Relationship With Children

First of all, I want to thank you for your email. I agree that our children need to have a healthy relationship with me that is comfortable for all of us. I truly hope for the sake of our children that you and Leigh are trying to change. The children love me more than words can describe. The course of the current and past events have been and continue to be horrible for our children. Lord, I know Leigh wants children and you want to move on with your life and are trying to have a complete family, but geezers this is going way too far and it is really unhealthy for our children.

You say you want to help develop a healthy relationship between me and the children. In order for that to occur it is important for you and Leigh to understand

Healthy communication is the way to a healthy relationship. During the last few months every conversation the children want to have with me is how horrible of a mom I have been because they did not play two hockey games last winter. I told them why they did not play. I told them this was last year and the decision has been made and can not be reversed. Last winter the children were not angry about the decision to play on one team instead of two. Based on the fact that I know you were angry, the children are living with you now, reiterates my beliefs that they are carrying forward the negative messaging they receive from you about me and that decision. Much of this kind of communication is not healthy. Other communication from the children is inaccurate and false about events, experiences, behaviors and communications. When I correct them they want to argue. I tell them there are other things we can talk about and that I would like to talk about with them, they do not want to talk. I do not want to argue or fight with the children. I do not agree with what they are saying because it is untrue, You have communicated untruths to the children and they spend their time with me communicating the communications you have had with them. I believe you need to look closely at what I do provide to the children and have provided to the children over the years and see the good things that I have done. There has been a great deal of wonderful and loving things that I have done. I love them more than words describe. If we are all to move forward and have healthy relationships it is important to focus on the positive things that we have all done. Our children are going to hate me just as they are as long as you and Leigh continue the path that you have been