On the Tuesday of the first week of classes in September I received a call from my mother. Something was obviously wrong as she found it difficult to speak without sobbing so naturally I asked what happened. “Your father left me.” That one statement has shaped the way I have lived the past seven months more profoundly than I could have expected. However, the impact of that statement did not hit me until the following Saturday. Every week, I go home to work part time in retail. After work on Saturday, my dad asked if he could talk to me about something. In the middle of the parking lot before I walked to the Quincy Center T station he broke the news to me. Granted I had known for almost a week but his telling me left me dumbfounded. The great family man who had been working so hard to maintain our family’s financial situation while my mom held down the fort was simply giving up. We talked for an hour, then he talked to my mom and headed on his way. I took the mountain bike I had asked my brother to throw in the car for me and rode to the train station, never looking back. Over the subsequent months, my life has not changed all that dramatically. I live in an off campus apartment with a routine weekly schedule and the same roommates the entire time. The only time this event truly affects me when I have contact with my family. My mother has progressively gotten better at handling the loss of her husband of 23 years, but she still relapses occasionally. I try to be there for moral support and as a result hear things that I wish I did not. With nobody else to turn to, I am the wall my mom bounces her ideas, wishes, and problems off of. My fourteen-year-old brother just started high school when this happened and as ... ... middle of paper ... ... I have watched my sister crumble psychologically. I have lost focus in every aspect of my life, harming my performance academically, socially, and personally. The repercussions of this single man’s decision are unfathomable. He thought that the issue was just between him and my mother but that is because he is blind to reality, through ignorance or choice. My family has ties throughout the town we live in and beyond. Not a day goes by that someone asks my mom how her husband is doing, and not a day goes by that she does not cry. It seems that my mind is made up. Until my father decides to man up and admit that he has made the biggest mistake of his life, I will not even consider forgiving him. It would be impossible to do so when I know in my heart that he is wrong and missed out on the greatest years of his life with me, not as a father, but as a friend.
In the result of her brother and father near death from a car wreck, my mother had to stay strong for all the siblings and family. The grief across the family was already bad enough and it wouldn’t have gotten better if it wasn’t for my mom getting mentally strong for everybody and keeping hope. It ended up her dad being fine but as for her brother it would've been a miracle if he lived due to the accident. After his rehabilitation and him getting better the family felt great but no one thought it could’ve gotten worse. Since the car was smashed her brothers head and left him with brain problems, Charles (her brother) forgot who the family was. The doctor and the whole family went through a long process of teaching Charles who they were. Eventually he remembered everything except for everything that had happened 2 years before the car crash. This was an experience that the family was not ready for at all and luckily my mom stayed strong for
It is amazing to know how much studies has been done and the good outcome of the practice on forgiveness intervention with the hope focused couple approach for 20 years (Ripley & Worthington, 2014). The FREE model is based on the forgiveness – based intervention that has been beneficial for many years to help the couple rekindle their love and forgive each other. It can be used with adults, parents, couples and adolescents.
Forgiving someone is a way to release us from the pain they have brought us. Justice can just be
Based on religious texts, expert opinions, and contextual evidence, I would’ve stayed silent to Karl because it serves justice for the despicable crimes done by Karl and the Nazis. I, nor Simon, have the right to forgive Karl for all his heinous crimes on behalf of the Jewish community. Karl didn’t truly repent for his crimes, which is essential in order to achieve forgiveness. Although some people believe otherwise, staying silent was the most neutral position between losing morality, by condemning Karl, and dishonoring the victims, by forgiving Karl.
Darkness is a relentless force that will gradually deteriorate everything it touches unless stopped by a superior power. Darkness cannot mask light, but light can mask darkness by the power of love and grace. Elizabeth Proctor from The Crucible by Arthur Miller is hidden in the darkness by her unwillingness to forgive her husband, John Proctor for lechery. As the Puritans in Salem, Massachusetts are hanged for being falsely accused of witchcraft, Elizabeth discovers grace. In “Arthur Miller’s Introduction to His Collected Plays,” Miller explains, “the sin of public terror divests man of conscience, of himself” (51). The widespread paranoia in Salem leads Puritans to disregard their moral beliefs in order to save their lives. However, Elizabeth
Penance has it's roots even as far back as the day of resurrection when Christ
Case study # 4 says: One of your parents/ family members/ friends has been caught cheating with another person. She/he asks for forgiveness and desires to work through the problem. The worksheet that may be helpful for the case would be the Temptations worksheet. This worksheet talks about more than one example of Jesus being tempted. One temptation was in Matthew 4:1-4 and Luke 4:1-4. The devil is tempting Jesus to turn the bread into stones to prove that he was Jesus after he had fasted for forty days and forty nights. Jesus was famished but did not give in to the temptation but responded by saying, Matthew 4:4… “It is written, one does not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.” Forgiving someone and trying to work through the problem is an example practicing the word of God. Matthew 5:44-45 says, “…Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be children of your Father in heaven…” I’m not saying that cheating one someone is okay and over time if the person keeps cheating I’m not saying that cheating one
Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feeling and attitude regarding an offense; let’s go of negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender. Walter (1984) stated that forgiveness is a voluntary process that usually requires courage and multiple acts of the will to complete. In Walters' view, the person who has been hurt has two alternatives: to be destroyed by resentment which leads to death, or to forgive which leads to healing and life. Sonja Lyubomirsky calls forgiveness is a natural resolution of the grief process, which is the necessary acknowledgment of pain and loss. It is a powerful choice that can lead to greater well being and better relationships.
Is it possible to forgive a wrong done to someone else? Should only those who repent be forgiven?
I believe in forgiveness. To better myself and to make closure with those who have hurt me in unforgiving ways, I will do what seems impossible; I will forgive. I often wonder what goes through ones head when they make fun of others, what the appeal is in another's sadness. I wonder how one can leave marks on another and seem content with their actions. Even more so, I wonder how it was at all possible to forgive such actions. But I guess I have known that answer my whole life because I've been living it, I just hadn't realized it yet.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you have to become friends with the other person, rather it allows you to let go of that heavy burden you feel inside. It allows you to muddle through the difficulties in your life without causing another issue.
Has someone that is a close relative or friend ever been taken away and never to return? The only way you can see or speak with them is by looking at a tomb stone. This is one of the most painful experiences any human being will go through. Most people do not even realize the forgiving and not coping with the pain is a key step in healing and letting go. But if one fails to do so they will be bitter, angry and cold heart for the rest of their life.
Forgiveness is freedom. There is a key that opens the door to healing, happiness and peace, that key is forgiveness. Forgiveness starts from you and it is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Forgiveness of both self and others is the most powerful tool we have, and it is readily attainable to all of us .Take a step of creating a kinder humanity by forgiving someone in your life. If you are convinced and ready to forgive, you may be wondering where to start. My suggestion is to start small by letting go of the grudges, bitterness and anger.
Forgiveness is the act of releasing an offender of any wrong or hurt they may have caused you whether they deserve it or not. It is a decision to let go of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group of people. When we choose to forgive, we’re wiping the slate clean, cancelling a debt, or as I love to say, “Letting it go.” In the Bible, the Greek word for forgiveness literally means to “let it go.” This concept, “forgiveness,” is easier said than done. Majority of people find it very difficult to let go of offenses and hurts caused by others. I really do believe that most people desire to let it go, but we lack the knowledge of how to do it. As believers, we are instructed by God maintain an attitude of forgiveness.
The substance of forgiveness is known to be an important thing and concept in the teaching of Jesus. In the Bible, Jesus has made it clear that unforgiveness is known to be a serious sin nurtured in the heart. As per Jesus Christ, it is said that the person needs to be forgiven even if a serious problem is caused due to him. If not, even we would not be forgiven from God. As per Jesus, if you forgive the sin done by the people, your heavenly will also forgive you if you have committed any sin. We would always want the heavenly father to forgive us for whatever wrong things or the mistakes that we do. In fact, we always think that it is the duty of God to forgive us. However, we never consider that the degree of offence we have done. We always think that he is the God and it is his prime duty to forgive us no matter what we do. But if somebody does the same thing to us, we always feel that it is not important to forgive them we think that we should not let them go just by forgiving them. Hence, the most important thing that needs to be considered here by us is that we should learn to forgive people (...