Driving home yesterday, I was reflecting on the upcoming Father’s Day weekend. I was thanking the Lord for my wife, Rebecca and daughters, Madison and Caitlin. I am so blessed to have them in my life and and to be a husband and father. Everyday, I look forward to coming home to them - particularly after a difficult day at work. I drive home with anticipation to see them as I walk through the door - or, better yet when they greet me as I pull up to the house - and spending the evening with them. Call me weird, or strange, but I actually enjoy spending time with my wife and girls. Sure, there are times when I need a quiet moment to myself, but for the most part, I really want them around. This past weekend we took a vacation to the Phoenix (technically …show more content…
I have heard of guys who purposely choose to work late hours just so they do not have be home. Or, they spend all their time “hanging out” with their buddies, playing sports, or send their kids to bed early in order evade their family. I just think that is so sad and it clearly indicates that these men do not know what it is to be a husband or father. While there is nothing wrong with having some time to ourselves, it should never be too frequent or at the expense of our family. Our wives need us. Our children need us. They need us around and participating in their …show more content…
For the most part, I think my daughters and I have similar taste. But, I have been extra cognizant to show more interest in the things that they like. For me, this idea was solidified this past weekend on our trip. We go to meet an awesome family at the Supernatural Convention. The father, Greg Andrews spent the last three years rebuilding a 1967 Chevy Impala with his daughter, Jamie. Jamie, like Madison, is a fan of Supernatural. So She and her dad rebuilt, “Charlie” to exactly resemble the 67 Impala, “Baby” that the main characters drive around. Now, Jaime, Greg, and his wife Shirley show it off at conventions -and you can tell that they all enjoy it. I think that is so awesome! It really impressed on my heart the importance of making sure that I take the time to display an interest in the same things that my girls do. And it shouldn't really matter what that is - though I bet Maddy wishes it would be to rebuild a 67 Impala to resemble
“Men work primarily to feed and create an environment of comfort for their wife and family” (Crooks and Lankow). This age-old reasoning came into creation when women were house wives. The women would take care of everything inside the home and men would insure that there was security and indeed a house for the family to live in. “This is the commonly accepted role of the man within the social system and proves a formidable challenge that every man must accept” (Crooks and Lankow). If a man chooses to go against this and take the role of a house husband, he may be met with repugnance by other men in the community Truly, the need to provide is crippling to the progression of society.
Dorment goes into personal detail by describing how his spouse might refold the laundry after he does it himself, or clean again after he does it. This is no longer a matter of a man not willing to step-up, but instead the personality of the relationship shining through. On an emotional note, women often find it harder to be away from their children which leaves heavily emotional baggage placed on work decisions (709). This can be chalked up to social conditioning, genetic predisposition, or emotional shallowness for men; whatever it is, may ironically, be the cost of doing business. Conversely, men are being judged as fathers in a way harder than ever before (708). Each party has hardships of its own, but it will revert back each individual's personality and the dynamic of the relationship. At the end of the day, there are no concrete answers to these endless issues so Dorment puts it best by saying, "we do the best we can"
My mother was a difficult, unusual and complex woman. She loved her daughters, Barbara, Wendy and myself, her sons-in law, Marty, John and David, her grandchildren Kenny, Cory and her stepgrandchildren, Mandy and Taryn, But if she loved her children, she absolutely adored her husband, my father. My Father was the truly abiding center and great passion of my mother’s life, as she was his, and knowing that they were coming up on their sixtieth anniversary only just barely gives you a glimpse at the strength of their love.
It has been 20 years since my Mom went home with the Lord. I miss here every day but around Mother’s Day every year I still honor her for all of her sacrifices she made for our family. Look at all the Mothers in our lives, they sacrifice their needs for that of their children daily, just watch there is a mother to your children or your own mother, it is supernatural , It is the love of the Father, it is the way our creator made them. The great thing is it does not pass when your mother goes home with the Lord, it is still all around us to see and it is a great reminder of how our mothers were with us as children. I too honor my wife Melissa Arteman for your sacrificial love you show and teach our children every day, you truly are one of the
The number one reason seems to be buried in the fact that men and women are told from a very young age that it is not the father’s job or responsibility to be the primary caregiver for their children, even if they are more fit for the position than the mother. Stay at home fathers are seen as “less competent, less affectionate toward children, and less involved in tending to physical needs of children” (Fischer, & Anderson, 2012 p. 17). This results in the belief that stay at home fathers are not fit to be primary caregivers for their children. The stigma that men cannot be good at taking on this position is also seen in reports that fathers receive negative responses for defying this gender role. Most of which comes from stay at home mothers according to Rochlen, Mckelley, and Whittaker’s 2010 study about stay at home fathers. Our society also holds unrealistic expectation of these men. Mostly, they are seen as more feminine, therefore can be considered less of a man. This leads to the belief that they no longer participate or even enjoy activities that are considered masculine. Even though these men are seen as less masculine, they are also seen as unable to offer the proper amount of emotional support and nurturance that their children may need. According to Fischer, and Anderson (2012), “men who are stay at home fathers have similar levels of masculine and feminine
..., cried and loved together. There was six of us and we stuck together stronger than any bond, nothing could tear us apart. When one was in trouble we worked together to make things better. As a child, I always wanted to be in charge and this was a way for me to really be in control, I wanted our family dynamics back. At his memorial I explained to everyone that this wasn’t the end of our family, everything happens for a reason. God saw that we didn’t appreciate each other and the bond we had before and in a way he took someone who he knew was strong home with him. Together we began to make the efforts to visit each other at least once a month and call more than once a week. We now plan like Sunday dinners and follow through. We are learning that tomorrow isn’t always promised and we should cherish the loved we have at that moment because it can easily be taken away.
Life on the Road It’s fair to say that life on the road is something most people do not desire, as a way to live out their days; but a young man named Chris McCandless believed it was necessary to avoid the venomous grips of society. McCandless goes as far as to venture out to the rest of the United States and even crossing borders to achieve his true destination, Alaska. He shows us living such a life can hold many unique and wonderful experiences.
Being a wife or a mother or both is hard work, especially with the ideals that society sets before them. In the satirical article I Want a Wife written by Judy Brady, Brady portrays the thoughts of man about the perfect wife and mother. Throughout out the piece there are examples of real life couples in our minnial society wanting certain characteristics of a wife. A wife is expected to do many things based around her children including, ¨When I am through with school and have a job, I want my wife to quit working and reamian at home so that my wife can more fully and completely take care of my wife’s duties¨ (Brady 505). A wife is expected to stay at home for her children and her husband because it is her ¨wifely
Just before sunrise, on Oct. 12, 2003, the residents of Argyle Road in Brooklyn were woken by gunfire.
Moving weekend. These two words have defined my life several times since my pilgrimage to Colorado. My first few years here were chaotic, unknown, and completely spontaneous. For someone who likes control, a concrete plan at least two weeks in advance, and a generous helping of consistent routine, my first days, weeks, years, where I was but a nomadic, semi-"homeless" wanderer were met with the most challenging and illuminating moments I have yet encountered.
Transportation has been one of mankind’s most basic needs since existence. It allowed him to survive, to prosper, to populate almost every habitable place on the planet. Man has been able to conquer every frontier- land, water, air and even space. Modes of transport have undergone a massive change in the past few centuries. From animals to simple machines like bicycles to jet engines that have propelled us to outer space, the technology involved has indeed come a long way.
In the book Woman at Home, author Arlene Cardozo tells of one feminist theory that says, "Children are no reason to stay home. The man is a parent too and he doesn't stay home with the children, why should the wife?"(4). This may be a valid statement, but is it the right kind of attitude to have? The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles from the LDS church have put out a statement called "A Proclamation to the World. " One of the points they make in it concerns the fathers and mothers and each of their roles.
Our imperative family tradition was a summer vacation. Completely neglecting any responsibilities for a week, vacations were the perfect excuse. Fostering an environment for bonding, our annual vacations helped in creating lifelong memories. According to a Disney Time Survey conducted by Kelton, 82% of time on vacation is considered family time. This finding is evident, especially in one of my recent vacations. The months preceding and following this specific family trip, were filled with various milestones which prohibited much bonding: my mother’s diagnosis of Lung Cancer, my older sister’s wedding day, and my senior year preparation. If it wasn’t for our last hurrah, we may not have been able to successfully sit the needed amount of time
I often wonder what my life would be like if I had taken a different route. I remember the day as if it was yesterday, August 25th, 2006. I was only eight years old when I was separated from my mother. That day was the beginning of my new life with my foreign father and unfamiliar stepmother. Prior to this, the memories I had of my father were very faint; I would only see him once a year when he would come to visit my brother and I. The journey I was about to embark on was not one of a few hours in a car, but overseas. I was leaving the only place I had ever known; the Dominican Republic to come live in Canada. That night, when I got off the plane, I knew my life had changed forever.
Going on a road trip with my family means the world to me. We drove to another state during summer vacation, and it was by far the best road trip I have ever been on. My family and I were able to go to many fun places. We ate so many exotic and delicious foods as well. Yet most importantly, I spent time with my family and their friends. It was the day when my family and I went to California for our summer vacation.