The Collapse In Fatherhood In Things Fall Apart By Chinua Achebe

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The Collapse in Fatherhood in Things Fall Apart In Things Fall Apart by Chinua Achebe, we see a breakdown between a father and son relationship which created a very detrimental effect. A relationship between a father and son can have a decidedly profound impact on each other’s lives. Whether this relationship is bifurcated, the psychological effects of having intimate or inadequate parenting skills can have a nurturing or depriving effect on a child 's personality from birth all throughout adulthood. The carved figure of a son that Okonkwo had hoped for was erased due to his egoistic character and terrible parenting skills. The most prominent and compelling theme in the novel originates from the main character Okonkwo and his ongoing …show more content…

I began to farm at your age. I will not have a son who cannot hold up his head in the gathering of the clan. I would sooner strangle him with my own hands '" (Achebe 59). This is an inappropriate and harsh way for a father to discipline his son. Whether corporal punishment was accepted in the Ibo culture or not, Okonkwo’s verbal and physical abuse weakened the relationship with Nwoye until he left for the missionaries. Although Okonkwo seems to want what was best for his son Nwoye to prosper as a real man, I believe that it is immoral to impose control through violence or threats thereof. When it comes to parenthood, Okonkwo has tunnel vision which inevitably led him disgracing his son and making mistakes as his own father did. “I will not have a son who cannot hold his head in the gathering of the clan. I would sooner strangle him with my own hands. And if you stand staring at me like that,” he swore, “Amadiora will break your head for you!” (Achebe 60). This iterates the brutal way that Okonkwo treated his son and reinforces Okonkwo’s deplorable parenting skills. In the story there was also an atrocious and tragic incident where Okonkwo killed his adopted …show more content…

“Nwoye turned round to walk into the inner compound when his father, suddenly overcome with fury, sprang to his feet and gripped him by the neck ” (Achebe 240). This incident provides further proof of the father’s antipathy and impatience with his son which could have resulted in his death was it not for the uncle’s intervention. Analyzing this story, it can be perceived that Nwoye was estranged from the folklore and creed of the clan. He undermines his father’s social approval and rejected everything that he stood for. Okonkwo’s death came exactly as Nwoye was becoming cognizant of his function within the clan and started to develop a sense of self- awareness. Overall, Okonkwo failed in his quest to raise his son uprightly lost his son by virtue of his own shortcomings. His rejection of his father’s lifestyle formulated a strange parallel rejection of his own son. Should Okonkwo have placed less emphasis on his title, Nwoye would not have ran away to pursue an alternative lifestyle, separate and alien to his clan. As exhibited in the anecdote, good parenting abilities are vital to maintain a viable relationship with children. The value of a father in children’s life should never be miscalculated or

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