Introduction:
Just like any other relationship that is formed between two people in the throes of intimacy, long distance relationships are filled with struggle and sometimes heartache. However, the question is, are these relationships worth it? If two people’s love is so strong for each other, it stands to reason that no distance would come between them. Perhaps the old adage speaks most in saying, “true love conquers all” – distance included.
After experiencing a long distance relationship first hand, I have found that the distance can, in fact, provide more unique and special aspects than many would normally consider. When I met my girlfriend online through social media, it was very casual at first. Short and subtle exchanges on the internet became heart felt lettered correspondence and before realizing it – we had come to the mutual conclusion of finding someone truly special. However, there is only one problem; the 1,200 miles down the coast between us.
Thesis:
Today, it has become apparent that we are truly living in the digital age. The increasing availability of the internet has created an ability to form connections like never before and through the ever increasing depth of social media websites – they have created a vast human network that reaches to all corners of the globe, providing abilities to cultivate and maintain personal relationships, perhaps most importantly, long distance relationships, that has not previously existed in our time.
Long Distance Relationships and Social Media/Networking:
The beginnings of long distance relationships come in many forms. Judging strictly by their name basis, people might believe that these relationships are formed and cultivated from long distance from the beginning (which is...
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...ings from various studies that long distance relationships have increasingly become two things: one, far more common in the modern age through the use of social media and the internet, and two, these relationships are actually being found to cultivate a greater level of disclosure and communication between partners, therefore contributing to their overall happiness and long term success. Currently living in a long distance relationship, I believe that these findings are consistent with my own experiences. I speak with my partner every day and when we do, we speak at a very heartfelt level with candor and honesty to overcome the difficulties of lacking face-to-face interaction and presenting ourselves within a digital medium. In the words of James Joyce and his novel “The Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man,” perhaps truly “absence is the highest form of presence.”
...er-relationship through the lens and personal experience of the author Meghan Daum. After being exposed to the ups and downs that left a deep scar in the author, she concludes that the physical world stands as an obstacle in front of online-relationships. Overall, the author did a good job in presenting her idea and supporting it using personal experience and detailed descriptions. Yet she fails when restricting her support to her personal encounters and lacked power due to the many logical fallacies presented earlier such as her constant generalization, emotional appeals and finally the lack of counter argument. In the end, the reader is left with questions concerning virtual love, the physical world, and the ultimate desire to attain happiness since it’s quite hard to imagine that someone would be convinced with the idea of Daum simply due to her own experience.
Let's say if one part of the family lives on the East Coast, and the other part lives on the West Coast, it would be really difficult to get together, because of huge distances that separates them. Instead of going all the way across the country, they could just go across the street, if family would live in the same community, and that will save a lot of time. Also people are really busy to upheat relationships. For example, brother and sister after leaving parents house separated far away. They still going to call each other, but by the time passed they will begin communicate rarely. As can be seen, people that live far away from each other are not visiting each other that often and relationships are
Technology is now made to help people stay happy in a relationship no matter the distance by replacing real life intimacies with cartoons.
In the essay, “Relationships and Technology,” by Joseph A. DeVito, he wrote about the advantages and disadvantages of online dating and its effects. Technology has made an enormous effect on our relationships, both physically and mentally. Some argue, our mental obsession with technology has become so dire in order to interact with others. While on the other hand people argue these improvements have only physically enlarged our communication with others and improved our lives. There is no denying the growth of technology has gotten extremely big, and it now plays an important role in our daily lives.
A couple that live close to each other is more common then finding a partner who lives across the country, this is known as propinquity. Propinquity is a majority of the way couples meet; however, now that the internet has become an important aspect of people’s lives they are more likely to meet people across the country by being on an on-line dating website. If this is the case, one or both partners need to be willing to relocate in order to continue the relationship. Physical attraction plays an important role in relationships because it helps couples develop passion. Most sociologist have a hard time developing research on this because it is both a social and biological factor that effects people. Although, they have discovered that most couples marry people with the same level of attractiveness. Personality could guide the way a relationship will go even when the couple marries. If the couple has any negative tones they will continue into marriage unless both partners are willing to work towards a more positive way of living. If the couple can make it through all of these filters, they will most likely advance to the final filtering stage called engagement. Engagement allows the couple to show each other and others how “serious” they both are about their relationship, (Lamanna, Riedmann, Stewart,
With social networking services being more and more popular, it is universal to have online dating. According to a report, “over 40 million Americans have given online dating a try, and over a third of the American couples married between 2005 and 2012 met online.” This phenomenon causes us to think deeply about whether online dating is advisable or not. Because of the rapid development of technology and economy, many stressed people are eagerly seeking confidence and self-identity through the internet. Therefore, online dating has become a new and acceptable method of loving subconsciously. However, it should never replace meeting a person in real life because it may be spurious, illusory and fragile.
In our culture, technology serves as an instrumental aspect of our lives. Regardless of where you turn, you are constantly surrounded by technology. Whether it is our cellphones that spend their entire lives within an arm’s reach of us, our computers, or the newest wave of technology that is moving us towards tablets, much of our life is lived in front of screens. With these advancements comes the notion that there is an application that can solve every life problem we may have. Thanks to technological advancements like text messaging or social media networks, there are plenty of ways a relationship can be sustained for a significant period without personal contact. Unfortunately, most people have a misconstrued belief that these resources are a great substitute for personal time in relationships that have periods of long distance separation. Scientists and relationship experts debate the usefulness of technology in relationships and many do not share the above mentioned belief. They debate if technology helps sustain relationship or helps ruin relationships. Just as social media can be a great way of keeping up with others while they are away, it can also be used to spy on others and assume an intimate connection between anyone who posts on your significant other’s wall often.
Advances in technology have complicated the way in which people are connecting with others around them and how it separates people from reality. In “Virtual Love” by Meghan Daum, she illustrates through the narrator 's point of view how a virtual relationship of communicating through emails and text messages can mislead a person into thinking that they actually have a bond with a person whom they have stuck their ideals onto and how the physical worlds stands as an obstacle in front of their relationship when the couple finally meets. In comparison, the article … While Daum and X discuss that technology pushes us apart and disconnects us from the physical world, they evoke a new light into explaining how technology creates the illusion of making
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