Personal Narrative Solving Conflict at Work
The situation I would like to explain happened approximately over a year ago. I accepted a position with a company as one of their e-mail server. An acquaintance of mine (John) told me about the job and took my resume to his supervisor. I did not refer to him as a friend because at the time we did not do any activities together outside of work, nor did our spouses.
The first week was fine, just trying to learn where the bathroom and cafeteria were was hard enough. Nothing was obviously strange with John at first or really had the appearance of being amiss until the second week. Our interactions began to get a little strange. John began making comments like ”you would have had to pay an employment agency several hundred dollars for a job like this.” I briefly thought to myself that was strange. I soon forgot about the incident till the next day when he made another comment “in a joking matter.” Right then I started to really pay attention to what he was meaning. He acted as if I owed him money for helping me get the job.
He began to get very short with me and I had only been there for two weeks. He was supposed to train me on how to build our e-mail servers and instruct me on how to install the entire standard monitoring software. This was not done. Instead he went through the process faster than even an experienced administer could possibly keep up. He would not slow down or wait for me or check with me to see if I was with him or not. We would have an issue with a server and rather than take this downtime as an opportunity to show and train me. He would just buzz through the resolution and not stop and say anything to the affect of “you might want to remember this.” I began to get very frustrated and felt very alienated.
By the third week I began to get tired of his condescending and abusive tone. So I began to challenge him in a way that was only one on one and so no one else was around. He would respond to a question of mine with a question or just make me repeat it then, interrupt me.
Unique Menswear was owned by three pastors from the church I attended every Sunday (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). However, one Sunday the pastor wife came and ask was I currently seeking employment (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). I stated that I am seeking employment but haven’t been successful in finding employment with my current resume (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). She stated to fill out the application for Unique Menswear and they will call me immediately (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). I went on Tuesday to receive the application and completed it (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). However, the application was returned on Wednesday (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). An interview was set for the following Monday (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). A job offer was received the following day. The job offer was accepted, and my training started immediately (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). However, the owner had some trust issues from the past (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). Mr. Joe trained got to know me very well and trained me exactly the way he operates the business (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). After 2 weeks I begin to work alone opening and closing the store (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). He was able to trust me with a key and the operation of monies daily (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). He entrusted me with the business so much that he went on a cruise for one week with no worries about the business (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). Two months later I informed Mr. Joe I was relocating to Hawaii and I was giving my 30 day notice to ensure he find a replacement for my position with the company (Ferrell, Fraedrich, & Ferrell, 2013). Mr. Joe appreciated me for taking care of the operation of the business as if it was my business (Ferrell,
Free. He was definitely one of those teachers that pushed me way close to my limit. After a couple of months of having him as a teacher, I decided to confront him. I came into his classroom and asked why he was so hard and difficult with us. I noticed that he would pick on certain students a lot and I was one of them. He looked at me straight in the face and said that I had potential. I was dazed and confused to what he meant. He then explained to me that a lot of the students here are not trying at all and what is the point of helping those students that do not care where there lives go. He said that I was trying but not to the best of my ability. I exclaimed to him that I was trying my best. He then replied with saying I was trying my best but he knew I can do better. He knew that I cared about my education and knew the drive that I had. He finally remarks with don’t you know what you have learned. That caused me to think of everything overall and I realized that I was acting like a fool. I know knew what his true intentions
It started slowly, with just him not wanting me to go to one type of social event because he didn’t like the people there. Then it got worse and worse. He was trying to control me by alienating me from my friends. After a bit I started fighting back, which made his obsession with controlling me as his possession stronger. When I finally asked him to leave he threatened to kill himself. I finally got him out, and he was staying at his mother 's house, but then the stalking started. On page 92 in the book, Cooper-White explains stalking by outlining the Justice Department 's Stalking Victimization Survey 's seven types of harassing behaviors: "1. Making unwanted phone calls, 2. Sending unsolicited or unwanted letters or emails, 3. Following or spying on the victim, 4. Showing up at places without a legitimate reason, 5. Waiting at places for the victim, 6. Leaving unwanted items, presents or flowers, and 7. Posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the Internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth". My stalker did every single one of these things to me. When I read the chapter on Sexual Harassment and Stalking, it was almost a validation of what I went through as a victim. Thankfully in my situation, I kept track of his stalking and took him to court. The judge was able to identify his actions as stalking, (probably unknown to me she probably used this
He never listens and is always contradicting what you say. When you do get a word in, he dismisses it and calls you names. I can’t imagine how upset you must be every time he calls you a fool. That is not the right way to treat a lady such as yourself. Furthermore.
When Barbara first met John she was immediately attracted to him because of his charisma, manners, and intensity. They talked at the function for a while before deciding to get some fresh air. After talking about John 's job, he pushed Barbara to the ground and started to remove her clothes. Thankfully, she was able to push him off and return home without creating a big problem. For a couple weeks after the incident, John sent Barbara flowers and many apologies. Finally, Barbara forgave him and decided to go out on a date. She said that since the charity event he was a perfect gentleman. They dated for about 6 months before they decided to get married. Once they were engaged for a while, she started to notice that he became aggressive and moody when he drank a lot, but when he was sober he was very kind and sensitive.
I had applied for a job at Catholic Guardian society; in 2001 I did get the job. It was working with young girls in a group home, place there by the court. A group home is a place that children are sent to, once in foster care. A child can be in a group homes for many reasons; such as running away from home, not going to school and getting being arrested. I work every shift that was allowed, sometime doing doubles. When I started the job, I learn my way around fast. My partner was Michelle S.; she was great she began working there three years before me. Our primary job was to ensure the safety of these girls; their age would range from twelve through twenty-one. Our supervisor was great or so I thought. I soon realized that she was a horrible
On the night of February 28, I was preforming in the DYW program in Seminary. I had an unexpected visitor appear at the program. I had recently broken up with Ben, but he decided to come to my program without asking if it would be acceptable for him to be there. I did not notice Ben was there until almost the end of the program. When I caught
SWISH! I turn my head to the right with a grin and see my mom cheering as I scored my first points of the season. The last game of the season I scored my first points of my middle school basketball “career.” Now sit back and relax as you read the story of how I got my first points in middle school basketball.
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There are a number of articles regarding toxic work cultures and ways to survive or turn it around. However, what do you do about the work environment that cannot change despite your best efforts? Recently I had lunch with a colleague who is miserable at his new job and by his account he has literally given up and does just enough to get by. This admission is out of character for him, given that he has always been a positive formidable leader. I did not recognize the person who was sitting across from me; this person appeared defeated and physically drained.
My mom told me to ask him why he sends me to the office everyday so I did and he said I do not like you. I thought are you kidding me that was your reason. I told my mom and classmates about it and they felt so bad for me and they started sticking up for me. It just kept getting worse and worse
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Personal Narrative There lay her limp body staring up at us. Her cold eyes were no longer
My friend and I were in the ‘liked’ category. He would make the assignments of where he wanted people to work and would say, “I want the pretty girls to work up front and the others to work in the back.” This kind of statement was not only destructive but I am sure it was illegal. John would smile and say nice things to my friend and I about our work. Later, after work he often asked us to go out or he would ask if we wanted to borrow his car to go