The Great Anonymous Soldier behind the Curtains Imagine the father as the earth and the mother as the ozone layer! HE is the solid basis that SHE encompasses with a thin layer of oxygen in order for the child to grow in a liveable environment. Through the times, history has only talked about the importance of the mother, her crucial role and her significance in a person’s life. Few are who mentioned the role of the father. Writing about who has the more essential role and creating a rivalry between the mother’s and the father’s role is not the goal of this essay. On the contrary, this essay tries to explain their harmony. Unlike the others I’ll talk about the base not the result, the cause not the effect. I’ll talk about dad. Since I was a little child, I had a special connection joining me to my dad; I like the sound of the word “dad” it’s so reassuring. If you asked me about my upbringing I’ll probably mention dad more than mom. He was that cool guy of the school that makes you feel awesome when you are spending time with him. Hence, this pushes you en route for trying to imitate him believing that someday you will be like him. Funny, eye-catching and sociable those are his main traits in a social perspective. But in my own personal standpoint, I most likely perceive him as a smart, unconditional loving and pure man. This insight was based on a constant care shown by him. Moreover, I can still recall the first time I went with him to the movie rental and the first movie that he bought me. By the way, I still watch this movie till today. In addition, I can also remember the time when he brought me a toy cell phone and I pretended that I am talking to him on the cell phone. Furthermore, there is this p... ... middle of paper ... ...y for one thing that is “Education”. Actually, he insists on that. In essence, to him an uneducated person means an innocent convict sentenced to suffer by hardly working pending his death. Alternatively, he is undertaking his best to keep us from plumping for his life path and making his similar mistakes. You might still wonder where the equality of roles is. Well, there is one role divided similarly into two sub-roles. Unfortunately, if the first fails, then the second will certainly follow. Without a man there’s no foundation for the mother to play her responsibilities rightly. Accordingly, the father is always this anonymous soldier doing his great actions behind closed drapes. As the days go by, I am still fascinated by the explorations concerning my dad’s behaviour. Dad I am proud being your son, and I trust that you feel the same.
A child’s destiny crucially and heavily relies on the parental figures in their lives. Without such beacons of authority children in these broken homes easily feel partial, mislaid and typically turn out to be errant. The novel “Father Cry” by William Wilson, beautifully covers both the ideas of spiritual parental figures and physical parental figures. Analyzing several different subjects such as heartbreak, love, hope and many more, this book is able to holistically cover the general subject of parenthood. This is an amazing book with many things that one can learn from. Many ideas and topics in this book opened my eyes, pushing me to the verge of tears in some parts. That being said, one subject in particular that most impacted me was the
The role of a father is more than just another parent at home (Popenoe, 1996). Having a father, the male biological parent in a child’s life is important because it brings a different type of parenting that cannot be replicated by anyone else (Stanton, 2010). Fathers who are present and active in a child’s life provide great benefits to a developing child (Popenoe, 1996). Having a father brings a different kind of love. The love of the father is more expectant and instrumental, different from the love of a mother (Stanton, as cited in Pruett, 1987).
...women are known to raise their children alone, the hardship of doing so cannot be underestimated and subordinating to a male provider might seem a better alternative (Sorenson & McLanahan, 1989). Pateman (p.33) takes on a tone of surrender when she indicates that from a social perspective a women’s place still seems to be within the family, especially in light of legislative action which seems to reinforce this opinion. This stand is further supported by the view that women are the ones who mostly provide primary care to children, and thus governmental initiatives such as paid maternity leave or other type of support cannot but be based on this view. Pateman (p.34) seems to promote the idea that patriarchy can be overridden by shared parenting, but will this imply the need for men to keep or minimise their socio-political contribution and focus on their family unit?
In this article, the editors discussed the social trends and how they can change in nature of father involvement. They tested how children today will make their expectations taking upon a role of mother and father. Increase in father absence is associated with poor school achievement, reduced involvement in labor force, early childbearing, and high risk-taking behaviors. In addition, boys without fathers will experience problems with their sexual orientation and gender identity, school performance, psychosocial adjustment, and self-control. The editors differentiated the girls by how affected they were without fathers.
A woman’s only job is to stay at home, take care of her family, and pleasure her man. What is a man’s job? “Men, they do everything,” quoted a fellow male classmate, “Men get the real money.” But it is the twenty-first century! Women are no longer expected to stay at home; they have taken roles as teachers, doctors, C.E.O.s, part of the military, and the list goes on. As for men, it is now acceptable for them to stay at home, take care of their families or even become nannies and nurses. Will Meek, creator of website “Psychology of Men”, defined gender role as a set of attitudes, behaviors, and self-presentation methods ascribed to members of a certain biological sex. Gender roles have changed throughout the course of American history; both sexes have come so far from sexist stereotypes that resulted from societal expectations that existed in the past.
Let’s talk a little bit about what is male gender role, it is similar to gender-role, however it isn’t just assigned characteristics like gender-role. For many decades the phrase stay-at-home dads was unimaginable. In today’s society for every stay-at-home father there are 38 stay-at-home mothers (Sociology a brief introduction [262]). Along with the gender-role of society, the actual male gender role is slowly changing. With men working women jobs it also sheds light on those men that can now be accepted as being stay-at-home fathers, they go hand in hand together. Men now being able to have different gender roles in society they still feel the need to respond how a society male gender role should respond. For example, those in the women’s job being a teacher, he must not be too much of a “sissy” (Sociology a Brief introduction) he needs to react to situations more stern, as a male should. The effect this also has on society is women having to accept males being capable of having the ability to do their jobs. For instance, a man goes out clubbing and meets a women he claims he is ‘“a carpenter or something” ‘because women were just not into a male nurse. Reality men are not only being able to work women’s jobs, by doing so it expresses to society multiple masculinities. This is men having the
Although single parenthood is on the rise in homes today, children still often have a father role in their life. It does not matter who the part is filled by: a father, uncle, older brother, grandfather, etc...; in almost all cases, those relationships between the father (figure) and child have lasting impacts on the youth the rest of their lives. In “I Wanted to Share My Father’s World,” Jimmy Carter tells the audience no matter the situation with a father, hold onto every moment.
In American culture many people expect those within our society to strictly follow gender roles that have been set in place and anyone who does not follow these roles are often judged harshly. Recently, a friend of mine had a son; her and her husband decided that he would take on the responsibility of being a stay at home father. When I first heard about this I was perplexed by the situation because fathers are “bread winners” for their family, not nurturers. The idea that men cannot be nurturing and mothers cannot be the sole financial support system of the family is deeply ingrained in our culture. Due to society’s idea of masculine and feminine roles, many people struggle with the idea of men and women behaving in ways that do not fit our
...lthy and successful family. If a father is missing from a daughters life they are then considered deprived of a significant amount of love, self-worth, and confidence. The effects of a fathers absence has been demonstrated in the research presented as being damaging to the overall wellbeing of their daughters. It doesn’t matter if the catalyst of the father’s absence is divorce or having a child out of wedlock as a society we need to fix this problem. Before adults decide to have children they need to first prepare for a healthy marriage which includes learning the dynamics of a marriage. The logic behind this would be to decrease the amount of fathers lost to divorce. There are times, for instance death, when the loss of a father is unavoidable, but we need to begin to educate our fathers with the importance and impact they bring to their daughters lives.
A father is someone who protects, loves, supports and raises his children, whether they are biologically related or not. Every single person living on the Earth has a biological father. These biological fathers are supposed to take the responsibility of being a father because they did help bring a child into this world. One of the main responsibilities of a father is providing the child with the necessities of life, which include food, shelter, and clothes. Not only is a father responsible for the physical aspect but the emotional aspect as well. Children need to feel loved, cared for, and emotional support from their parents. A child needs to be reassured, so a father must show his affection, both physically and emotionally. A father needs to be involved in his children’s life. He needs to be a problem solver, playmate, provider, preparer, and he has to have principles. A father has to pr...
The role of a father in his child’s life extends past the knowledge of far too many, and can oftentimes be eclipsed by the role of the mother. Although the mother’s role is essential and greatly valued in a child’s life and development, the father plays a significant role as well. No mother can fill the father’s place in a child’s heart, for fathers nurture and play differently than a mother. Several studies show that an attendant and highly involved father is critical, especially in the early stages of a child’s life. The absence of a father during this stage can lead to “impaired social and behavioral abilities in adults” (Robert, 2013). But what is the role of the father? This paper discusses the role of the expectant father, the birth experience for him, the transition into fatherhood, and the rise of single fathers.
Previously the father’s role was to work and earn money as the primary source of support for the family, while mothers took care of the family by managing the household. The father teaches his children courage and self-confidence while the mother carries over the sense of tenderness to them. Both of them are role models for their children. The male figure, which is the father, is very important in the girl’s life because the good relationship between the father and the daughter will result in being the girl confident and she will start to trust in men and to choose the right person to be her future husband. But the characteristics of individual family members have changed across generations over the past years. Now, mothers are the only or supporting provider for the family. On the other hand, many fathers choose to stay home and take care of the children. Although families all around the world underwent unprecedented modifications that changed the form of nations, there are still traditional family patterns; father, mother, and children. Such huge changes in the structure of the family, immigration, and work have transformed the daily lives of children and their way of living. There are major inferences for the living arrangements of children because of the changing family dynamics. This means that children are not receiving the attention they need from the
Now society expects women to not only be gentle, emotional and nurturing, but also competent, assertive and ambitious and have male “roles”. Women are now more independent. Many have children and are single moms so they are expected to be tough. In the past 40 years or so, women have claimed a wider range of roles, for instance, working. They must balance work and running the household. Obviously, women 's roles have changed, but men roles have not changed very much. In the recent years working mothers have become ordinary, however, stay-at-home fathers exist in only 1% of married couples with kids under age 15, according to U.S. Census Bureau data.(Los Angeles Times, 'Men are stuck ' in gender roles) Although, the number of stay at home fathers did increase in recent years. Jake, a stay at home father picks his daughter 's outfits, fixes her hair, takes her to and from activities and changes her diapers. “While he tells everyone he is very proud to be a stay-at-home dad, Jake said people will give him mixed reactions, some of which seem dismissive.”(ABC, Is Dad the New Mom? The Rise of Stay-At-Home Fathers). Even though it is more common for fathers to stay at home with the kids, they still face traditional stereotypes. People find it strange and not “normal” for dads not to work and not be the dominant one who supports the family. It’s still not acceptable for a man to be “kind,
A mother does not think a father role is important to as a they say because a mother could do everything as male as care for the child could be there as a father figure as a single parent. A mother would not think that a father is a major part in the child lives because she have to do as much as a father. It prove that a mother is a big part of taking care of the child because she
I always think to myself, “What would I do if I didn’t have a father like him?” I think about it and then I say, “I would be in the cracks, not doing anything because there is no one here to keep me going and to keep me motivated.” My dad is an amazing cool person to me because he shows me that no matter what struggles he faces in his life or what happens to him, he always gets out of them and he has me and my mom to help him.