidify An-Mei's obedience through stories, like one of a girl saying ‘no’, shaking her head until her brain was liquefied and poured out from her ears. However, once these surroundings changed, new and more individual traits appear. She “learned to shout” (272) and learns to stand up for herself; she “showed Second Wife the fake pearl necklace she had given [her] and crushed it under [her] foot.” (272). The act of destroying the gift Second Wife had given her shows just how powerful An-Mei can be. An-Mei's surroundings and the change of these surround...
The Essay written by Amy Tan titled 'Mother Tongue' concludes with her saying, 'I knew I had succeeded where I counted when my mother finished my book and gave her understandable verdict' (39). The essay focuses on the prejudices of Amy and her mother. All her life, Amy's mother has been looked down upon due to the fact that she did not speak proper English. Amy defends her mother's 'Broken' English by the fact that she is Chinese and that the 'Simple' English spoken in her family 'Has become a language of intimacy, a different sort of English that relates to family talk' (36). Little did she know that she was actually speaking more than one type of English. Amy Tan was successful in providing resourceful information in every aspect. This gave the reader a full understanding of the disadvantages Amy and her mother had with reading and writing. The Essay 'Mother Tongue' truly represents Amy Tan's love and passion for her mother as well as her writing. Finally getting the respect of her critics and lucratively connecting with the reaction her mother had to her book, 'So easy to read' (39). Was writing a book the best way to bond with your own mother? Is it a struggle to always have the urge to fit in? Was it healthy for her to take care of family situations all her life because her mother is unable to speak clear English?
In “How The Garcia Girls Lost Their Accents” the author, Julia Alvarez develops the theme of overcoming obstacles through the technique of point of view and dialogue. One emotional and pivotal moment occurs in the middle of the book, when Yolanda describes her teenage years living in the U.S. She states, “We could smoke and no great aunt would smell us. - We began to develop a taste for the American good life, and soon, Island was an old hat.” (p.108). Additionally, a powerful example of dialogue is when Yolanda feels insecure about her heritage, and her fixed mindset about how love is support to be. She states, “I cursed my immigrant origins..” (p.94) Yolanda is frustrated with her given life, and feels like if she was an American, life
What a loving mother! Lena Younger, or Mama, is nurturing and supportive when it comes to raising and maintaining a family. Personally speaking, being nurturing means to love, care for, and show concern over someone. Analyzing Mama’s relationships with family members can show us her view on parenting and ultimately show us her devotion to her family. In A Raisin in the Sun, by Lorraine Hansberry, Mama is a nurturing mother who cares for and protects her family in her struggle to keep them unified.
The most heartbreaking way to destroy a precious relationship between mothers and daughters is when each party says something insensitive and callous, as described in Amy Tan’s story Two Kinds, “There are only two kinds of daughters. Those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind! Only one kind of daughter can live in this house. Obedient daughter!’” to which the daughter, Jing Mei, responds, “Then I wish I’d never been born! I wish I were dead! Like them” (294-295). Although the mother’s words are unkind, Jing Mei ultimately crosses the line, thus creating a fracture in their relationship that she believes will never be mended. In Jing Mei’s child perception, she believes that because her mother stops pushing her to play piano after this, she really wishes her two babies were here instead of Jing Mei. Jing Mei cannot begin to understand what an ideal mother is, because of the complexity of humans. Is a perfect mother someone who is overworked and thus absent or someone overbearing and a perfectionist or easily persuaded and thus unfair? In the stories: Two Kinds by Amy Tan, I Stand Here Ironing by Tillie Olsen, and Everyday Use by Alice Walker, the notion of reconciliation between mothers and daughters is explored. Forgiveness made through both daughters and mothers being able to understand and accept the reasoning behind a mother’s actions, which, as young girls, the daughters unfortunately misunderstood.
...ed by the ancient symbol of fear, conveys the child's panic. The mother's approach is a source of terror for the child, written as if it is a horror movie, suspense created with the footsteps, the physical embodiment of fear, the doorknob turns. His terror as 'he tries to run' but 'her large hands hold him fast' is indicative of his powerless plight. The phrase, 'She loves him...' reiterates that this act signifies entrapment as there is no reciprocation of the ‘love’. It is ironic that her love is deemed 'the frightening fact'. Clearly this form of love will destroy his innocence, his freedom to think for himself, his ability to achieve emotional fulfilment. We sense the overpowering, suffocating nature of this form of love, but also the nature of American cultural imperialism, which is similarly stifling to the development of national identity and fulfilment.
The language between a mother and a daughter can create a huge brick wall in their relationship because they have different views on life, and how they should handle it. In the book "The Joy Luck Club," by Amy Tan, a story is told of An-Mei Hus and her daughter Rose Hsu Jordan, who is going though a divorce. An- Mei wants her daughter, Rose, to try and save her marriage. But Rose knows it’s pointless to try and upon that she decides to learn to stick up for her self, get a lawyer, and fight her soon to be ex-husband for the house. The relationship between An-Mei Hsu and Rose Hsu Jordan shows that language is a brick wall, because they don’t understand why wants what they want. Rose doesn’t care to save her marriage; she only wants to get the house. When her mother, An-Mei, wants Rose to fight to save her marriage, because it’s the Chinese way, and how the only way to keep her honor among her family.
America was not everything the mothers had expected for their daughters. The mothers always wanted to give their daughters the feather to tell of their hardships, but they never could. They wanted to wait until the day that they could speak perfect American English. However, they never learned to speak their language, which prevented them from communicating with their daughters. All the mothers in The Joy Luck Club had so much hope for their daughters in America, but instead their lives ended up mirroring their mother’s life in China. All the relationships had many hardships because of miscommunication from their different cultures. As they grew older the children realized that their ...
In the story, the mother’s belief in this sentiment gave her hope for her daughter to become a prodigy. Therefore, the weight of the dream is left on the first-generation. The belief of endless possibilities is set upon first-generation Americans and Americans alike. From the beginning of the story, the daughter states that “America was where all my mother’s hopes lay” (491). The mother has the be...
In her short story "Two Kinds," Amy Tan utilizes the daughter's point of view to share a mother's attempts to control her daughter's hopes and dreams, providing a further understanding of how their relationship sours. The daughter has grown into a young woman and is telling the story of her coming of age in a family that had emigrated from China. In particular, she tells that her mother's attempted parental guidance was dominated by foolish hopes and dreams. This double perspective allows both the naivety of a young girl trying to identify herself and the hindsight and judgment of a mature woman.
Tan was born to a pair of Chinese immigrants. Her mother understood English extremely well, but the English she spoke was “broken.”(36) Many people not familiar with her way of speaking found it very difficult to understand her. As a result of this, Tan would have to pretend to be her mother, and she called people up to yell at them while her mother stood behind her and prompted her. This caused Tan to be ashamed of her mother throughout her youth, but as she grew, she realized that the language she shares with her mother is a “language of intimacy” (36) that she even uses when speaking with her husband.
The rifts between mothers and daughters continue to separate them, but as the daughters get older they become more tolerant of their mothers. They learn they do not know everything about their mothers, and the courage their mothers showed during their lives is astounding. As they get older they learn they do not know everything, and that their mothers can still teach them much about life. They grow closer to their mothers and learn to be proud of their heritage and their culture. They acquire the wisdom of understanding, and that is the finest feeling to have in the world.
The films The Joy Luck Club (Wang, 1993) and The Story of Mothers and Daughters (Weimberg, 2010) portray various types of the mother daughter relationship. Through these mother and daughter relationships, both films focus on the tension and love in the older years of the daughters lives’ but The Story of Mothers and Daughters focus on the all of the stages of life.
For many of us growing up, our mothers have been a part of who we are. They have been there when our world was falling apart, when we fell ill to the flu, and most importantly, the one to love us when we needed it the most. In “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan, it begins with a brief introduction to one mother’s interpretation of the American Dream. Losing her family in China, she now hopes to recapture part of her loss through her daughter. However, the young girl, Ni Kan, mimics her mother’s dreams and ultimately rebels against them.