I have a name, it is not my given name but it carries with it great pride and love, to some it means nothing, to me it's a gift and an ongoing accomplishment, my name is mommy. Before I was a parent I did not understand how being a parent could be work, babies do nothing but sleep, toddlers just draw, then when they are a little older you shove them off to school and teenagers are never home. Piece of cake, right? Of course, now being a parent I realize that I never truly understood what the word busy meant and that "Nothing was true about me until now" (Versulys). I once would take hours primping myself before I graced the world with my presence, not a hair out of place, make-up on just right, changing at least five times before I decided which outfit complimented me the best. I would go out with friends to the bar, parties, talk about the latest gossip working its way through the rumor mill, constantly checking my appearance "just incase." Now on the other hand, my childless friends (the rarities that I see them anymore) say to me that I'm missing out on life, that I always look like I just woke up, and I always look like I'm in a hurry. I look at them and just smile, because they don't realize how much they are missing out on life. Being a parent changes your perspective on everything, it takes your whole world and flips it upside down. But what you don't first realize is that what it's actually doing is making the pieces fit into the right spots, instead of where you tried to make them fit before, and it fills up gaps you didn't know that you had. I see the world in a whole new light in every area. I've realized that babies do and need much more than sleep, that skirts are not good to wear chasing a three year old but jeans are a wonderful invention, my best friend is a hair clip, that it only takes six minutes to put my hair up and put on just enough make-up to cover up that I haven't slept well in three years, quick trips to the corner store now take at least fifteen minutes, and there are no easy toys to put together.
Everybody always has two names: one from their parents and one from their friends. The name that is given by
“Be who want to be,create a name for yourself”(Unknown). Being one is the greatest gift to society. Creating a name for one is important and key to striving in throughout society. A name will never define someone as a person. The person will define the name. The article “ ‘Black’ Names: A Resume Burden?” by Bootie Cosgrove- Mathers discusses, the burden many parents of color face when choosing their child 's name. The stereotypes set out throughout society on if a parent of color should name their children “black” sounding names is significant. Parents of color should name their children “black” sounding names to embrace their black identity, bring across equality, and end the negative stereotypes that come with “black” sounding names.
Back in the day when I was very little, I remember that my dad used to take care of me. He would never let me run around the house when glass could off break and hurt me. As I kept growing up my father started to give more freedom but also gave me more responsibilities; like he wanted me to do the chores of the house, not all of them but some. I knew they were not mine to do but I still help. When I went off to college and I had to do all by myself, I realize that my father did good on making me do my laundry, chores and etc., when I was young. Besides I knew that I had to do my chores for me to go out with friends. Although I had this kind of responsibilities at a young age I can say that it helped in life. But because some parents overprotective their children and they are not exposing to real life, children might not know how to function in society when their parents die.
“Can you imagine what a mess a world would be without names? (website)Names are very important to a person and their individuality. Ayn Rand’s novel “Anthem” is a book in which the people written about do not have names. The importance of having your own individual names is huge. A name can have meaning given to it, like how the name Sue means lily. Most parents when giving you your name have a meaning behind it and put much thought into what their future child should be named. Names can give you a part of your identity.
...hat so-and-so does that better/differently/faster/more competently than you at least once a shift. You will have to explain your actions most of the time and nor only to the child but to the parent too. Kids wrap themselves around your heart and get into your head. When they laugh at something we say, it makes us feel great. When they want a hug before we leave the room, it makes us feel special. When they come back to visit months after discharge and have grown so much you have to look at mom to make sure it's the same kid, it's like no other feeling. When they get really sick, you suffer and when they die, you grieve. They keep us human.
Parenthood is the hardest job anyone could ever have and it demands the constant attention of two loving parents, but what happens when one parent is left with the care and responsibility of a child. Well my mother had the burden of raising two kids, holding down a full-time job, and attending school. With her busy schedule it was hard on me because I was on my own almost of the time that I needed help whether it was to feed myself or if I needed help with homework. My mother knew I was having a hard time acclimating to our new situations so she took it upon herself to teach me to become as self sufficient as a 9 year old boy could be. I first saw this as a disadvantage, but quickly learned that it had become a blessing in disguise. Under the
As a maturing adult I now realize the importance of having a strong parental foundation. Throughout my life there have been moments where both parents demonstrated the characteristics of all four basic parenting styles. However, as I aged it became apparent that my parents had successfully found their niche in a parenting style that was analogous with their personality and beliefs. In my father's case it was the authoritative parenting style. With this style he captured my trust and respect; never letting me down. Furthermore, it was my mother's permissive parenting that undeniably contributed towards my love and gratitude for her. There were also instances where my parents influenced my life both positively and negatively. Nevertheless, I am forever grateful for having my parents in my life, for they contributed (and continue to contribute) towards my success as a growing adult.
Growing up I was always told to enjoy being young; now I see why. A plethora of young teens today become pregnant in high school. I just so happen to be one of those girls. I would have to say it was a life changing experience for me. As a result, the parallelism between the aspects of my life as a teenager and as a teen mom are stress, responsibility and my emotions.
Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life. That has all changed now. I no longer party or use drugs. I work full time, attend college full time and devote my all to my children. Without them I would probably be in a jail cell not where I am today.
Whether planned or unplanned, change can cause disruption to one’s stable environment if not handled in the correct way (McGarry, Cashin, & Fowler, 2012). Having children was a positive planned change for me. The decision has greatly improved my well-being and outlook on life. My thought process was changed the instant I held my first child. From that point on, every decision I make is centered on how it will affect them. Motherhood has opened my eyes to the realization that change occurs every day and there is no halting the process. As I watch my children grow, I emotionally embrace each unforeseen moment that comes with it.
A name represents more than just a person; it represents who they are. I look up to my mother because she has maintained a positive outlook in life, which has allowed her to acquire everything she wants. However, she has dealt with many obstacles along the way, some of which are a minor stroke, skin cancer, a broken leg, pneumonia, and arthritis.
Becoming a mother has been the best part of my life. I became a mother at a very young age. I had no idea what to expect and was not in the least prepared for the journey that lie ahead. I have truly embraced motherhood and enjoy all the wonderful things it has taught me. While living through motherhood, I have found that it can teach you the most valuable lessons there are to learn. Being a mother has taught me how to have patience. I have also learned that being a mother takes a lot on mental and physical strength. My children have been the best to teach me how to juggle many tasks at once. They have made me strong. Even through some unexpected turns, I have learned how to get through hard times and really learn what it means to never give up. My children are my biggest blessing, and I hope they will learn valuable lessons through me. The skills I have learned from being a mother have helped me in my college journey.
Mothers and fathers work as a great team together and their differences give the child something that the others do not. Mothers offer security and are more nurturing. Fathers Offer more hands-on play and teach their kids to be more independent. Mothers are more repetitive to their kids to teach them new things. Dads show their kids things so that they learn. Mothers pamper their sons, making them feel loved and special. Dads are strict with their daughters to keep them safe. The differences between mothers and fathers create a good balance for raising their child.
Comparing the Parents in Your Shoes and Growing Up and What they Learn About Themselves
I also think it is good for the mind and body to reflect on the hard times in your life so that you can ultimately become a better person. The events that happened during this whole process shapes my mother into the person she is today. I would describe my mom as smart, witty, and caring. I believe having my mother raising my brother so young almost suggested that they were going to have some fights with each other later down the road. All kids have a higher chance of doing naughty things if their parent or parents were in the same boat as them around this age.