: A popular Jamaican quote which says “Ben di tree while it young, cause when it old it a go bruk,” written by an unknown author simply means that you should discipline your children and teach them the right way when they are young, because trying to do it when they are older might be too late for them and yourself. This quote brings out the essential meaning of the movie “Gifted Hands” as Ben’s mother pushed him to greatness while he was a child growing up in a lower-class family. It is a great and inspiration film as it brings out all the themes and current happenings today for example single parenting which is a prevalent social issue in Jamaican society and around the globe. As a child growing up, Ben faced a lot of issues …show more content…
“I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13. This popular bible verse speaks about determination and the righteousness of God. We can aspire to be anything we want in life and meet any goal we desire if we have God in our life. Ben wasn’t the brightest student in his class, he received bad grades and felt that he was dumb. But he didn’t give up, he was very determined and passionate about his goals. He loved science and desired to become a doctor and he read many books and educated himself. Ben was very eager to learn and discover new things, concepts and ideas. He started to improve in school and got better grades. His mother pushed him to greatness as she was that driving force in his life and because of his passion and desire for greatness, he fulfilled his goals. His mother was always telling him, “You can do anything anyone else can do, only you can do it better.” These were the words of inspiration that paved the way to success for him. When he became a doctor, and started his internship he was never qualified to do a lobectomy, and he operated on a patient without permission and if the man had died his career would have ended, but instead he was congratulated on taking the proper action and he never limited himself. Ben didn’t listen to what others had to say about him; the white kids in his class told him that he was dumb, but he didn’t listen to them instead …show more content…
Today, single parenting seems to be a prevalent issue. Ben’s mother underwent so many struggles in life. She was a foster child and got married when she was thirteen years old and found out that her husband was cheating on her and divorced him. She was illiterate and at times called herself dumb, she feared that her two children would turn out like her. As a single mom, she was the main driving force in her sons’ life. She even became strict because she was serious about her sons’ education. She wanted them to achieve what she couldn’t when she was younger. She was an authoritative parent as she gave them reading assignments to complete and allowed them to study their time tables. Because of her parenting style and her role as a single mother Ben excelled in school and defied the odds. Natalie C. Ernst in her article “The Psychology of Parenting styles” stated that “Authoritative parents are classified as the healthiest parenting style…they are demanding and responsive, assertive but not intrusive or restrictive…It also has an influence on psychological maturity while often helps children perform better in
... rewards to those who have faith and believe in Him. We should hold true to our faith in God and believe that he will come through for us even in difficult times. If we stand strong through the trials and tests that God chooses to lay upon us, He will exalt us. As well, the example of Moses is conformant to our world today because he shows that God does not condemn those who have sinned against Him. Instead, God chooses to forgive us and look beyond our mistakes. This shows that God still has respect and compassion for those who have made mistakes. Even if we have done wrongdoing, we can still be chosen to be in the Kingdom of God. Finally, the story of David explains that we can all be heroes in the eyes of God even if we are just ordinary people. As long as we believe in ourselves and have trust in God, we can still be successful. Status or strength does not matter in the point of view of God; it is compassion and love that God looks for in each of us. We can lead normal lives but yet still be a king or a queen in the eyes of God. The Hebrew Scriptures will always have a lesson for us, no matter how much our world changes and these lessons are eternally applicable to our lives.
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...istics, 1999). McBride, Brent A., Sara K., Sullivan, and Ho-Ho (2005) reported about the achievement levels in a adolescent who grows up with a father, “A study of 1330 children from the PSID showed that fathers who are involved on a personal level with their child schooling increases the likelihood of their child's achievement. When fathers assume a positive role in their child's education, students feel a positive impact.” (p. 201-216). Children who do not grow up in a two parent homes, are more likely to fail and repeat a grade in school. It is also important to note that children who grow up in single parent families are less likely to have parents involved with the school, 62% of children with two parent homes have parents that are involved in school, while children from single parent homes have half of them involved in school (Nord, Winquist, West, 2001).
Authoritative style remains high in all four domains. Authoritative parents’ use of appropriate discipline such as using time-out or mild punishment ensures their children’s independence along with children’s compliance with parental demands. Compare to children with any other parenting styles, children raised by authoritative parents have higher self-esteem, self confidence, and better grades in elementary school, high school, and college. They are also less likely to abuse alcohol or tobacco as adolescents. In general, children of the authoritative parenting style show more altruistic
The students who do not have the parent support and role models as young children are less likely to succeed in life. Children from single parent homes are more likely to use and abuse drugs (Hoffmann “The Community Context of Family Structure and Adolescent Drug Use”) as well as twice as likely to commit suicide and/or have a psychiatric disease (www.webmd.com). One of the ways that teachers can reach and influence these students is through afterschool programs. 57% of students from single parent homes are enrolled in some form of after school program from grades 1 through 5 (Working Families and Afterschool A Special Report from America After 3 PM: A Household Survey on Afterschool in America 2). Children often learn their social skills from watching their parents interact with others. Later in life, these may influence the jobs that they are offered and received as their potential employer evaluates how they communicate in an interview or in their interactions with others. Raymond
To begin with, of the four Baumrind’s parenting styles, authoritative, authoritarian, permissive and disengaged, I chose authoritative. Authoritative parenting has a high level of demandingness while at the same time exerts the same amount of responsiveness leading to a child who is independent, creative, well-balanced, and leads a relatively social lifestyle. I feel that laying down rules and expectations for a child gives them the guidance they need at a young age or they will be left to guide themselves blindly leading to irresponsibility, impulsiveness, and a tendency to engage in substance use. Equally important is a parent needs to warm, attentive, and not only say they love their children but express through actions and understanding as well (Arnett, 2016).
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.
The authoritative style is known as the “ideal” parenting style and it seems to make more children come out with high ranks of self-reliance and self-esteem, who are socially accountable, liberated, and achievement-oriented according to Education .com. Authoritative parents set clear expectations and have high principles. They keep an eye on their children’s behavior, use discipline grounded on reasoning, and inspire their children to make choices and learn from their mistakes. They are also warm and nurturing parents, giving their children kindness, respect, and affection (Greenwood, 2014). These parents supply firm and constant guidance, united with love and affection (Coon & Mittterer...
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...” (271). Hester had effectively raised a youngster to become something that was not expected. Despite being shunned upon on, Hester found a way to positively show Pearl moral lessons with the scarlet letter. Even when the townspeople wanted to take Pearl away from her mother, they were not triumphant to do so. The mother’s life was solely about Pearl; to keep her protected, warm, fed, clothed and loved. My conclusion, which is that based on the success of Pearl’s life, is that a single mother can raise a child. A single parent has the capability to nurture and love a son or daughter just as two parents can. A single parent sometimes is the best choice of who the minor can be with. A single parent may have challenges, but they can overcome them just to keep the child they love alive and well. Is it time now to realize what a single parent can truly accomplish?
Successful parenting may be judged by many different standards. Raising a child to be a respectful, mature, and independent adult requires a great deal of effort. There are several parenting styles, and not all lead a child to reaching their full potential. Overpowering sternness leads may lead to a rebellious child, while passive parenting may lead children to inept for the challenges of adulthood. Parenting requires more than teaching children submissiveness, or building of self-importance. Children learn best from a role model who is admirable. Parenting is a great opportunity to set the course of one’s entire life in the right direction.
The slightest dysfunction in a family structure can be detrimental to a child’s development. Children often act out and take part in delinquent activities. In order to increase a child’s chance to succeed in life, they must be raised in a stable environment involving two parents. This helps them to feel included in the family and will help build their confidence and independence later in life.
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
The Family structure has changed significantly in the last fifty years. With higher percentages of marriage ending in divorce, and higher rates of childbearing out of wedlock, single parent families are increasing rapidly. “Seventy percent of all the children will spend all or part of their lives in a single-parent household.” (Dowd) Studies have shown that the children of these families are affected dramatically, both negatively and positively. Women head the majority of single- parent families and as a result, children experience many social problems from growing up without a father. Some of these problems include lack of financial support, and various emotional problems by not having a father around, which may contribute to problems later in life. At the same time, children of single-parent homes become more independent because they learn to take care of themselves, and rely on others to do things for them.
Parenting styles have the capacity of influencing a child’s social, cognitive, and psychological growth, which would then affect the child both in their childhood years, and as an adult.