In the military they prepare their men to be the best they can be for the obstacles they might face when being deployed, or any other orders they might receive. But no one prepared them for being separated from their loved ones. Almost half the men who are deployed and serving our country are married and a little less than half are married and half children (insert citation-demographics chart).So what does it mean for these men? Does it make them a bad parent because they are deployed, or does it just mean they don’t get to be involved in their child’s life in the typical fashion such as seeing them every day, asking them how their day was, missing holidays and birthdays and the big moments in their children’s lives and so on.
Within a single cycle of a soldier’s deployment there are many emotions and factors that play a part of it, especially for fathers. The first step in the cycle is the pre-deployment phase. This consists of lots of stress, for both the soldier and the family members involved. For the gap between finding out they are being to be deployed to actually leaving some soldiers might have a very short and limited time frame between notification and deployment or a very long time, both time spans can have a huge effect depending on factors such as if the parent is single or divorced and how many children or if the family is expecting their first child. The second phase is the looking ahead. _____________________. Next in order is the hardest of them all, the time to say goodbye. The saying, this isn’t goodbye, I’ll see you later isn’t necessarily also true for military personnel and their families. When saying goodbye to children some service members often avoid it all together and leave while the child is asleep...
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... as well as ethnicities. The men were asked about their experience as being in the military as well as a father and how they handled it all. The questions were created from four different sections, their perception as being a father relationship with their child before their deployed, how they communicated with their child or children while away on deployment and what the experience is like when getting to be reunited with their children. Based on the question and answer sessions the __ came up with a way to the different ways a father can be involved in their children’s lives defined as cognitive, affective and behavioral. (thick packet)
Works Cited
DeVoe, E. R., PhD., & Ross, Abigail,M.S.W., M.P.H. (2012). The parenting cycle of deployment. Military Medicine, 177(2), 184-90. Retrieved from http://search.proquest.com/docview/1000457474?accountid=38003
Introduction. Common Attributes of military leaders are just that, common. The accomplished Generals, Colonels and Majors that contributed to the most successful wars of our country have been molded a certain way. They are molded through vigorous training both in scholastic training and in the field along with rigorous mentorship. Colonel Lewis McBride was a rare exception to the rule. As a renowned Chemical museum curator so distinctively puts it, he was, without a doubt, one of the most interesting and industrious officers in the history of the US Army Chemical Corps.
“Tora! Tora! Tora!” – These are the code words which were transmitted by Mitsuo Fuchida to the Japanese fleet signaling that the U.S. Pacific Fleet had been caught by surprise at Pearl Harbour. The attack, which occurred in the early morning of December 7th, 1941, resulted in the United States abandoning its policy of isolationism and entering the war. The U.S. officially declared a state of war between the Japanese Empire and the United States on December 8th, but for those who were at Pearl Harbour, like Thomas Mahoney, the war began on that morning at 8AM (Dunnahoo 5). Mahoney was born in New Jersey and enlisted at the age of 18 in 1940 to the United States Navy along with his brother, Harold. He was eventually stationed aboard the U.S.S. Curtiss at Pearl Harbour as an electrician’s mate when the surprise attack by the Japanese occurred, and went on to serve on board the U.S.S. O’Bannon, the most decorated U.S. Destroyer of World War Two, and where he would see most major actions in the Pacific Theatre including, but not limited to, the Guadalcanal Campaign, the Battle of Leyte Gulf, and the Recapture of Corregidor.
The Non Commissioned Officer (NCO); the "backbone" of the Marine Corps. The driving force behind the battle of Belleau Wood, the battle of Hue City, the fight for Fallujiah, the taking of Marjah and, most recently, the battle against suicide and sexual harassment. No other group of men and women in the world have been called to fight across such a broad area of operation. As we look at the ever-adapting role of the NCO, we must first look to the past. One of the foremost examples that comes to mind is John Basilone. To Marines, Basilone needs no introduction. He was a hero, and Sergeant when he was awarded the Medal of Honor. No words can better describe his heroism than his citation. “For extraordinary heroism and conspicuous gallantry in action against enemy Japanese forces, above and beyond the call of duty, while serving with the 1st Battalion, 7th Marines, 1st Marine Division in the Lunga Area, Guadalcanal, Solomon Islands, on 24 and 25 October 1942. While the enemy was hammering at the Marines' defensive positions, Sgt. Basilone, in charge of 2 sections of heavy machine guns, fought valiantly to check the savage and determined assault. In a fierce frontal attack with the Japanese blasting his guns with grenades and mortar fire, one of Sgt. Basilone's sections, with its gun crews, was put out of action, leaving only 2 men able to carry on. Moving an extra gun into position, he placed it in action, then, under continual fire, repaired another and personally manned it, gallantly holding his line until replacements arrived. A little later, with ammunition critically low and the supply lines cut off, Sgt. Basilone, at great risk of his life and in the face of continued enemy attack, battled his way through hostile lines wit...
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The research supports the theory of a father’s absence having negative effects on the child’s life. Nearly one third of
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