Personal Narrative: Do I Undermine My Relationships

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Journal Entry 11: Do I Undermine Ways that I undermine my relationship Jealously Relational Intrusion Refusing to open up or refusing to express feelings/emotions Being fake or dishonest To begin with, when it comes to love with our partner we only want to be seen as the only one in their eyes. Not only do want we want be seen as the only one in their eyes, but we want to have our partner's undivided attention as well as we want to have their complete trust. Trust is the most important element in a relationship, without it there would be no relationship to fight for. What kills most relationships is the lack of trust which creates a degree of jealously. Another aspect that kills most relationships is refusing to open up to your partner and to deal with the issue while it's relevant, but what ends up happening is nothing is being discussed because neither you or your partner is willing to discuss your true feelings about the problems you are facing. However, going over this list, I discovered I …show more content…

However, now that I an adult I do admit that I have small degree of each of things that I previously listed, but the most common for me is closing myself up especially to my "boyfriend". Now it's been known for me not express myself fully and I can admit I learned to do this because of the situations I've been through and the experiences I've observed from other people. Honestly, it makes me afraid of not being a good girlfriend and it makes me afraid of being someone that I'm not. So I end up building this wall to protect myself from any outside forces. Even when some guys who try to get to know me, I end up making excuses for myself and telling them lies that I'm not looking for anyone. I guess I can say that I'm afraid if I reveal too much of myself to the guy I'm with that he won't accept me for

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