Peter Pan Reflection

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Peter Pan. A movie about nostalgia, childish fun, following your dreams and.. abducting children. I’m serious. You see, Peter Pan’s shadow is the one that does his bidding, that separates from him and convinces Wendy and her brothers to follow him to Neverland. It never talks, it only imitates what its owner does, but with slight variations that get it in trouble. Now, Peter Pan is a lighthearted story with positive messages meant to resonate on children, but the shadow that the tale holds is one that we all do. The difference between our shadow and Peter Pan’s, however, is that his always listened to him, and meanwhile, we always listen to ours. This shadow, constantly following us around is a choice that we make- a choice to be manipulated When we allow this shadow of societal norms to dictate our choices and actions, we internalize all of the rules of society that work against us. From racism to sexism to homophobia to everything in between, these shadows haunt us to the point where they become a part of us, and we allow them to run our lives out of fear of what will happen if we don’t. This is called internalized discrimination. So first, let’s face our shadows head-on as we find the roots of this self imposed oppression, and then we’ll hide under our covers as we look at the effects, until finally, we leave our shadows in the dark with our solutions. When I first watched Peter Pan, I was convinced that my shadow was working in line with Peter Pan’s. Long story short, the cool girls at school found out and I began hating myself for the irrational fear I held, not because it was stupid, but because it was different. This is our problem. Often times, we associate the differences we have to someone in power as being subordinate to them. This can be caused by a wide variety of things, from social media to wars to literature. Author and psychologist Donna K. Bivens stated in her book, Flipping the So if Peter Pan doesn’t offer our solutions, then who does? According to Brown University, the main way to rid of this pesky shadow is the same way we got it, internally. The easiest way to overcome internalized discrimination is to embrace it, acknowledge that you have the problem. Stop blaming society, the media, or politicians when you stop yourself from doing something because of your identity. And I’m not gonna lie, they are partly to blame for this mess, but make sure that the internal part of discrimination is not blamed on others, but rather yourself. When you accept that this is your problem you take the first step away from your shadow and towards your solution. The next step is to actually fix it. We have to embrace our differences. Being a member of a minority group can be strengthening if you use it a source of pride rather than shame. So show off that weird looking but really good food that your grandma makes, embrace the positive ideologies your faith has given you, use your gender and sex to empower others. This will give a more accurate, personal view of who we are rather than what that narrative tells us we are. I am not gonna be naive and say we can completely abandon our shadows, because I know that no matter what lighting we are in, we always have one. But I do know that we have a choice as to

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