Upbringing By Junot Diaz Summary

Upbringing is an important function in each society. The main aim of upbringing is formation of newborn child’s personality and his subsequent development. Junot Diaz talks about the effects of growing up in a dysfunctional home and how it affects adult relationships. He wants us to be aware of how our upbringing can make us feel lost as adults or how it can be a foreshadowing of our adult selves.

Ever young child will look up to their parents when they are younger, some might be happy with their parent’s parenting abilities, and some while disgusted will mimic those behaviors when they are older because those actions will lie in the unconscious.

David Gates, an American journalist and novelist states that Junot Diaz thinks he doesn't quite

He did it without remorse. This is first seen in Nilda by Junot Diaz, when he tells us Nilda, his brother's girlfriend, has "a chest you wouldn't believe,” this is him practically praising his bother for landing an attractive girlfriend that could make others jealous. He didn’t view it as maybe his bother loved her or anything he felt like looks was the main concern for being with someone. He didn’t go after anyone with his heart, he went for what was on the surface because he spent years dehumanizing women, he didn’t know the difference between physical and emotional attraction. Another example is in Miss Lora by Diaz himself, when Yunior began a sexual relationship with Miss Lora, his neighbor and substitute teacher. "Miss Lora was too skinny. Had no hips whatsoever. No breasts, either, no ass, even her hair failed to make the grade.” Even though Yunior was enjoying the time he spent with Miss Lora, whenever they weren’t having sex, all her “bad” attributes became a problem that he has to mentally analyze and chastise her. Joe Fassler published the article How Junot Diaz Wrote a Sexist Character, but Not a Sexist Book in The Atlantic and he described this as “Yunior lov[ing] these women [and wanting to respect them, because]….he would do anything to keep them if only he knew

He flips through the folder sent to him by his ex-fiancée. He's kept it "hidden under [his] bed," away from us, and himself, because we didn’t learn about it until he took it out. The folder contains "copies of all the e-mails and photos from the cheating days, the ones the ex-found and compiled and mailed to you a month after she ended it." He went through the folder twice. And he admits that he was wrong and he admits that he lied and is hurting. He admits for the first time, even though "it kills" him, his ex was right to