Marriage and Individuality

God created marriage as a union between man and woman. A woman, while still having a mind of her own and control over her own life, is under the authority of her husband. This frightens some women, who fear oppression at the hands of their husbands. While it is true that some men abuse the system that God set up for man and woman, not all men act as such. The Bible states monogamy is what God laid down as a foundational law of marriage,

[…the Creator ‘made them male and female...] ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mathew 19.5-6).

Although many women believe marriage will impede their individuality, forcing them to become a housewife, marriage enriches life because the couple gains new responsibilities and new experiences.

Many women feel that getting married will confine them to the life of a housewife, when they would prefer to work or party. The mindset of women today is that they can put off marriage until they fulfill some dream they have pursued for years, such as Jane and her doctorate thesis on Donne (That Hideous Strength, 12). In That Hideous Strength, Jane and Mark put off having children because neither of them feels ready, and this could possibly be a good position. If one has children before she is ready, she can get overwhelmed, and the marriage may dissolve, because the unity of the marriage is not strong enough. While Jane and Mark are young and only recently married, they are making excuses for themselves and their fear of the responsibility of taking care of another human being.

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...f man and woman, and to facilitate his creation, God knew how to make it work at its best. Women have nothing to fear from getting married. God designed humanity for the very purpose of marriage. However, He may not have children designated for every union. Individuality and marriage can work as one. It just takes practice.

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