Nora And Trovald's Mistakes

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Both Nora and Torvald have made mistakes yet only Torvald gets punished by losing his wife and his family being torn apart. Indeed, it is wrong for Torvald to condemn his wife the way he does after discovering that she had lied (Ibsen, 1890, p. 37). When he realized that she had fraudulently acquired a loan, he got mad. He called her demeaning words and questioned her character as a parent. He failed to remember that all Nora did was for his wellbeing. In the same way, Nora failed to listen to her husband when he told her not to take a loan for his treatment. She went behind his back and took a loan through forging her father’s signature. She also admits to be saving money secretly to pay off the loan. Further, she misleads her husband by …show more content…

Therefore, Ibsen should have made more efforts in showing that both Nora and Trovald made mistakes which cost them their marriage instead of showing that Trovald’s mistakes led Nora to leave him and the children …show more content…

Marriage is a sacred institution ordained by God. From a Christian perspective, marriage was created for man and woman to fulfll each other and have children. From a social perspective, it is created for intimacy which is achieved through friendship, romance and attachment. Friendship entails the need for acceptance and identification (Buss, 2005, p. 259). Romance involves the need for idealization and infatuation in relationships and attachment involves the need to form bonds in relationships (Schnarch, 2009, p. 20). Together, these factors have enabled Nora and Trovald’s marriage to stand the test of challenges. Admittedly, it is important for one to understand him/her before committing to marriage because it is binding and this helps in maintaining understanding in relationships. This helps in conflict resolution and finding long-term solutions to problems (Coser, 1997, p. 199). By showing that a marriage denies one the freedom of being self, Ibsen shows that he has no value for marriage as an institution. He is also implying that one can only find self by being away from a spouse and children. Further, Ibsen portrays marriage as a burden that one can get rid of whenever he or she feels like. This may make marriages lose meaning in the society and lead to increased cases of

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