The Ideal And Real Of Marriage By Mehanie Coontz Summary

“The Ideal and Real of Marriage” by Stephanie Coontz discusses the evolution of marriage and how the social context is changing. The thesis of this article is marriage has changed in the past 30 years than 3,000 years because people marry for love. The next article

“Why Your Marriage Sucks” by Amanda Fortini she gives a breakdown as to how much hard work and sacrifice it takes to sustain a marriage. The thesis is it’s easy to glean that we currently inhabit a vast and bleak landscape of marital discontent. In my opinion, marriage has changed in the past 30 years than 3,000 because people are not marrying for love and it is easy to find that we now live in a society of marital unhappiness. Coontz states that changes in marriage have taken different forms depending on culture, religion, political background, and economic conditions. People who are committed to traditional family life and communities that have laws and values to penalize departures from older norms have been caught up in these marital changes (Coontz 477).

In today’s society we think of marriage as a dating game, once we get tired we leave. In my opinion, people are marrying for the wrong reasons and that’s one of the reasons why we marital unhappiness. Speaking from someone who’s married, there will be times that you want to throw in the towel but it’s up to you and your spouse to fight for your marriage. Other reasons that can contribute to an unhappy marriage is a lack of spontaneity, lack of romance, terrible sex life, no time to give each other attention and communication. Loh states when everyday life has become so intrusive, when both parents work out of the home, the circumstances that allow for intimacy and passion are imperiled (Fortini 501). In a nutshell, marriage takes sacrifice (lots of it) and appreciation of one