Positive Conflict Resolution
Throughout history, countless situations involving conflict have arisen. In conflict, there is always a way out, whether it appears right away, or long after it has started. It can be effortless or stressful no matter what the situation. The problem does not have to be great, like war between nations, it could be as simple as a dispute between a classmate or coworker. People can best respond to any type of conflict through acts of peace and having a positive attitude, as well as being courageous and standing up for others.
Furthermore, conflict can be a hassle to get out of, and in reality, the best thing to do is avoid it whenever possible. If avoiding it is not an option, then a positive attitude is the way to go. This can help tremendously with any situation. A great example of a positive attitude is from Anne Frank: The Diary of Anne Frank, “Not me, I liked it from the start; it sounds so reassuring, especially at night” (Frank 374). She faces having to move from her house to a small, secluded house, in order to escape from the persecution of Jews. Even though she faces so many struggles, she found something she likes, thus helping her cope with heavy conflict. Another example of Anne Frank’s positive thinking, “It’s
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Three sources, in particular, Anne Frank, Dear Miss Breed, and a life story that is very heartwarming. They show how being positive is the best way to handle a conflict, however a negative conflict will get you nowhere. To start off, Anne Frank stayed optimistic while she and her family were hiding away from the Nazi Army. She writes in her diary, Kitty, about her experience in hiding. On Saturday, July 11, she writes,”Father, Mother, and Margot still can’t get used to the chiming of the Westertoren clock, which tells us the time every quarter of an hour.
As much as some of us dislike conflict, it is inherent in human nature. After all, it is like a wall that keeps us from moving forward in the path of life, but we must understand that those walls merely act as temporary challenges that are yet to be solved. Some conflicts may be insignificantly trivial, and some may be quite immense. Some conflicts may be happening within ourselves, and some may be accompanied by another person. Regardless, we must learn not to run away from conflict, but rather to run over them with a determined demeanor as the conflicts that we encounter in our lives are what helps us learn and grow as an individual. Furthermore, learning and growing from conflict is what shape individuals and what prepares us for the upcoming challenges that life will throw at us in the future.
Having a positive outlook can be very important when being involved in a conflict or trying to solve one. This is how Anne Frank and Louise Ogawa from First Read: Dear Miss Breed got through the roughest times of their lives. They kept a positive outlook on things and tried to make the best of the worst. Just looking on the bright side, even if it feels like there isn’t one can make a huge difference. As a great thinker, such as Joyce Meyer, once said, ‘’A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances, having power over you’’. If they did not maintain a positive outlook, then who knows how they would have survived. Having a positive outlook gives you the strength to keeping going
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Many people enjoy working or participating in a group or team, but when a group of people work together chances are that conflicts will occur. Hazleton describes conflict as the discrepancy between what is the perceived reality and what is seen as ideal (2007). “We enter into conflicts reluctantly, cautiously, angrily, nervously, confidently- and emerge from them battered, exhausted, sad, satisfied, triumphant. And still many of us underestimate or overlook the merits of conflict- the opportunity conflict offers every time it occurs” (Schilling, nd.). Conflict does not have to lead to a hostile environment or to broken relationships. Conflict if resolved effectively can lead to a positive experience for everyone involved. First, there must be an understanding of the reasons why conflicts occur. The conflict must be approached with an open mind. Using specific strategies can lead to a successful resolution for all parties involved. The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument states “there are five general approaches to dealing with conflict. The five approaches are avoidance, accommodation, competition, compromise, and collaboration. Conflict resolution is situational and no one approach provides the best or right approach for all circumstances” (Thomas, 2000).
The Boy in the Striped Pyjamas, by John Boyne, significantly distorts the truth of the Holocaust in order to evoke the empathy of the audience. This response is accomplished by the author through hyperbolizing the innocence of the nine-year old protagonist, Bruno. Through the use of dramatic irony, Boyne is able to both engage and involve the audience in the events of the novel. Although it is highly improbable that a son of a German high-ranking Schutzstaffel (SS) officer would not know what a Jew is and would be unable to pronounce both Fuhrer and Auschwitz, (which he instead mispronounces as ‘Fury’ and ‘Out-with’ respectively, both of which are intentional emotive puns placed by the author to emphasize the atrocity of the events), the attribution of such information demonstrates the exaggerated innocence of Bruno and allows the audience to know and understand more than him. This permits the readers to perceive a sense of involvement, thus, allowing the audience to be subjected towards feeling more dynamic and vigorous evocation of emotions and empathy towards the characters. Fu...
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Throughout life we all experience different types of conflicts, and typically what comes to mind when thinking of conflict is “arguments” and “negativity”. However, conflict can also be a good thing and there are a variety of styles. Conflict styles can range from being someone who cooperates, directs, compromises, avoids, or harmonizes. It can be a great resource to develop an understanding of each conflict style because we can learn to bring a balance with each individual. My good friend, who for the purpose of this assignment will be called “Rose”, and I, took a “conflict styles inventory test” in order to determine which styles of conflict we lean towards the most, and found it very surprising that my friend came out “calm” on all conflict
Imagine waking up on a normal day, in your normal house, in your normal room. Imagine if you knew that that day, you would be taken away from your normal life, and forced to a life of death, sickness, and violence. Imagine seeing your parents taken away from you. Imagine watching your family walk into their certain death. Imagine being a survivor. Just think of the nightmares that linger in your mind. You are stuck with emotional pain gnawing at your sanity. These scenerios are just some of the horrific things that went on between 1933-1945, the time of the Holocaust. This tragic and terrifying event has been written about many times. However, this is about one particularly fascinating story called The Boy in the Striped Pajamas by John Boyne.
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