Watch the classical film Grease and one can understand how relationships function in Western Society. The film tells a story of a boy (Danny) and a girl (Sandy) who falls in love. Through a series of misunderstandings they break up, but still somehow care for each other. Through ballads such as Summer Night’s that are still popular today, the film shows how differently males and females view relationships. Films like Grease are like a mirror, reflecting societal values and how it socializes its members. It makes it clear that in relationships, males are socialized to view relationships as mostly a physical, sexual endeavor, while females view it as a perpetual bond –a deeper connection between the two individuals within a relationship.
It is tempting to believe that when a couple says that they are “in love,” they view their love in the same way –that they have successfully “defined their relationship.” But it turns out that love is in the eye of the beholder. Researchers of heterosexual love found out that love changes definition based on the gender of the party. Males, according to surveys, were more likely to score higher on romanticism scales and more likely to recognize their romantic feelings earlier than females (Kanin et al. pg. 64). Since males tend to recognize the love feeling earlier, for males to be determined as “more romantic,” the definition must be based on the speed of the recognition of the romantic feeling (Kanin et al. pg 71). Females are much more cautious and judicious when attributing their reactions as love (Kanin 70).
This may have developed due to the evolutionary history of our species. Males, have lower parental investment then females. Animals strive to reproduce their species and the cons...
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...he end of Grease Sandy and Danny and Sandy do get back together seemingly repairing their misunderstandings of their relationship. They all do this to a ballad that is still one of the standards in today’s culture You’re the One that I want. But despite, the making up, they is still a misuerstanding between them two. Sandy, dresses up much more sensually to get Danny back telling him throughout the song that he “needs to shape up,” because she must be true to her heart. In the end, Danny, is attracted to her mostly for her physical qualities, and Sandy, obviously sees potential in him to make satisfy her needs and wants. They are still in love, but despite the notion of “true love” they both look at it complety differently. Males, still view relationships as mostly physical and sexual and females, as a means to satisfy her needs and her possible offspring needs.
Entering a high school today, one might not see too many relationships, but one thing one might see is that the people in a relationship care about dating for a significant amount of time. The teenage culture of the 1950’s believed “going steady was a sign of popularity,” and the popular kids dated each other (Bailey 140). In Rebel Without a Cause, Judy, who is the dominant female of her group
With a society that frequently emphasizes love and relationships, the movie When Harry Met Sally follows a theme of finding that individual that person is willing to spend their time together for life. The film story is about two new graduates, Harry and Sally, and their journey to finding themselves through relationships, friendships and the encounters with each other 's overs the years. Harry and Sally explored their contrasting perspectives in which each gender hold regarding relationships. Throughout the film, When Harry Met Sally, it exemplified relationship development theories, models, and the maintenance of a relationship. All which demonstrates the interpersonal communication used in the film.
Young love , a thrilling time for many . A time in where blinded young-lings cross a field unknown . A field in which one must undergo challenges and temptations . Here we have a young girl that encounters a young man , a typical boy meets girl scenarios , So it would seem . The desire to be loved can drive a person to do the craziest of things ; we are all walking proof of that . As young children one learns to express emotion through every gesture and every facial expression , through that process one realizes ones self hatred with rejection . Living in a world in which we strive to be accepted and crave to be desired . In society each gender faces different experiences ; as a man one expects a provider , a leader , a hunter and as a women
Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.
In the LGBT community, they develop intimate relationships in the same stages as heterosexual couples however they resolve conflicts more positively. Due to them being in a relationship with the same-sex partner, they approach roles in a relationship and marriage using egalitarianism. We all give and receive love differently. Knox & Schacht discuss the different types of loves styles a person’s desires from their relationships such as ludic, pragma, eros, mania, storge, and agape. These different love styles also express how lovers can understand and relate to one
"Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, lust, and admiration" (spark notes). Sometimes these kinds of relationships can happen between individuals that people meet throughout their daily lives. For any relationship to exist or last,last there has to be effective communication. Communication is a major factor used to either build up or tear down interpersonal relationships. Also, having effective listening skills helps the relationship become stronger. In the movie, 50 First Dates, there are many instances where interpersonal relationships are illustrated. This paper will discuss the different types of interpersonal relationships that are found in the movie, as well as how important communication is in a relationship to keep that bond strong and last.
Watch the classical film Grease and one will understand how relationships function in western Society. The film tells a story of a boy (Danny) and a girl (Sandy) who falls in love. Through a series of misunderstandings they break up, but still care enough about each other that they still try revive their relationship. Through ballads such as Summer Night’s that are still popular today, the film shows how differently males and females view relationships. Danny, for example, describes his relationship in more physical terms while Sandy describes her relationship in much more emotional terms –such as what they did that night. Films like Grease are like a mirror, reflecting societal values and how it socializes its members. It makes clear that in relationships, males –like Danny—are socialized to view relationships as mostly a physical, sexual endeavor, while females –like Sandy— view it as an emotional bond, that is has resulted from a deeper connection between the two individuals within a relationship.
Chapter 9 Gendered Close Relationships is about stereotypes for men and women ideas on how to behave in relationships. The expectations for male and female in a relationships have been set by their gender roles. The meaning of personal relationships is where partners depend on each other for various things from affection to material assistance. Partners are expected affection, companionship and energy. The two main models of personal relationships are male deficit model and alternate paths model. Male deficit model suggests male lack skills in developing relationships with others. In alternate paths model, men and women just have different ways to sustain a relationship. It’s not that men lack skills but men show it in a different way.
In order to distinguish the difference between loving and liking, questionnaire should be undergone. Firstly, the love-scale should be set which referred to the association response from the questionnaire. Some questionnaire items had to be provided according to the attitude of the respondents toward the target person. The questionnaire represented the personal visions of two panels of students and faculty about the ideas of love and like. It contained theoretical thinking and pointed to the three elements of love mentioned in paragraph one. The questionnaire items included two categories, like and love and questionnaires were distributed to 158 dating couples at the University of Michigan. The results found that love and like were more strongly related among males than females and it gave some proofs for the suggestion that it was more illustrious for women to differentiate the two emotions than men. The results also showed that women like their male friends more than other side like them. Moreover, women were prone to say love to same-sex friends more than men and those might be some kinds of the gender differe...
Arnett (2000) explains the nature of romantic relationships in adolescence as tentative and transient where dating has more of a social component rather than romantic. He also describes dating in adolescence as often taking place in groups, where “adolescents share recreation such as parties, dances, and hanging out” (p. 473). It is evident that romantic relationships in adolescence are unstable, short-lived, and lack the mature component seen across adult romantic relationships. Arnett conveys that exploration in love becomes more serious and intimate during emerging adulthood. As opposed to adolescent romantic relationships, dating in emerging adulthood “is more likely to take place in couples, and the focus is less on recreation and more on exploring the potential for emotional and physical intimacy” (473). For instance, an adolescent in high school may seek a romantic partner to gain some sort of social status or experience in the process of romantic exploration whereas a senior in college may seek a long-term and mature partner to build a life with in adulthood. Exploration in the area of love during emerging adulthood “tends to involve a deeper level of intimacy, and the implicit question
How would one feel if ones significant other was constantly disobeying the relationship? In Irwin Shaw’s “The Girls in Their Summer Dresses”, he shows how important having a trustworthy and honest relationship is. This short story highlights the flaws in romantic relationships by demonstrating how one needs some type of relationship in life, how fragile a relationship can be, and how many take loved ones for granted.
The Notebook (Cassavetes, 2004) is a love story about a young couple named Allie Hamilton and Noah Calhoun, who fall deeply in love with each other. The Hamilton’s are financially stable, and expect for their daughter Allie to marry someone with the same wealth. Noah on the other hand works as a laborer, and comes from an underprivileged family. Throughout the film there were several negative behaviors, and interpersonal communications within the context of their relationship, which relates to chapter nine. This chapter explores relationships, emphasizing on affection and understanding, attraction, and the power of a relationship. The focus of this paper is the interpersonal conflict with Noah, Allie and her mother, Anne Hamilton.
A story of love, romance films often have the themes of love at first sight, young (and older) love, unrequited love, tragic love, etc. Romantic comedies and chick flicks are the main genres these themes. Romance films were created as a fantasy for viewers to escape and experience a “happily ever after” (Romance films). The intended audience is generally women and teenager. This fantasy world that has been created had begun to create false expectation of what real love is. With the popularity of these films leads to the idea that, people’s perception of love is greatly influenced by films, and this leads to false expectations of how people perceive real relationships.
Hefner, Veronica. "From Love at First ASight to Soul Mate: Romantic Ideals in Popular Films and Their Association With Young People's Beliefs About Relationships." Dissertation (2011): 1-241. Print.
Some people believe that boys hard much harder without a male figure not around.Boys are much hard to raise than girl because you have to teach them to be a man (Gross)