Ever sense I was a little girl I was compared to my other siblings. I was told whenever I was unable to accomplish something at its greatest that at least "I was pretty" and hearing that as a kid is something that you don't forget. It's something that sticks with you for the rest of your life. When I think about growing up I remember how tough school was for me. I know I wasn't the kid that had straight A's. But I was a kid that attended school every single day and tried my hardest. And to most families that would be enough. But what I did was never enough.
Being told at the age of 10 that you will not accomplish much is something that I couldn't even begin to understand at such a young age. Not realizing that the world around me was a sexist ugly place. I was told by my Dad that because I was pretty I didn't have to add up to much and thank God for that because I was never that bright. I know I wasn't the kid that was winning spelling bee's and wasn't in the class honor roll. But I still went to school every day and tried to learn. I had good grades just not the grades that would make my dad happy. Even having A's B's and C's wasn't good enough. Because my siblings had
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I never want to feel like I have to depend on my spouse to keep me afloat. I never want to feel like I'm trapped in a marriage because I can't afford to support me and my family without my spouse. I want to be something with myself one day I want to go to college and have a good job and be able to support my family and myself. And live a nice comfortable lifestyle. I don't want my kids to be uncomfortable to ask me to buy the essentials they need in every day life because I don't have enough money. I want my kids to see me and see that even though I was told that I couldn't add up to much that I am something. I was a kid just like them, and I was told that I would get by because of my
As young girl with big dreams I imagined my senior year of high school to be one of the best years of my life. I imagined going to homecoming with all of my friends, being the captain of the varsity soccer and cheerleading teams, going to Friday night football games, going to Prom with my perfect date, and going on a senior trip with all of my best friends. I never imagined my senior year to be the way that it is. I am the new kid.
In most of my classes I’ve always heard that your parents are the most important people in your life and I truly believe this. People are affected by everything their parents say and do both in childhood and later on in adulthood. If a child is constantly looked down upon and made to believe that nothing they do is good enough, chances are they will grow up believing this and having low confidence. It is remarkable that a child David’s age fought himself from breaking down, dissolving into tears and giving up hope for a better future. David constantly worked towards or rather survived because of a dream, a dream t hat he was a prince and that every...
What is childhood? To some its the upbringing and quality of life given to the child within the first several years of the child's life. In its simplest form, childhood is classified as the age span which ranges from birth to adolescence. During those years of childhood, most children go through various different physical and cognitive changes. According to the famous cognitive developmental theorist Jean Piaget, in psychology, childhood consists of four separate stages of development. Those stages are sensorimotor, pre-operational, concrete operational, and formal operational stages. The sensorimotor stage extends from both to when the child first starts to grasp the concept of language. In the pre-operational stage is when the child starts
My childhood was somewhat gloomy due to an alcoholic father; verbal and physical abuse was part of my upbringing. An event that I remember that shaped my life was when I failed the first grade. As a child I could perceive it, and these events helped to reinforce and mold future behaviors. During my teenage years I had much difficulty with love relationships even at times having inferiority complex after a breakup.
I was confident, but I was overconfident. I had though that I would be able to take on the responsibility of taking care of my niece over the summer, but the truth had proved me wrong. In my imagination, taking care of a child meant providing him or her with basic needs such as food, shelter and playtime. It had never occurred to me that children are in need of love and care just as much as adults do. As I took on the role of being an aunt, I found myself to be completely lost as to how I should approach my five year old niece. I had never felt that way before. During those three months, I learned one very important lesson. Taking care of a child is time consuming and it is not as simple as a reward and punishment system. A child understands what is happening around them and reacts accordingly. Though they may not think the way adults do, they certainly are not unintelligent as they are full of curiosity and creativity.
Personally, I cannot imagine growing up in such a hostile environment. My parents did not abuse me, nor did they discourage me from attempting to succeed. I hated high school, and
On Love Our Children USA’s article they incorporate, “When a child faces something new and succeeds, their self-esteem grows. If most of the time, they hear, "Yes" or "Try it," their self-esteem grows.” If a child keeps succeeding and keeps receiving compliments they will feel capable of doing anything and will keep trying new things. Another author named Amy Tan added the following quote, “In all of my imaginings I was filled with a sense that I would soon become perfect: My mother and father would adore me. I would be beyond reproach. I would never feel the need to sulk, or to clamor for anything.” in her novel titled “Two Kinds”. The quote shows how in the beginning she had a very high spirit and also high self-esteem because she felt ready to make her parents
It was in first grade that I truly learned what the world was like., you are too fat, you are too ugly, we do not like you, you are not cool, you are trailer trash, you are so poor that you have to wear Walmart clothes... Feeling belittled, heartbroken and angered, I walked away with my head down, tears in my eyes and
It is incredible to understand how the way someone was nurtured as a child could have such an effect on there adulthood. I personally believe that the events that occurred in my early childhood were stepping stones to defined me as the person I am today.
“Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage, I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that, Marriage is the most important”. This is a series of lyrics from Beyoncé’s song Flawless. This quote is important because I feel this pressure when I am supposed to talk about ‘a rich and fulfilling life’. I almost feel obligated to mention ‘a family’ as one of my requirements to a rich and fulfilling life. As a woman, society expects me to mention children and a husband to complete my life. However, I don 't want to take the traditional route. To me, a rich and fulfilling life can mean different things. Important values to me revolve around my goals and dreams in life. I think a rich and fulfilling life to me includes
I was criticized for minor things like getting my clothes dirty or refusing to stay still to get my hair done. These comments grew more and more frustrating as I got older and eventually became far more critical with references to how I played, the clothes I chose to wear, and even being told I was too loud and that my interests weren’t normal. When me and my grandmother went to visit other family member’s I would always be asked questions that seemed entirely inappropriate to me as a small child like whether or not I had a crush or a boyfriend but I noticed no one ever asked my male cousins these questions as though their value wasn’t based solely on their ability to attract the opposite sex. My disinterest in things like hair and make-up led to me falling behind my peers when it came to matters of appearance. While other girls were discussing their extensive morning routines I was showering and shoving my unruly hair up into a ponytail. This also meant that I was falling behind when it came to personal relationships as my female friends were discovering boys, boys were treating me like an anomaly. I was consistently asked if I was a lesbian
The video titled “Children See Children Do” highlights many socializing messages which are relevant to contemporary society. The clip displays an adult doing an act which is harmful, and behind is a child who mimics the exact same act. In the first few scenes highlight bad habits which harm the one’s health and the environment. We see adults indulging in a substance out in public such as smoking or drinking a can of pop. The women smoking was smoking indoors, and dropped her cigarette on the floor and walked away. Smoking is a bad habit which is very harmful to one’s health, and exposing children to this may lead them to becoming addicts and have health problems when they grow older. Children are curious and are always look to experiment, and exposing them to harmful things may lead them to trying the act at a very young age. The clip of the who littered the pop can on the ground and continued walking shows carelessness towards the environment. One must understand that when one litters they are not only affecting themselves but all people, as they live in the same environment as we do. A child may not be educated enough to understand the harms of littering, so when an adult does it, it will seem acceptable in the child’s eyes.
Looking back on my childhood, I am better able to “see” just how much influence my parents had on my gender identity. My father always wanted a son, but ended up with two daughters. From the beginning, he did not know what to do with girls in the house. I can remember wanting to be by his side and help with outside chores, but I was always told no. I grew up in the country with lots of space to climb trees and run in the yard, yet again I was trained from the beginning that girls did not do those things. I can remember feeling like I disappointed my dad because I was born a girl. I even went through a faze where I tried to be a tomboy to gain his attention, but that did not work.
I grew up having more than the average kid. My parents bought me nice clothes, stereos, Nintendo games, mostly everything I needed and wanted. They supported me in everything I did. At that point in my life I was very involved with figure skating. I never cared how much of our money it took, or how much of my parents' time it occupied, all I thought about was the shiny new ice skates and frilly outfits I wanted. Along with my involvement in soccer, the two sports took most of my parents' time, and a good portion of their money. Growing up with such luxuries I began to take things for granted. I expected things, rather than being thankful for what I had and disregarded my parent's wishes, thinking only of myself. Apparently my parents recognized my behavior and began limiting my privileges. When I didn't get what I wanted I got upset and mad at my parents somehow blaming them for all my problems. Now don't get me wrong, I wasn't a bad kid, I just didn't know how else to act. I had never been exposed to anything less than what I had and didn't realize how good I had it.
When I was a little kid, I never thought I was different from any of the other children. I knew I was not the smartest kid in my class or the fastest kid on the playground, however I was not the most incoherent or sluggish child either. The first time I