When dealing with children, parents and educators usually have a hard time in understanding kids in order to help them follow guidelines. It is a great achievement to be able to adhere to children and keep them on the right path. When one has to deal with a child it is very difficult to communicate, understand, and listen in order to get a feel of how to guide the child. If all these components are obtained then it can lead to a positive relationship with the child all the way to adulthood. If the parent and educators want to truly create an open communication and stable environment they should utilize the book, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It can guide you to establish communication skills and help better in dealing with children. “The Science of Raising Courageous Kids” by Martin Brokenleg and Steve Van Bockern is proof that validates Faber and Mazlish’s practice.
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Steve Van Bockern, is a how to guide for parents yet can also be used with educators in speaking with children. The book was conducted by two mothers and authors who needed to find alternate solutions in better dealing with their children. They then conducted parent meetings to discuss other stories and teach each other how they can go about their confrontations with their children. It demonstrates all the different kinds of scenarios a parent might be experiencing with their child. In the book, there are dialogues to describe the potential correct and incorrect ways in speaking with children along the tips that have been researched and put into practice. The book also has support that backs up why a parent must change their at...
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... be nurtured for their own qualities and strengths. It is the job of the individual to uplift the child in order that they build their own self confidence. Mazlish and Faber have thoroughly analyzed the understanding of children to conclude that the children need not to be brought down but also to help a family’s stability. The stability of families is what leads to the function of society. The child should not be punished viciously to protect them from shattering their self being. Sincerity will go a long way to help everyone achieve true happiness because if one truly cares, then change can be made.
Works Cited
Faber, Adele, and Elaine Mazlish. How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk. New York, NY: Avon, 1999. Print.
Bockern, S. V. & Brokenleg, M. (2003). The science of raising courageous kids. Reclaiming Children and Youth, 12 (1), 22-26.
The most popular method for educators at the centre to build on children’s comments and conversations is by talking with them, particularly by talking through processes or experiences as they are happening. With infants this process of talking through experiences and processes seems more like narration. Spending time in the infant room feels solidary as I talk to myself for most of the day, however it is important to remind myself that the child is learning through my one-sided conversations. Baby’s language develops socially, they listen to those speaking around them and then begin to internalise the words that are high frequency (Clarke, 2004). As they develop their vocabulary grows as they build their repertoire through socialisation. Research
We need to adapt our verbal communication accordingly to the different situations. Working on a learning activity it is important that the children are focused and that we deal with any distractions
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There are many key components to shaping a young child 's life and could be better implemented through professionalism. I like to reflect back to the “Children See Children Do” video, which clearly proves children imitate/learn verbal and nonverbal cues from adults. As a teacher, it is necessary to be the best version of yourself everyday, in order to pass those actions along. This not only affects a child 's ethics but it also generates better behavior which affects the parents lives in a more positive way outside of the classroom. This module has taught me many different techniques when working with a misbehaved child. For instance, I plan to use self awareness in my classroom to keep a positive tone and eliminate poor body language. I will also use breathing methods for children as well as myself to establish a well-rounded classroom. Professionalism is such an important role in shaping our young child 's lives and it deserves to be stressed more which will in turn create a better learning
The childhood of children requires someone to love, and a person that is capable of providing love. The early age of children is sensitive because each tiny mistake can create a devastating impact on their future. For example, there is a gigantic amount of chil...
Effective communication is a key principle for developing positive relationships with children, young people and adults. By ensuring that communication is effective it provides clarity on what behaviour is expected and a clear understanding of the tasks. In providing this children and young people will feel they are able to join in and it also provides positive experiences in variety of situations. The result is children will feel more at ease within the school setting and with those around them. By listening to what a child, young person or adult has to say a sense of value and self-worth can be achieved, which forms another factor in developing positive relationships, trust.
As each parent commits to the concept of focusing on the well-being of the children, children will learn by example. The difference is the communication method.
Effective communication is important to children because it is the way they can feel that they valued. When the children show their opinions and interests then they realised someone listen to them. It is helping to promote their self-esteem and reboot their self confidence especially when it conveys the idea that they are valued and their idea is worth to listen,it will gains their trust and respect.
In depth analysis has revealed the structure of people and who they grow up to be. Whether the parenting style is prosperous or poor, it has significant impacts on how one sees the world, how one sees themself and has influence on one's levels of achievement throughout a lifetime. Until the child can recognize their own ability and goals, parenting style is the largest determining factor in the child's success in social and academic circumstances. Children are the final product, or a reflection of culture and a family's values. No matter what events or people cause turmoil in a child's life, the true impact of the negative outside forces lays in the parents hands. If the child is raised correctly, negativity will not take a toll on them as opposed to a child raised in a 'broken home.'
According to the understanding and knowledge of Developmental Psychology, examining the relationship between a parent and child communication skills becomes an important issue in today’s society. Parents should be aware of this stage within their child(rens) life. With the help of an article, defining the importance and performance of developing adolescences will be discussed.
I knew very early in life that I enjoyed working with children; I am drawn to their eagerness to learn, their trusting nature, and their inquisitive minds. It has always been a joy for me to be around children, who are eager to learn. Children are thrilled when an adult takes time to read to them. After hearing a story only a couple of times, they are like a tape recorder set on replay. Their thirst for knowledge is overwhelming. At the elementary level, children also tend to have a very trusting nature. They rely heavily on their elders for guidance. Most children are very honest with their feelings and don't try to hide them. This is a crucial time in a child's life; it is a time when teachers and parents should be molding them for the future. It seems their minds are always working on something which makes them extremely inquisitive. Their curiosities seem never to be satisfied. Children are always asking "why?" even when they know the answer. The inquisitive child wants to know the how's, when's, and where's of everything.
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According to Hendrick and Weissman (2010) there are 5 steps to conflict resolution. The first step is establishing a sense of calm. The educator achieves this by crouching down so that she is at the same level as the children and speaking in a calm manner. She does not single out children or make accusations, even when she is told that one child pushed another child out of the way. The next step is determining what the conflict is about and conveying that each child will be able to help find the solution. The educator facilitates this by asking the children for details about the conflict. She asks “What happened? And then what happened? Which side were you holding?” The educator allows each child to tell their version of what happened, and clarifies the details as they go. She asks “Max did you see what happened?” She also asks the children how they think Jacob felt when his hands were pushed off the basket. Once the problem has been identified, the next step is to ask for solutions. The educator asks “How can we get this basket back to the kitchen where it needs to go?” The children then offer solutions to the problem. When solutions are offered, the educator asks if the other children agree and continues until all of them are happy with the solution. The educator does not give the answer to children, but keeps asking questions until children can find a solution for themselves. This ensures the children have autonomy in their decisions (Porter, 2008b). They decide on the solutions because they feel it is fair, not because the educator tells them it is fair. This will enable children to internalise their locus of causality, ensuring that in the future, they will make the decision to behave ethically because they believe it is the right thing to do, not for fear of punishment or in order to earn favour or rewards from adults (Woolfolk &
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I think that one of the greatest things that I can do for my kids is to take them seriously and listen to them. My five year old is constantly showing me everything that he learns and it’s very easy to tune him out sometimes, but I think its very important not to. It is important to listen because if you don’t give your kids enough attention they might try and seek it in a negative way. It is important to listen to your children when they have learned something new or want to tell you something that they are proud of. Children seek your approval, and that gives them confidence.