The Pressure to Marry at a Certain Age

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Beginning at a very young age we are programmed to believe that our lives are on a schedule, and the goal of all is the same, to meet someone, fall in love, get married, buy a house, have children, raise a family, grow old together and live happily ever after, ‘til death do us part. With this in mind, if for some reason this plan does not happen within a certain period, it becomes an issue, and questions from others often arise. For example, if a person is not married by the age of thirty, then “something must be wrong”, or if a woman has not had a child by the age of thirty-five, her “biological clock is ticking, and she should get busy“. With this being said, you could say that marriage is still the end goal for most couples, because of this pre-planned notion of how everyone’s life should be, and the pressures implied when the plan doesn‘t happen.

On the other hand, the world has changed, and people are changing right along with it. The old-fashioned pre-planned way of thinking often resulted in failed marriages, simply because people married the first to come along, not for th...

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