Wes Male Influence

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To begin, a male influence, one provided by a father is important for a boy’s life. A father figure teaches a boy how to treat women in a way that no mother could. Additionally, the author Wes’s father dies when he was only three years old. He was in Wes’s life for a short period, and Wes decided to use the stories and few memories of his father to guide him throughout his entire life. The author writes, “‘ Main man, you just can’t hit people, and particularly women. You must defend the, not fight them. Do you understand?’” (15). This demonstrates that the lack of a father figure had a profound influence on the author as he grew up in a female dominated household with no significant male presence. His father taught him the importance of treating

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