Sex is a subject that is always a controversial topic in a lot of aspects of my life. However, my views are different than the views of my family, church, and friends. Moreover, there is still more to learn about sex for me because I am still pretty young. However, with this knowledge, I still have my own definition of what sex is. In my opinion, sex becomes sex when a woman is vaginally penetrated. When a man does this to a woman, he loses his virginity and so does the woman. Furthermore, I think that things like blowjobs don't count as sex because it's a whole different action. Furthermore, my family holds very unique views on sex. Sex is considered taboo in my household; no one ever talks about it. My family simply ignores the thought and idea of it. This ignorance of this topic could be due to the reason that we are Roman Catholic. Additionally, they expect the Church to tell us what is right and wrong when it comes to sex. My family's beliefs and ideology is molded and influenced greatly by the Catholic Church. The Catholic Church holds a lot of influence not just in my family, …show more content…
In essence, the Church basically says to abstain from sex altogether until marriage. However, when one is married, they can have all the sex they want. This rule was most likely set in place to reduce our temptations and sin. My family and the Church has been selling me their views since I was just a young boy. In honesty, I agree with most of their beliefs. I believe the best way to keep oneself pure, is to save yourself for the one you truly love. If it means having to wait a little while longer to have sex, then it will entirely be worth it. However, my family doesn't like to talk about sex, but I'd definitely be up for discussion about it. I believe it's important to inform your kids about sex and let them develop their own belief and make their own
I am not against people wanting to wait until marriage, and I don’t care if people personally do not want to use contraceptives. What does bother me is when people begin to limit other people’s freedoms and expect other people to adhere to the same religious code that they themselves follow. What also bothers me is parents who refuse to talk to their children about sex and healthy sexual behaviours, because they have the naïve mindset that their kids will abstain from sex until marriage, just because they told them it’s the only way. Not only is this a disservice to their children, it’s also dangerous, as kids will not know what a healthy sexual relationship looks like, but will rather form their own ideas of what a healthy sexual relationship looks like from unreliable sources, such as pornography or the media. They will also not be properly educated on what constitutes sexual assault, and they won’t be aware about STI’s and how to properly protect oneself from them. The bottom line is this: talk to your kids about sex, even if you don’t want them having
Greta Christina eloquently puts into words something I know in theory, but can be hard to understand in practice in heterosexual relationships. In Are we having sex now or what? Christina details her record keeping of how many people she had sex with, and what she counted as sex. She talks about the limiting misconception of sex only being coitus, and other acts not “counting.” Christina writes of how when she started having sex with women her outdated system of what was sex and what was not sex was completely destroyed. By limiting sex to “penis in vagina,” Christina was discounting some of her favorite sexual experiances, and including ones she did not particularly enjoy.
In the end, the article explains most effective way to teach teens a sexual ethic through is through what the author calls plausibility structures. Plausibility structures are the networks by which beliefs held by individuals or groups are sustained. Because we live in a diverse age with many competing views on human sexuality, norms are kept alive by networks of people, organizations, and communities who tell and teach each other that some ideas, actions are worth doing or believing, and some are bad and ought to be resisted. Teenagers who are embedded in strong religious plausibility structures, usually through active religious involvement and strong religious commitments, are more likely to make sense of their developing sexuality in religious terms and using religious motivation.
Rape is often viewed by the public as sex that is not consensual, and mostly sex that is physically forced. In fact, the dictionary definition of rape is “the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse.” In most cases, victims of rape are physically forced to have sex, while with cases of rape by deception, the victim has not been physically forced but has been tricked into consenting to have sex.
Since the dawn of man, sex has played a crucial role in society. Before they learned to read or write humans were engaging in sex and without it none of us would be here. In today’s society, sex has grown to become much more complicated. If I were to ask a group of people on the street what they believed sex was? I bet they would have a hard time answering. The question puzzling society today is how do we define sex? Can we define sex? These are questions raised in Tracy Steele’s article “Doing it: The Social Construction of S-E-X”. This article is about the current questions and issues that have been raised about sex within today’s society. In this paper I will summarize the key points of the article, while sharing my own thoughts and opinions of Steele’s findings.
“Sex and religion? Those two don’t really go hand in hand,” commented by a freshmen student from UF. Like this student, numerous people around the world believe this misconception to be true. Whether people argue for or against the importance of sex in religion, more than just what goes on the bedroom has been heating up lately. Many debates have sparked due to the negative connotation associated with sex when confronted about its position in religious cultures. A study done had proven a direct relationship between religiosity and sexual attitudes in college student, but to what extent are their spiritual values influential in their sexual beliefs and what are the reasons behind this (Beckwith, n.pg.). Either way, there is to some extent an influence on sexual behavior, whether it is by gender, ethnicity, or religion. After extensive research and several interviews, I’m determined to find the truth about sex and its importance in religious cultures, its effects on spirituality, and the roles it plays in religion.
Women and men are not treated equally, when a man has a sex with a woman he is considered a “pimp”. When a woman has sex with a man she is considered a “slut”. It also plays out in a Mexican family when the son has all these girlfriends, but the daughter is not even allowed to date. I really just don’t get how that works. Most men use sex to their advantage just because they feel bored and want to have sex for pleasure. I feel most women have sex because genuine and they actually love that person they are going to have sex with. Sometimes girls have sex because they want to fit in with their friends, and be “cool” like them. Trust me having sex does not make you
When people talk about sex it is considered taboo. Not only are parents of children not open to talking about sex, but also colleagues, peers, and friends are not always open to the discussion on the topic of sex. Society has taught individuals from a young age to keep sexual experiences to themselves because other people will think of them as perversive. In modern society, the topic of sexual experiences is not as secretive or taboo. It is completely turned around to some individuals bragging about their sexual experiences with people who are attractive, or what has happened in the
THERE’s much more to sex than the genitals, seeing someone bare or even the most common goal of sex – an orgasm. Sex experts will tell you that sex is intimacy; it is opening yourselves to spiritual mingling, exposing and exploring your sexual desires. But these are sometimes hindered by social constructions of sexual behaviour – the taboos, the myths and misinformation can sometimes make something as natural as sex very complex.
The teachings of the Catholic Church regarding sex are unequivocal: Catholics should abstain from sex until marriage and then practice monogamy in marriage until they are separated by death. It is the Catholic Church's understanding that all sex in this context is "safe". Hence, in the sexual ideology of Catholic dogma "safe sex" means abstinence and nothing else. And yet despite this, every Catholic in the United States knows what is popularly meant by safe sex. American popular culture is inundated with references to safe sex on television, in popular literature, and in schools, which promote the use of condoms as a way for those who are "sexually active" to reduce the risk of the transmission of STDs, including HIV. Although the sexual ideologies underlying these sexual references vary, most of them tacitly approve of, or at least condone, sex outside of wedlock. As a Catholic student growing up in a suburban public high school, these competing safe sex messages created a tension in my understanding of safe sex: they were mutually inconsistent and yet also individually inadequate. Ultimately, my understanding of safe sex has developed as an amalgamation of these competing ideologies.
Religion can be defined as a system of beliefs and worships which includes a code of ethics and a philosophy of life. Well over 90% of the world 's population adheres to some form of religion. The problem is that there are so many different religions. What is the right religion? What is true religion? The two most common ingredients in religions are rules and rituals. Some religions are essentially nothing more than a list of rules, dos and don 'ts, which a person must observe in order to be considered a faithful adherent of that religion, and thereby, right with the God of that religion. Two examples of rules-based religions are Islam and Judaism. Islam has its five pillars that must be observed.
Just like Alfred Kinsey said “The world is not divided into sheep and goats. Not all things are black nor all things white.” The world is divided into people that want many different things in life, everyone has a different opinion and mind set on what they want. Some people have other beliefs and values than other people, so we cannot judge them for being themselves. I believe that sexuality is the way that you express yourself through sex, or sexual actions. There are many factors that go into sexuality. I mainly learned about how sex worked through my health and child development classes. There were other things that contributed to my knowledge on sex, those were media, talking with friends or people at school, and my family values. How I think about sex is greatly impacted by these factors, some factors impacted me more than others but all of them still have an impact on my beliefs today.
The typical morals that were set in the early times are not the same social norms we have in the 21st century. In today 's society, it is perfectly fine to lose your virginity at a young age or even as an adult, as long as you are using protection and other alternative methods such as birth control to reduce your risks of teen pregnancy. I was sixteen years old when I first got on birth control. Although I was still a virgin up until my senior year my grandmother still didn’t want to take that chance and not try to protect me from jeopardizing my future by getting pregnant before I graduated from high school because condoms are not 100% effective. Although I was raised in a Christian household and was taught that you should always value your virginity at that age the person I lost it to I thought I was “madly in love” with them. Sex is perceived to be a great thing from the time we are young from television shows, movies, magazines, and from older friends. It’s a form of satisfaction sex is all over society and it’s absolutely normal. It’s almost impossible to even engage in television shows without seeing people kissing intimately, or even having sex. I believe that sex before marriage is ok for couples in a committed relationship, who are of age and capable of making of responsible decisions. Also, I think that many people have a misunderstanding about sex. Sometimes religion can
What is sex and sexuality, and how would I define it? Sex seems to be a subject that society is becoming a little less shy to talk about. It should be an openly topic we could talk about, yes it is a personal act, but many young people have questions and wonders about sex. Sex is the act of two people engaging in sexual intercourse. That is my definition of sex, but sex has different definitions and meanings depending on who the person is. Sexuality as I stated above, is the discovering your identity, figuring out who you are. Sexuality consist of procreation, love, pleasure, and indentity. (Laack 1) Sex and sexuality are closley realated to each other, you get one with the other. Sexuality is a state of confusion for many teenagers they not sure about what is going on with their emotion, their hormones are flying in every direction possible. Another thing we should discuss about things that are common among teenagers, is masturbati...
This has been a debate an argument for many years throughout families all over the world. As with everything there is a positive or negative side. In this situation, based on this topic people have to examine everything. At the end of the day and based on this topic the bad outweighs the good. Whenever talking about sex, it’s a touch subject that makes some people uncomfortable. Sex does not only affect the one person but it affects each of you and may be in different ways. It affects both parties physically, mentally & emotionally. Sometimes it affects one partner more than the other. There are many problems with having sex before marriage such as, unprepared pregnancy, sexual transmitted diseases, morally and religiously