The road to acceptance is long, complicated, and composed of several stages necessary to finally reaching any healthy results. The progression to the feeling of acceptance is a key connection between the film Groundhog Day, Adam Zagajewski’s “Try to Praise the Mutilated World”, and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’ Grief Cycle. Though all are diverse, they share the same idea of understanding and admitting to the elements of reality that we cannot change, which in turn, can provide us with inner-peace and freedom.
The full process of acceptance is examined thoroughly in Groundhog Day, the 1993 film that depicts protagonist Phil Connors’ experience becoming stuck in a time loop, and thereby forced to re-live the same day over and over. Elements of the Kübler-Ross Grief Cycle are evident all throughout the film, while the wisdom shared in Zagajewski’s poem becomes evident near the end. At the beginning of his experience, Connors enters into a stage of shock that also occurs during the Grief Cycle: not understanding a new reality that has taken hold, and possibly needing to be reminded several times because it hasn’t sunk it yet. This is proven to be true in the film when Connors is finally forced to acknowledge that something is wrong after repeating the same day twice. He struggles to cope with his newfound reality asking himself and those around him, “Didn't we do this yesterday?”, and after the initial shock, he faces temporary denial and confusion, which are other stages included in the Grief Cycle. He exclaims, “I need someone to give me a good hard slap in the face!” and, “What if there is no tomorrow? There wasn't one today.” Of course, Connors initially attempts to deny that anything out of the ordinary is happening, and is confused....
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...e and Groundhog’s Day, acceptance can be achieved as well as the ability to praise the troubles that were faced, and the strength and perspective gained from them. I order to find the ability to praise the mutilated world one must first accept its flaws and imperfections. By doing this, beauty can be found in “gathered acorns in the park in autumn, and leaves eddied over the earth’s scars…and the grey feather a thrush lost, and the gentle light that strays and vanishes and returns.” (Zagajewski)
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Upon receiving the news that a loved one had died, those left to mourn, called survivors, often find themselves entangled in a complex web of emotions and reactions. The death of a loved one can be a frightening, overwhelming, and painful experience and the physical, psychological, and social effects of loss are articulated through the practice of grief. Grief has been known to be experienced in five stages called the Five Stages of Grief where each phase of the grieving process will go from initial denial to the slow healing of acceptance. However, the devastating aftermath of a loss of a loved one, coupled with the suffering experienced through the five stages of grief can cause the survivor to commit suicide themselves.
In the movie ground hogs day, the main character Phil Connors, a Pittsburgh TV weatherman wakes up repeatedly to the same day every day, Ground Hogs day. Once he realizes that every day he is waking up to the same day, he begins to direct his day differently. His actions were intended and determined because he knew what was going to happen because he experienced the day before. He had an option to allow what was destined to happen, happen or Instead, chose a different route.
According to Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, grief occurs in five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance (https://www.hdsa.org/images/content/1/3/13080.pdf). These stages do not necessarily occur in the same order for each person nor may a person suffering loss experience all of the steps, but will work toward “acceptance,” which is considered the final stage. A person who goes through something tragic such as learning they have a terminal illness or losing a loved one may experience at least two of these five stages. Elise and Didier go through a tragic loss with the death of their young daughter in “The Broken Circle Breakdown.” Their cycle in the stages of grief starts as soon as Maybelle is diagnosed and goes through treatment. It impacts Didier two times over when Elise commits suicide. These characters experience the stages of grief, at different times than each other and lasting a different length of time, but the film showcases how together they deal with events parents should never have to go through.
Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth and Kessler, David A. On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages. New York: Scribner, 2005. Print.
Overcoming the grief that is felt after losing a loved one is a physically and mentally agonizing task. According to Dr. Christina Hibbert, a clinical psychologist who graduated from the California School of Professional Psychology, three main stages of grief include anger, depression and acceptance. Each one of these emotions can be seen in William Shakespeare’s Hamlet and The Descendants (2011, Payne) as the artists explore the effects of grief and the different emotional responses that one can have due to the loss of a loved one. Additionally, in Ismail Kadare’s Broken April, the Berisha family feels the sufferance that is associated with unexpected death, as well as the various temperamental reactions that one will have after losing a loved one. Each of these works of art represent a powerful example of the stages that one will go through after feeling the intense sorrow that is connected with death, as well as the unavoidable effects of grief.
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Individually, everyone has their own methods of dealing with situations and emotions regardless of any positive or negative connotation affixed to them. One prime example of this comes with grief. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying” suggests that there are five stages of mourning and grief that are universal and, at one point or another, experienced by people from all walks of life. These stages, in no particular order, are as follows: Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance. Each individual person works through these stages in different orders for varying levels of time and intensity, but most if not all are necessary to “move on.” In order for positive change to occur following a loss, one must come to terms with not only the event but also themselves.
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