I have been playing sports for as long as I can remember, from taekwondo to swimming to basketball to everything. Every time a game or tournament came up I knew that my parents would be at those events, criticizing every one of my moves. I vividly remember one time, I was at my taekwondo tournament, after performing I looked over to my parents at the sidelines to see their reaction on my performance and I remember them being upset and angry at me. At that moment, I was not looking forward to the car ride back home because I knew that I was going to get an earful. The rest of the event was ruined for me because I simply did not have any interest left due to what was going to happen later on. Needless to say, parents should skip out on attending their kids’ games/events unless they can be supportive and quiet. In Peter Berg’s documentary titled, State of Play: Trophy Kids, …show more content…
Overall, I would agree with what Berg was trying to expose in his documentary because I have met parents like the ones he gave an example about above. For example, my parents are somewhat like Amari’s father who kept giving her feedback that was hurtful and in the end, she would just want to cry or not be interested in her sport. Just like her my parents would do the same and that resulted in me not wanting to do swimming or taekwondo. Now I have seen parents like Derek’s and Justus’ but I find it hard to believe that there are parents like Blake and Tanner who believe that someone else like God would the one to help them. I just find it very different instead of the parent encouraging her kids and helping them she just says that “God would be the one to help them.” Since, I have never seen a parent act like this where they believe some other factor would be their child succeed, I feel like I am inclined to believe that this type of behavior does not really
In a growing trend that reaches to all corners of the athletic world, coaches are being forced to cope with the added stress of disgruntled parents. More and more they are required to defend personal coaching styles and philosophies, uphold team decisions and go head to head with angry, and sometimes violent parents. The pressure has gotten to the point where coaches all over the country are quitting or being forced out of their jobs by groups of parents. High school athletics should be about learning and having fun, and when parents cross the line between cheerleader and ringleader everyone suffers.
No father is perfect. Every father has his own strengths and weaknesses. Each father shows his love for his children in different ways and at times, well hidden, at other times, obvious. In Chaim Potok’s thought-provoking book, The Chosen, three fathers named David Malter, Reb Saunders, and Roger Merrit appear in the story. Each one of them shows the striking differences among the ways they raise their children. Just because one father’s way of rearing up a child seems different from another’s does not necessarily mean it is wrong. In their own unique ways, all three fathers show the importance of fulfilling the role as a father.
My personal family was extremely big in basketball. Both of my parents played basketball in highschool, my father has coached basketball for over fifteen years. So naturally I played basketball as a young child, my childhood was centered around basketball. I would go to watch my dad coach his high school almost everyday when I was younger. I played in recreational leagues when I was young, i was eventually invited to play on a traveling basketball. After all this you can imagine the shock when I did not show up to my first middle school practice, and told my parents I was going to wrestle. My parents were upset and said I was a waste of talent, they eventually got use to my decision and support me in my new endeavour. This decision took a lot of courage, and caused a lot of backlash, but I have never regretted it for a
Parents have a tough role raising our world’s next generation. Lori Gottlieb is a psychologist who studied the impact parenting has on children. In her article “How to Land Your Kids in Therapy” Lori explains that when she was in school, she was taught that the worst kind of parenting was when parents neglected their children. Lori then goes on to mention that she has found it increasingly more common to find young adults seeking therapy who had “perfect” parents, but they find themselves unhappy. Parents have adopted a new contemporary style of raising their children; preventing them from growing up with normal human emotions and feelings, which is very destructive to their growth in to adults. These children are just not ready to deal with the real world.
The amount of unnecessary behavior by parents at youth sporting events is increasing rapidly and is ruining the kid's experiences and their passion for the sports. Parents in the United States are becoming more involved in their children's sports than the kids themselves. The reason that so many young American athletes are quitting at such an early age is because their parents are making the sports a joyless experience and are placing too much pressure on the kids to win and to be the best. Parents have become out of control at youth sports and it seems that the kids are showing more civility than the parents these days. Parents need to get back to teaching their kids that sports should be played for fun and not just for showing who's the best.
Before I started cheering, both of my parents never knew how much goes into being a cheerleader. Though soccer was the sport I grew up playing, I ended up quitting to try out for cheerleading in seventh grade. I made the squad that year and I immediately became attached to cheerleading, though my parents did not know how to react exactly. Of course they were happy for me since it was something that I wanted to do, but it was not soccer. My dad did not consider cheerleading to be a sport in the beginning, claiming that “there is no team quality to cheering.” It was safe to say that he did not necessarily like that I quit soccer to take up cheering since he did not consider cheerleading to be a real sport. I have learned that going against tradition and conformity is difficult, but is worth it in the end.
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As a general rule, parents are much more critical than they lead you to believe. Parents want to have a successful team where their child plays 100% of the game and is coached by the most knowledgeable coach in the league. Winning parents over can be difficult; hence, they can become a coaches biggest ally or worst nightmare. Just such a situation occurred when I drafted my first softball team. Sitting at the table with all the other coaches, I was encouraged to select a particular player acknowledged as an excellent pitcher with irascible parents. I needed a pitcher so I took her and after our first workout I found out just how bad-tempered they were. Fortunately, I was prepared and had a solution that would keep me in their good graces and allow me the room I needed to develop the team. I created a position on the field that they enjoyed, which kept them occupied, and that benefited me as a coach. My problematic parent’s became the team statisticians recording all data for games and practices. With a little ingenuity, I averted a potentially disastrous scenario; however, the best advice for preserving a positive group of parents is for them to see an enthusiastic leader. Even in the face of defeat your sportsmanship and attitude should be one that is admired by parents and players
In most of my classes I’ve always heard that your parents are the most important people in your life and I truly believe this. People are affected by everything their parents say and do both in childhood and later on in adulthood. If a child is constantly looked down upon and made to believe that nothing they do is good enough, chances are they will grow up believing this and having low confidence. It is remarkable that a child David’s age fought himself from breaking down, dissolving into tears and giving up hope for a better future. David constantly worked towards or rather survived because of a dream, a dream t hat he was a prince and that every...
My family member chose not to play sports. She had grown up in a large family with strict values. Later in high school, her brother and her were left in Ohio while her parents traveled to and from West Virginia for weeks at a time. This was her first taste of freedom. It lead to a less than stellar attendance record which would have precluded her from participating in sports, let alone her disinterest in
Remember the days where the kids used to holler and run in the park, and swing in playgrounds on nice summer afternoons while the parents sat on benches. Maybe they had a soccer lesson after and played a basketball match with friends at YMCA. But today, kids run with sports gear to tournaments conducted by "elite" Little Leagues, while the parents who drove all over town to find the stadium settle down into the bleachers ready to observe every move their kid makes in the game. And of course, they share their complaints to other fellow parents about the coach, who is getting paid half of their paycheck. After a gruesome match on a field that is way too big for the kids, the parents provide some Greek Yogurt and ample of suggestions on how to
In Uri Friedman’s conversation with Robert and Sarah LeVine, the authors of “How Much Do Parents Matter?”, they discussed what the purpose of a parent is. Through their entire conversation the LeVines claimed that parents are just ‘sponsors’ for their children and that they don’t matter as much as we think. Robert and Sarah want to promote parents to be more of a sponsor to their children, rather than a role model. They said that parents mattered but in a different way. A child would be hopeless without their parent. Just think of it, if the parent was a sponsor of their child, the child wouldn’t be raised correctly. There wouldn 't be that satisfying feeling of always
A parent is not only the loving mother who holds you close to her for nine months and then many years, or the dad who plays baseball with you and intimidates his daughter’s dates. It is someone who is there for you from the start, guiding you to the right path of knowledge and teaching you how to stay on the right path independently. A parent does not need to have any biological associations to the child in order to be a parent to them. A parent must have certain characteristics to be rightfully called a parent. For many years psychologists have defined ways to correctly support a child to adulthood for parents all over the world. Some people conclude their practice of parenting their children after the child reaches the age of 18, and some have the duty as a lifelong job. As years pass so do generations and media changes very constantly and plays a factor in how children act and respond to certain stimuli. There was a study done in 2009 and people in Poughkeepsie had answered a poll that revealed overall every age group finds it harder to raise a child in today’s day and age than it had been in previous generations, but the older the parent is, the longer the generation gap would be and that factors in the difficulty of understanding how media works with a child’s psychological set up. What a child watches on a television screen is what the child will imitate through behavior. However, parenting is not a book written by a doctor, parenting is having a family, and creating memories, also ensuring that your children live in a nourishing environment for their emotional, mental, and physical health. The accepted goal of a parent is to ensure that their child or children grow to be mature and able to both support themselves and a f...
A parent putting his/her child in sports gives the child something to do and keeps them fit. Parents also put their child in a sport hoping that he/she will get success out of it “Eager to nurture the next A-Rod or Michelle Kwan, parents enroll their 5- or 6-year-olds in a competitive sports league or program” (Stenson). While not all parents are pushing for future Olympians, the fight for a sports college scholarship is competitive and parents may feel that their child will have a better chance of gaining one if he/she starts competitive sports early. Parents push their children to succeed, and children—not wanting to disappoint their parents—push themselves, sometimes harder than they should. If done right, pushing a child into sports can have a positive effect on the child’s interaction with other children while teaching them commitment and healthy competition.
With more and more children participating in some sort of organized sport than ever before, there is a constant concern regarding the pressures kids are brought into to excel. Emotionally over-involved parents often think that it is their responsibility to persuade, push, or support the children's fantasies or sporting objectives, even if the kids themselves do not share the same aspirations as his/her parents. Part of growing up is learning what interests you the most. It's how one becomes familiar with who they really are and what they enjoy doing in life. Unfortunately, for many young children, his/her parents seem to take his/her own lives into their own hands. Most parents want their kids to grow up to be "superstars", make it big after the college scenario, and perhaps go on to play professionally or succeed in the Olympics. We all know that there are the few that make it professionally, and having your parent paint a picture for you as you're barely going into grade school is unethical. Yet for the unfortunate, these kids are helpless to the pressure that is put on them at such a young age. Take Todd Marinovich, for example. For the child's entire life he was exercised, fed, schooled, and drilled with his fathers' one g...