Dreams of Trespass follows the story of a young girl, Mernissi, who was raised in a conventional Moroccan harem that holds realms of enchantment and disparage. Through her day to day life trifles of the harem life are shown. In Mernissi's growing up she is taught by her surrounding elders about the hudud that is often refereed to as the “sacred frontier”. This frontier is expected to be respected out of custom for Muslims. Disrespecting the hudud was to earn sorrow and unhappiness. The hudud though was composed of different kinds of frontiers inside life in the harem some being visible and some not. All of these frontiers were desired to be breached by many women though aforementioned to be an act of transgression.
Mernissi constantly questions the elders in her life, her mother and aunts who all shut her down from asking questions. Some of her questions seem to hold little or no importance and that they are just those of a child. But with further examination, it is really the life in the harem that is being tested. Mernissi's life in the harem is mainly shaped by this frontier that no one was answering her questions about. “In a harem, you don’t necessarily ask questions to get answers. You ask questions just to understand what is happening to you” (Mernissi, 22). The education she received was all centered on knowing the hudud, the frontiers of harem life. This understanding of the hudud pays attention to the culture and cultural practices. In Mernissi's practices, discussion with her family, and composed thoughts of the hudud help her understand how the hudud is a sacred frontier that needs to be respected and obeyed. This concept illustrates the somewhat religious orientation on boundary lines and frontiers. It specifically, ...
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...s have to live clumped together, all striving to gain their own personal identity while constantly being smothered by everyone else. Mernissi's mother dreamed of living alone with her husband and children. “Whoever heard of ten birds living together squashed into a single nest?” Mernissi's mother would say. “It is not natural to live in a large group, unless your objective is to make people feel miserable.” (Mernissi, 77). There is a large indefinite amount of other frontiers that exist in and beyond the walls of the harem, all captivate their own various spheres. The sea between Christians and Muslims (Mernissi, 1), the rules for women when it comes to conventional dressing verses liberal dressing (Mernissi, 85), the frontier between youth (Mernissi, 241) and in conclusion there was even a frontier when it came to listening to the radio in the salon (Mernissi, 7).
This book differs from most ethnographies in that it was not authored by an anthropologist. Fernea originally set out to accompany her husband as he completed research for his doctorate in social anthropology from the University Chicago. Henceforth, Fernea did not enter the field with any specific goals, hypotheses, or particular interests. In many ways, Guests of the Sheik reads as a personal narrative, describing Ferneas struggles integrating into a society that has vastly different expectations and guidelines for women. Fernea recalls the culture shock she first experienced as well as her eagerness to overcome it. Her goals were mainly of a human nature: she wanted to feel a sense of belonging, to have friends, and to establish a life in El Nahra. The first part of Guests of the Sheik largely mimics Fernea's own journey to feeling accepted as it introduces readers to the various groups of women who soon become Fernea's close friends and confidants, most importantly Laila, who will later introduce many aspects of Muslim culture to Fernea. Throughout the book, each chapter emphasizes a different aspect of life as Fernea discovers it, or details an important event. As such, readers experience Ramadan and Eid, two staples of the Muslim culture, Weddings and marriage arrangements, discussions of monogamy and polygamy, the Pilgrimage to Karbala, and many other customs
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All the way through Migdim's incident with arranged marriages, we can understand the old customs that has to do with marriage. It is obvious that, although women were believed to be obedient, they were capable to effectively convince men. Yet, today there seems to be a sign toward polygamous marriages that are eventu...
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Valerie has successfully portrayed the picture of change in gender role within the ethnic community. She has cited an example of Sansei. In the book, it is said that the older generation was purely patri...
A lady is an object, one which men attempt to dominate. A man craves to get a hold of this being beneath his command, and forever have her at his disposal. In her piece “Size Six: The Western Women’s Harem,” published in 2002, Fatema Mernissi illustrates how Eastern and Western women are subjugated by the control of men. Mernissi argues that though she may have derived from a society where a woman has to cover her face, a Western woman has to face daily atrocities far worse then ones an Eastern woman will encounter. Moreover, Mernissi’s core dogma in “Size 6: The Western Women's Harem” is that Western women are not more fortunate than women raised into harems in other societies. Additionally, she asserts that though women in the Western world are given liberties, they coincide with the unattainable ideals of what is aesthetically pleasing. Furthermore, to strengthen her argument towards her wavering audience, Mernissi’s main approach in her paper is to get the reader to relate with her issue by means of an emotional appeal, while also utilizing both the ethical and logical appeal to support her thesis.
The author supports her argument by providing evidence and giving different examples. She compares her own culture with western cultures and describes the invisible harem of western women. She expresses her feelings to convince the audience that women have to stay in harem in all the cultures. By comparing the two cultures she shows how degrading it can be for women to feel as though they must stay thin in order to keep men happy. .