Through Rachel Getting Married, Demme was able to truthfully display the pain and misery that family members are able to inflict upon each other, even during an event that is presumed to be celebrating family. The film miraculously captured that intangible quality many of us can recognize with: the happiness of being around loved ones we see too rarely and the high of having everyone together in the same place. The center of the celebration was two sisters, Kym and Rachel. Both of complete opposites: one with a Ph.D. in psychology and one self-destructive addict. Our first introduction to Kym didn’t present us with an exactly positive image: she’s a caustic young woman with a history of drug-addiction, run-ins with the law, selfishness and …show more content…
Beauvoir argues that motherhood places limitations on women; meaning that a women’s own personal interest and independence are stripped away from a women when she becomes a mother and thus being a mother is placed at the forefront. Therefore, women are crushed and left with nothing when they are separated from their children. Could this be the distance seen in Kym and Rachel’s mother? That due to her losing her son she felt like she failed as a mother and thus could not provide her other two children with the necessary love and affection because she already failed at being a mother (based on societies standards)? Which makes it significant when Kym compares herself to Mother Teresa, the perfect women/mother. She knows that even if she outgrows her addictions and becomes a mother, it doesn 't matter simply because (like her mother) she already failed by societies standards. This proves that Kym’s attention seeking is not a desire to manipulate the people around her but instead is constantly yearning for the love of her mother/acceptance of her family and as a result her actions/tantrums were Kym trying to pull her family in closer to her so that she felt their love and didn’t feel as if they constantly blamed her for her brother’s death. When the details of her brother’s death are reveled it is impossible to not sympathize with her own fears of abandonment. Are these feelings her reasons for turning to
Because of the wealth and power that surrounded her family name, Rachel became the victim. If not for all the drama caused by owning much of the land and her family flaunting their fortune, the community of people ready to solve their problems or vendettas by crying witchcraft may have overlooked Rachel. Though money and power have been sought time after time, they often have their downsides. Rachel’s family and their search for wealth did not grant them happiness, but it may have been the main factor in Rachel’s death.
Throughout the film we learn that each woman has setbacks within her household. One sister has a terrible drinking problem and ultimately loses her job due to excessive drinking and tardiness. The second sister has had several pregnancies that each result in miscarriages
Are all mothers fit for motherhood? The concept of motherhood is scrutinized in the stories “The Rocking Horse Winner” and “Tears Idle Tears”. In “The Rocking Horse Winner” by D.H Lawrence the mother, Hester, unpremeditatedly provokes her son into providing for her through gambling. In the story “Tears Idle Tears” by Elizabeth Bowen, Mrs. Dickinson disregards her son’s emotions and puts more emphasis in her appearance than her son’s wellbeing. Hester and Mrs. Dickinson both were inadequate mothers. Both the mothers were materialistic, pretended to love their offspring, and their dominance hindered their children’s progress in life.
Maria’s mother was present for the first two years of her life but it is possible that she might have not been involved, “apparently, the attachment relationship can be vulnerable to events that may distract, depress, or preoccupy the mother or otherwise upset family life.” (Broderick & Blewitt, 2015, p151) (1) Maria believes her mother had to leave because she couldn’t take care of herself; but it is not certain if this is the reason her mother actually left. Information about physical factors, biochemical factors, and genetic factors are not in the case study. It can be assumed that Maria has an attachment towards her father who supports her in anything she does. From the information available her father seems to show a permissive parenting style; he seems to be lenient but also very understanding. This permissive parenting style could be due to him being a single father and understanding the way it affected his daughter when his wife left.
Looking back on the death of Larissa’s son, Zebedee Breeze, Lorraine examines Larissa’s response to the passing of her child. Lorraine says, “I never saw her cry that day or any other. She never mentioned her sons.” (Senior 311). This statement from Lorraine shows how even though Larissa was devastated by the news of her son’s passing, she had to keep going. Women in Larissa’s position did not have the luxury of stopping everything to grieve. While someone in Lorraine’s position could take time to grieve and recover from the loss of a loved one, Larissa was expected to keep working despite the grief she felt. One of the saddest things about Zebedee’s passing, was that Larissa had to leave him and was not able to stay with her family because she had to take care of other families. Not only did Larissa have the strength to move on and keep working after her son’s passing, Larissa and other women like her also had no choice but to leave their families in order to find a way to support them. As a child, Lorraine did not understand the strength Larissa must have had to leave her family to take care of someone else’s
In this documentary, it was clear that Millie’s mental illness took a toll on her family’s dynamic. Millie was not diagnosed with a mental disorder until much later on in her life. At that point, her family was already destroyed. Millie and her husband went through a divorce. The two daughters were left to live with their mother. The girls did not know any other way of life, so they thought the lives they lived with their mother were just like lives other children had with their parents.
In contrast, as seen with Dee Ann’s grandmother’s recollections of Dee Ann’s mother, raising her well from her birth results in a very emotional reaction to her death, crying with Dee Ann’s father on the couch (357). By focusing on the needs of her daughter, Dee Ann’s grandmother became emotionally attached to her mother’s well-being, having a connection to the way in which they have lived their life. Likewise, although their relationship was not healthy, Dee Ann’s mother’s addiction to her father’s actions resulted in a dependency that ultimately held their relationship together: “Her momma lived for these routines, she watched till watching killed her (370).” This dependency stems from her father satisfying her mom’s desire for these captivating acts, creating the emotional ties that held the marriage together, at least for some time. In both of these cases, the dependence on the other in the relationship resulted in a reason to maintain it, as their existence is contingent on the other person. In the case of Dee Ann and Chuckie however, their propensity to go out and enjoy themselves on their own suggests a lack of physical dependency on their spouse, weakening the bonds of need by satisfying a desire for company through other means. Chuckie for example, satisfies this desire by going out with friends for a drink, and Dee Ann immerses herself in digital entertainment such as TV or music (362). Their independence results in lacking the emotional attachment necessary to hold their relationship together, destroying the reciprocated love present in healthy
Motherhood is a compassionate kinship between the mother and her offspring. Becoming a mother can be planned or unplanned depending on the person. Families tend to cherish the new beginning to a little human life. When someone decides to have a new life, it isn’t easy, and not only can some women not get pregnant, but the variation your body endures is amazing. The body goes through many life changing experiences. Some women can gain weight, or have a rollercoaster of emotions due to their hormones. Having a child is a very hard thing, because your whole life changes and it’s not all about you anymore. Children cannot control the family or mothers they have when born, they aren’t able to understand the concept of what is happening with their mothers or families until they are older. In novels, Incidents in the Life of a Slave girl, by Harriet A. Jacobs and The Awakening by Kate Chopin motherhood is portrayed in many different ways. The two stories differ in my way but both encounter similarities of motherhood in various ways.
Film Response of Muriel’s Wedding Muriel’s Wedding is a contemporary comedy set in a small Australian town. This enables the film to explore many of the Australian ideologies through the discourse of its characters and film techniques. The value that I’ll be focusing on is the various aspects of mateship portrayed in the film. Mateship is considered to be an integral part of the Australian persona.
She says, “To mourn over the miseries of others, the poverty of the poor, their hardships in jails, prisons, asylums, the horrors of war, cruelty, and brutality in every form, all this would be mere sentimentalizing.” This reflects the personality of women to be very kind, but also shows that men don’t show the mercy or affection needed in some areas. She also showed this in the quote from the first paragraph, “...while mercy has veiled her face and all hearts have been dead alike to love and hope!” She implied that men aren’t showing the love they must show in order to have peace, therefore bringing destruction. She then reminded us that mother nature is trying to repair all of the destruction in the world. She used the term “mother nature” because it causes the audience to connect the earth with the gender of the woman and how they are kind is
When a wife surprises her husband on his birthday, an ironic turn of events occurs. Katherine Brush’s “The Birthday Party” is a short story about relationships, told from the perspective of a nearby observer. Brush uses the words and actions of the married couple to assert that a relationship based on selfishness is weak.
Donna May Dyer, named after her uncle Don who was in the WWII at the time, was born August 12th 1945 on a hot Sunday in San Jose, California. Her two sisters, Carol and Beverly, were waiting for her to arrive eagerly. She was born into a loving family of 4. Her father, Andrew Dyer, was a car mechanic during the day and a security guard at night, whereas her mother Winona “Dorothy” Mitchell, worked in retail at Woolworth. They had the most beautiful marriage she had witnessed back then. One her most fond memories of her father was when he'd take her into work with him at a young age to show her off at work. At that time they didn't have car seats so she would stand next to her father and wrap her arms around him to keep steady. He made her feel very safe as they rode together. She loved her mother very much and she even thought of her as her role model even though she was the harsher and stricter parent. She recalled a time when they were over at her friends house for a holiday dinner and she kept on trying to say something but her mother was still talking and she yelled at her mother to shut up, which only got her a swift smack on her bum and she felt utterly humiliated though she knew she deserved it. Holidays were a stressful time for her and her family because they were very busy they had so many dinners and parties to attend, however they loved all of their friends and family so it was all worth it.
...is with an illustration of his personal family dynamic. Meanwhile, Mrs. Davis will be encourage to communicate her truly feelings on how she has felt about being mistreated and feeling alone.
Whenever someone mentions the word “mother”, one always tend to think of a very kind and caring figure who always whishes the best for her children. In the poem “Mother to Son” by Langston Huges, a mother is telling her son about the obstacles she had to overcome in order to get to the position she is in right now. There comes many moments in our life when we just want to give up and let fate handle everything. We face many difficulties that may not seem we can overcome but we should never give up right away. The mother in the poem is trying to convince her son to keep pushing and at the same time she is trying to set an example though her own past experience.
Mrs. Mallard’s repressed married life is a secret that she keeps to herself. She is not open and honest with her sister Josephine who has shown nothing but concern. This is clearly evident in the great care that her sister and husband’s friend Richard show to break the news of her husband’s tragic death as gently as they can. They think that she is so much in love with him that hearing the news of his death would aggravate her poor heart condition and lead to death. Little do they know that she did not love him dearly at all and in fact took the news in a very positive way, opening her arms to welcome a new life without her husband. This can be seen in the fact that when she storms into her room and her focus shifts drastically from that of her husband’s death to nature that is symbolic of new life and possibilities awaiting her. Her senses came to life; they come alive to the beauty in the nature. Her eyes could reach the vastness of the sky; she could smell the delicious breath of rain in the air; and ears became attentive to a song f...