Essay #1 Imagine a person asking a friend for directions through the phone, and that friend is standing next to a church facing southwest of the city. Now, picture the friend telling the person in order to reach his destination, that person must start from the church facing southwest. If this were to happen, the person would be lost. Yet, that is how most people consider things, through their point of view only. They don't take in consideration the perspective of others, because of the assumption that other people are already on one side. Having a healthy perspective allows one to open up a space to digest new information that could give light to new and different opinions or ideas. The inability to take in different perspectives can result …show more content…
A spouse or business person often finds him or herself alone when they are not willing to see things from the other person’s point of view. Everyone wants their voice heard, and in a relationship, whether it’s personal or professional , when one person is too intransigent in their position, the other person feels undervalued. In the movie In the Mood for Love, two neighbors suspect that their spouses are cheating on each other, and they get together every night in an attempt to figure out how their spouses seduced one another. The two neighbors, Mrs. Chan and Mr. Chow, spend a lot of time together, and are increasingly more stuck in their state of mind. Although there is incredibly strong evidence of their spouse's’ affair, this kind of one track mind can lead to other misconceptions and misinterpretation. Mrs. Chan and Mr. Chow are so eager to accept each other’s point of view, that they completely neglected to consider others. Looking at outside perspective, other people could also theorize that Mrs.Chan and Mr.Chow are committing adultery, especially in the more traditionally social China. The two friends fail to realize this perspective, and ultimately, their platonic relationship came with increasing
The first framework that would be beneficial when working with this population is the Dual Perspective Framework. The Dual Perspective Framework is a model that charges the social worker with assessing and understanding the client’s world. While doing so, one must take into account the client’s relationship to not only their immediate family and community, but also to the larger societal system while considering and comparing values, attitudes, and behaviors (Prigoff, 2003, p. 80). Another way to explain the Dual Perspective was presented by Dr. Nimmagadda as part of the diversity section of this course (2015). The contrasting views are also known as the “Nurturing Environment” versus the “Sustaining Environment.” The “Nurturing Environment” can be identified as the individual’s family or immediate extended family, while the “Sustaining Environment” can be identified as how an individual feels other’s view them in the social environment (Nimmagadda, 2015). An individual can evolve and change according to their experiences and interactions in both environments.
If I am not open to their perspective, then I will not be able to help them move past whatever their situation may be. By recognizing that everyone has a different worldview, it will allow me to be more open and understanding towards them.
... to the husband. Yet the reader is presented with woman Wang, who ran away with another man from her husband, Jen. Some of the reasons of her departure could have been neglect from her husband, that she had bound feet and that she had no children. Her actions contradicted any moral wife at that time. After relentless pursuit of happiness woman Wang returned home, there she met her death. The Legal Code justified certain parameters of vengeance on behave of the husband toward his adulterous wife. Nevertheless, Jen was not allowed by the law to simply slaughter his wife. Moreover Jen accused an innocent Kao, for which Jen could have been sentenced to death. Were woman Wang's actions right is for the reader to decide.
One day after doing the Chinese Seamstress’ nails, the narrator longs “to ask if [he] might kiss her red nails when I [he returns] the next day”(152). However, he stops upon reminding himself “of the prohibitions arising from [his] gallant commitment to [his] friend and commander”(152). By this point in the book, the narrator has become comfortable, and accepting of the ideas “of women, love and sex”, as a result of Western books, and more importantly has become comfortable with his environment. The only thing holding him back from giving in to his feelings about the Chinese Seamstress, is his loyalty to his friend. However, now that he’s relaxed, and has exposed himself to these new ideas, he eventually gives in. The narrator slowly succumbs to his feelings, allowing himself to think about the Chinese Seamstress sexualy as shown when one night the narrator abandons “himself in the dark to a betrayal that [leaves] his pants sticky”(157). The narrator fantasizes about the Chinese Seamstress sexually, and in doing so “abandons”, or in other words, gives up on trying to be loyal to Luo. This is only the start, as the narrator allows himself to think more and more about the Chinese Seamstress in this way. By thinking of the Chinese Seamstress in a romantic way, the narrator allows himself to develop a feeling of closeness to the seamstress. This is revealed to reader when upon discovering the Chinese Seamstress is pregnant, the narrator thinks, “I felt as if it were my child...I would have married her myself had the law permitted”(159). The narrator feels such a connection to the Chinese Seamstress, that he feels the baby is his responsibility, and is willing to marry the Seamstress. This shows the vast transformation of the narrator, as he goes from refusing to even entertain any romantic thoughts about
Chang portrays the complexity of Henry’s character by showing the conflict that he faces both in his personal and professional life. His confusion towards his own Cultural identity is noticed in his relationships with his co-workers as well as with his family. His personal relationship with his family, especially with his father and his wife exemplifies the clash between the two cultures which seems to tear Henry apart. Leila, Henry’s wife, seems to epitomize the traditional American Culture which Henry tries very hard to be a part of. Her forthright nature along with the independence and individuality contradicts the stereotypical qualities of an Asian wife. However, Henry’s desperation is seen in his forgiving attitude towards Leila’s action and behavior. His deter...
Another issue that makes Mr. Chu's transition into America so hard is his interactions, or lack there of, with his son's American wife Martha. Martha feels Mr. Chu is a burden to her and her profession as an at home writer and a mother of one. Therefore she doesn't give Mr. Chu the time of day, but instead ignores him completely even though they are living under the same roof. In class we learned that filial piety is an important aspect of Chinese culture.
Chu is the head of his family and the father of three very different daughters. Spending much of his time alone, the widowed Mr. Chu lives a quiet and simple life, obsessively cooking for the family’s weekly dinners on Sundays and whilst doing his daughters laundry as they work at their respective jobs. His single-parent behavior contrasts with the nuclear family values that modernized Taiwanese family structure dictates. Although he holds much authority as a renowned chef in a famed hotel as well as in his home, he occupies both gender roles of mother and father—evidenced by cooking and caring for his daughters. This clearly comes to contrast both traditional and modern Taiwanese gender roles; as a man, Mr. Chu occupies his esteemed head chef position but at home he essentially does chores for his daughters—actions that undermine his dominant male authority. Mr. Chu also represents Taiwan in this situation, showing how the traditional and modern gender roles clash yet manage to continue living with each other. Unfortunately, his volatile daughters feel that they are obligated to stay with him instead of pursuing their own passions. The daughters’ feelings symbolize how the traditional aspect of having a large or extended family holds the younger generation back from their desires for independence. Each daughter also embodies a “juxtaposition of contradictions” in terms of “signs of cultures and influences colliding and synthesizing” (Dilley
In the beginning of the story, the author describes the Chin Yuen's as American in appearance yet Chinese in customs. Throughout the story she continues to describe the deterioration of the Chinese customs by American ideal. This is pinpointed when Mr. Chin Yuen decides to let his daughter marry the boy that she loves. The conversation that Mr. Spring Fragrance has with Young Carman explains that only in American culture is it customary to find love before marriage; in the Chinese tradition, all marriages are arranged. This clearly exemplifies the manner in which the Chinese characters are more and more disregarding their Chinese culture and taking on this new American standard of living. Ironically, Sui Sin Far conveys the notion that the American tradition is not necessarily better than the Chinese tradition. More so she demonstrates the struggle of identity between two worlds that both make sense. Though Laura and Kai Tzu have found their happiness in the American tradition of marriage, the reader discovers that Mr. and Mrs. Spring Fragrance are equally as happy even through the Chinese tradition of marriage.
It all started during the year of 1940 in South Carolina, an unfortunate mill worker Noah Calhoun (Ryan Gosling) and a rich girl Allie (Rachel McAdams) fall profoundly in love. Allie’s parents disapprove of them being together, and they are soon separated because of their social differences. Allie went off to a women’s college while Noah went to serve in World War ll, and they both thought their relationship was over. Allie volunteered as an army nurse, where she met a wealthy man and he proposed to her shortly after they met. Several years later Noah comes back into town to work on the house he promised Allie as their future home. Allie saw a picture of Noah
The 1991 movie My Girl tells the story of 11-year-old Vada Sultenfuss who, having lost her mother at birth , lives with her dementia-ridden grandmother and her job-oriented father in the funeral parlour that he owns and operates. The story follows Vada, an extreme hypochondriac who has many strange misconceptions about death, through a variety of life-changing experiences, including the engagement of her father and the devastating loss of her best friend, Thomas Jay. Through these experiences, the audience witnesses Vada’s social, emotional, and intellectual growth, as well as her changing views of death.
Can once in a lifetime happen twice? Can two people get a second chance at love? While reality more than likely suggests no, some movies would suggest otherwise. The films An Affair to Remember and Serendipity are only two examples of how society depicts romance as an exaggerated fabrication of reality only to have a negative effect on its viewers. Both films share the storyline of two lovers who separate, only hoping that fate will bring them back together As the film Serendipity begins, Sara Thomas and Jonathon Trager meet each other for the first time at Bloomingdale’s. Conversation sparked between the two when both reached for the same pair of gloves. Enjoying themselves at Bloomingdales, Sara and Jonathon decide to further their discussion at a nearby restaurant called Serendipity. Here, Jonathon realizes that he wants to see Sara again and politely asks for her phone number. Instead of just handing her number over, Sara writes in down on the inside cover of book, which she then tells him that she will sell the next day at a used bookstore. She continues to explain to Jonathon that if they are truly meant to see each other again, the book will find him. Jonathon then opens his wallet to take out a dollar bill. He writes his phone number on it and gives it to Sara, who spends it immediately. Using the same logic as before, she tells him that the dollar bill will find it’s way to her. As the years pass, the two both go on living their lives. But, Sara and Jonathon can’t seem to shake the feeling of each other. Every time Sara has a dollar bill, she always looks for a phone number and Jonathon can’t count all the used bookstores he’s been to. They both eventually meet someone new and become engaged. They wonder if these people they plan on marrying are their true soul mates. The night of Jonathon’s wedding rehearsal, he fiancé gives him a present. Opening it slowly, he comes to realize it’s the title of the book Sara had once written her phone number in. He opens the front cover and he reads Sara’s name and number. Meanwhile, Sara is on an airplane returning home from visiting a friend. Pulling out her wallet, she discovers that she doesn’t have her wallet, but she has mistakenly taken her friend’s.
Egocentric bias is the tendency to see things from one’s point of view or perspective, leading to a distorted view. This creates problems for individuals because they may view themselves in more of a positive, or negative, light depending on the situation. In some situations, individuals will view themselves as a target or a victim of something that is completely unrelated to them. It also can cause individuals to think their ideas are better than another group members.
While working at the silk factory he would notice a very pretty woman whom worked at the little snack shop. He noticed her because every time something happened to her she would let out a little cry of “Aiya!”. This woman’s name is Xu Yulan, also known as “The fried dough queen” (Hua 21). She was well known around the town for always changing her outfit three times a day. One day Xu Sanguan finally go the nerve to talk to Xu Yulan. Xu Yulan noticed that Xu Sanguan was talking to a man about a show and when she turned back around he was still there staring at her. She said “Why are you staring at me like that? And smiling that way to! (Hua 23) The reason he was staring at her that way was because he wanted to treat her to a treat. Even though the fried dough queen didn’t know Xu Sanguan the next day she let him treat her to a nice meal. A meal at which cost Xu Sanguan eighty-three fen. After totaling the price of the meal up Xu Sanguan asked Xu Yulan when they were going to get married. She was quick to reply in telling him that they could not get married, and if she knew that he was going to want her to marry him because of how much he spent she would have never ate (Hua 24). “I cannot
Needless to say, men and women operate differently. The differences can be an outstanding positive in a relationship, but only if the couple works together and uses each other’s individual talents. Typically, women, as relationship-oriented beings, are more inclined to reason with emotion, while men tend to stick to logic. Couples can acquire cohesive, practical decisions by collaborating the two points of view (Dayton 20). When couples fail to heed to each other’s views, both spouses feel the pressure, but not as a team. This change of perspective is the leak that allows a flood of problems to soon roll into the marriage.
They cannot live without each other. For instance, Muna is a friendly and humble woman, who easily makes a new friend with her colleague, Matt, who once helps her when she fell down. Additionally, she also has a good relation with the school principal, Mr.Novatski, even without sufficient English she is able to communicate with him. He is also the one who helps Fadi when he gets trouble at the police station. Moreover, when the Chinese Embassy arrests Li CunXin because of his marriage with a western girl, an American Lawyer helps him to be able to stay in the United States yet still permitted to return to China. Through several contradictions between the Chinese Embassy and the lawyer, eventually Li CunXin is allowed to live in both countries. This represents that having good friends are very helpful and bring some advantages for