Mikaela Labar
COMM 273
Dr. Romanelli
Reflection 3
Mediated Communication, Technology and Dating The continued advancement of information and communication technologies has virtualized interpersonal communication process in various ways. Initial definitions of Interpersonal Communication indicated that the interaction/s needs to be face-to-face, but now with technological innovations the concept is getting disputed. In terms of dating (within my age group), prevalent usage of dating websites, and phone apps such as Tinder, OkCupid, and Match are normal and standard. In an article published in The Atlantic it stated, “American adults ages 18 to 24 used online-dating sites and apps at an average rate for all American adults—about 10 percent. Since then, that rate has almost tripled. College-aged and post-college-aged Americans are now the most likely demographic to turn to the technology” (Robinson Meyer, The Atlantic.com). The interactions and behaviors of dating using
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I am a big believer of “think before you act” which can save any trouble or conflict than it creates. Numerous forms of mediated communication allow pause or they’re “asynchronous meaning they allow you to think about messages before sending them” (184). I highly utilize this function in any of my mediated interactions because it doesn’t consent me to be impulsive about my actions, and I can avoid saying something I may regret later. The pause option gives me time to reevaluate what I’m sending and or expressing before I actually say/send them. Mediated communication is the “think before you act” in a technological form. Furthermore, I think that is why online dating are so popular and successful in my age cohort because it allows us to catch our mistakes, reassess our words and be more empathic about the other’s feelings before actually saying/sending the message/s to
In the article, “I Had a Nice Time With You Tonight. On the App,” written by Jenna Wortham from The New York Times, she talks about how social media and other applications affect people in relationships. Many people believe that technology and dating apps let individuals feel closer to one another even if they are thousands of miles apart. Others, however, believe that interaction through phones is causing relationships and meeting people to be not as genuine. Even though Wortham has evidence that technology hinders relationships, she believes that applications can help individuals feel closer to each other.
In the21st century, Amazing changes in communication has affected interpersonal relationships. Some prefer to use technology like Facebook, Line, and Wechat to communicate with their friends rather than talking in person. Communicating with technology will make them alienated. Interpersonal relationships are also important by personal talking, which may lead to improve relationships. In her essay, “Connectivity and Its Discontents”, Sherry Turkle believes technology weakens interpersonal relationship among friends, and relatives. In “Mother Tongue”, Amy Tan claims talking with her mother and husband in a personal way can improves their relationship. Using technology to communicate will alienate and widen the distance between friends; talking
People in society today can find potential sex partners in a heartbeat. In Nancy Jo Sales’ article “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse,’” she talks about how powerful the Internet and dating applications can be in helping one find potential partners. Jo Sales argues that dating applications and the Internet are not generally used for dating, but they are used for finding instant sex partners that lead to one-night stands. Short-term relationships are increasing due to the Internet and applications and will continue to increase in the future. Scholars have argued that sexual activity has tremendously increased, moving from traditional dating to a new style of dating called hookups. Also, research indicates numerous examples
The ways in which people interact, connect, and communicate with one another has changed significantly due to technology. This is parallel to the rise of dating networks. Twenty years ago, dating strictly consisted of face-to-face interactions. A change first occurred when basic dating websites were introduced. These websites asked various questions about interests, hobbies, career, and life. This information is then used to match users with people who share similar characteristics. However, a new dating social network, Tinder, has “swiped” the nation and created a sensation: The Tinder Effect. Tinder has enhanced the need for instant gratification in our “hookup culture”, and by analyzing how it works we can determine how it can and cannot relate to realistic relationships.
In “Technology Isn’t Ruining Modern Dating--Humans are” (New Statesman Network, August 7, 2015), Barbara Speed argues the success of online dating websites did not cause people to pursue hook-up culture, but instead the culture influenced companies to cater the needs of already interested people. Essentially, Speed characterizes online dating as a business. If people did not want such a fast paced dating world they wouldn't download the apps to find so-called lovers. Personally, I have never tried online dating myself; therefore, never put myself in a situation where I was judged romantically in a matter of seconds behind a screen. Additionally, people no longer want to spend too much of their time and effort with a person when they can go on their phones and talk to someone with similar intentions in a matter of hours. For instance, Slater’s case study, Jacob, right after he was dumped by a long term girlfriend, he instantly revisited his old dating profile and quickly started seeing girl after girl. However, he has a history of being a passive, negotiator, and low striving guy looking for a girl to fill a void in his life. Hence, Slater fails to mention that people are responsible for their own actions on dating websites regardless of receiving encouraging notifications from old
Ms. Silver states, “Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret.” This statement is not entirely false but it is however a little dramatic. Years ago, it took courage and planning for a boy to ask a girl out on a date now we are able to hide behind a screen and wait for a response to “Hey you wanna hang tonight?” I agree with Cheryl Yeoh when she expresses the fact that she wants to keep the old traditions alive because if someone truly wants to see you, they will put in the effort to do so. Technology is also taking us away from reality and into a fake
What does it mean to date today? What does it mean to have a thing with somebody, to be talking with somebody, to hook-up with someone? Long gone are the days when you’d give your significant other a promise ring or go steady with the one you hoped to later marry. Today we have a new generation of citizens of the world who do not follow the traditional standards laid out for us. Today we live in a world where it is okay to be talking to more than one person and dating is not an official thing in many cases.
Just with a swipe right, being able to access people’s looks, conversations, and locations has never been easier than it is right now. Tinder is an online dating application (app) that allows users to match with each other based on physical mutual attraction and has been called “shallow,” the “dating apocalypse” and “a cave habitat for garbage males”. (Has Love Grown as Dating Apps Flourish?). In research, data shows that 22% of adults from the ages of 18-24 are using this app to find a people to connect with across America (Smith). Although this app has been a boom in society for young adults, many people are negatively affected by the outcomes it results in.
Granted, one would no longer need to deal with the ambiguity of emails or text messages. It would no longer be needed to over analyze every word and interaction. But, at the same time, though, even those who longed for the olden days have admitted to going on actual “dates” and complaining about the overwhelming pressure. According to one study, “Traditional dating, they pointed out, encouraged an overly formal, inauthentic vibe that ultimately hindered instead of helped their efforts to make romantic connections” (Massa). Obviously evident then, is the notion that such approach burdens one to the point of malfunction.
Dating has evolved over the years, so now we comprehend evolution is not always an improvement. A traditional date would provide communication, familiarizing, and a lasting first impression. Now cell phones, modern dates and social media have made dating worse. Cell phones have interfered with couples communicating in dates, dates at a club instead of diner have made it impossible to get to know someone, and social media now give first impression of anyone.
Online dating offers chances to people who feel more comfortable behind a screen rather than getting so nervous in front of a person that they are unable to speak. It allows them to interact with someone whom they would be uneasy to speak with in real life. Moreover, in traditional dating first impressions truly matter while online, people have chosen the best for their dating profiles. “People were ready to admit that going on actual "dates" was full of pressure and not very enjoyable. Traditional dating, they pointed out, encouraged an overly formal, inauthentic vibe that ultimately hindered instead of helped their efforts to make romantic connections” (Massa). Many do feel shy to ask the person they are interested in on an official date as they are not actually sure what the other person feels and needs more than the opinion of friends to take a step while asking someone online relieves that stress as the possibility of seeing that person in real life is low along with it messing with the asker’s personal life if it is a
And far too often, relationships are suffering because of the effects of technology and how it dominates our world. With all the advances in technology to help us communicate faster, cheaper and clearer, many people are more lonely and isolated than ever before. Technology can assist you starting relationships and connect with people that you might not
From a cross-national survey, Hogan, Li and Dutton report that online dating is prevalent in all countries nowadays. Using the Internet everyday is common for people to have social activities, no matter they are from which countries. Lots of online sources provide a platform for them to have online dating (9). With the rapid advancement of Web technologies, online dating starts rising from 1997(10). However, Hogan, Li and Dutton use “cohort” effect to show that online dating is not only mainly for the teens who are willing to adopt to technology, but also to the early thirties (10-11). Also, the elder population is more willing to date online (11). In addition, different countries have varied online dating rate because of the rates of Internet co...
Over the last century, information technology, such as the Internet, has brought our society forward and helps us get through life more efficiently and conveniently. In addition, it helps making global communication easier and faster as compared to hand-written mails that may take days if not weeks to reach its intended recipient. However, with such luxury and convenience, there is a debate whether the way we currently interact with fellow human beings with the help of technology is good or bad to our personal relationships. The Internet has increased the amount of communication globally, yet ironically the very technology that helps us increase our communication hinders our ability to socialize effectively in real life and create a healthy interpersonal relationship.
In the twenty-first century, we use the internet for almost everything that we do. We use search engines such as Bing or Google to find information. Websites like Netflix and Hulu allow us to watch shows and movies without an expensive cable or satellite subscription. Social networks provide a new way to communicate with friends and family. Entire companies are run through the internet. With gas prices rising every day, it has also become increasingly popular to see a lot of jobs turn to telecommuting. It’s only natural that as other aspects of our lives conform to the internet, that online dating should also begin to be more prevalent in how we form new romantic relationships. Online dating is the new normal, and this is more evident now than ever.