You're checking out a book at the library, picking out some produce at the grocery store, or taking a walk in the park, and some assistant, shopper, or dogwalker catches your eye. It's happened to all of us, you notice someone, and when you have the chance to spark up a conversation, you turn it down. Even if you happen to see that same person again, your worries get the best of you. It seems as if you've seen that dashing smile a million times before. It all makes sense; you almost rehearse lines of what to say in your head while approaching them, and the best you can do is wave your hand awkwardly or flash a disappointed half smile. If more people could grasp the idea of how hard it is to get a second chance, how things don't always fall into place, and sometimes it's too late to get what you wanted, these sorts of situations wouldn't be a problem for much longer. If everyone stopped expressing their emotions and kept their thoughts to themselves, what would happen to all the spontaneity and romanticism? There would be no such thing as love stories or any story with a climax, real...
...o not believe it anesthetizes the emotional life of the viewer: it romanticizes life. Women take away from the experiences that sex in a relationship is perfect, communication with the partner is perfect and if there is a disagreement or misunderstanding, it is grounds for a breakup. How damaging are these expectations to a new relationship? During a literature review, I found several researchers concluded that these expectations cultivated from romantic comedies contribute to increased divorces in society (Segrin & Nabi 2002).
Morrie expresses that showing emotion is an important factor for living life. Morrie believes that people should not be ashamed of showing their emotions. He thinks it is healthy to show how we feel and that it is perfectly fine to express those feelings. He states, “If you hold back on the emotions- you can never get to being detached, you’re too busy being afraid” (Albom, 104). I agree with Morrie’s belief that it is important to fully feel emotions and should not be
I am an extremely shy person. That’s because I never know what the right thing to say is and I’m afraid to mess up. I don’t want to sound dumb in front of someone. So by not talking much, I thought I would be normal. But, people just started to ignore the fact that I was there. I didn’t have many friends and I was disheartened. Until sports seasons began in eighth grade. People on my different teams started talking to me and I built up enough confidence to have many conversations with them throughout the time we were there. It sounds pathetic, but this is just the way it is. This progressed and I made many new friendships with people, however, I am still egregious when it comes to conversing with people. My second chance came in the form of friendships. Similar to Seabiscuit, I was given a second chance that permanently altered my
The movie love is never silent is a movie based in the late nineteen thirty’s and is about a young girl and her deaf family. It introduces the hardships that the family faces and the changing of the times that slowly brought Deaf Culture to where it is today. The movie discusses topics such as misconceptions of the time, the fear and confusion misinformation produced and the shame that Margaret faced because of it. It also explained how daily life during the time worked and how many people were curious, but simply that and was starving for knowledge.
“Hey, thanks for telling me,” with a soft voice and light smile. Does it sound familiar to you? Perhaps the response seems good and polite on the surface, but people might be very frustrating deep inside. Truly, the burden of societal expectation forbids people to share their true feeling and opinion, therefore a genuine interaction among people becomes very rare. Although the U.S. government encourages gender equality, but the society remains the same; in reality, society has a higher expectation on women over men. In the article “Why Women Smile”, Cunningham evaluates on how societal expectation and personal goal evolves women’s daily behavior; particularly she focuses on the women’s smile. It’s for the better, women weaponize their smile
Interpersonal communication is everywhere in society, both in the past, present, and the future. “Marty,” a love story, and a movie made in the fifties, shows many examples of interpersonal communication. In this movie, the main character, Marty, is a decent, socially awkward man who is pressured by his peers and family to find love and get married. He then gets fed up and goes to a club in town and meets a woman named Claire, who is in similar circumstances to him. Marty and Claire then interact and spend time together and Marty experiences companionship for the first time.
People want full attention and full eye contact, to ensure interest in the topic being discussed. I discovered that when I would talk to someone with my back completely turned to someone was when they were offended the most, rather than when I just didn’t make eye contact but was faced in their general vicinity. I think that most people reacted negatively towards this experiment because of the social norm that involves being polite and attentive towards a stranger. Being rude to someone whom I’ve never met before for no reason broke the common social norms of politeness. From this experiment I learned that it is greatly important to make eye contact with someone during any type of conversation. If not, it is seen as very rude and will result in negative reactions or attitudes, and give the impression to whomever I am engaging in conversation that I am not interested in what they are saying to
The film, The Breakfast Club, is an impressive work of art, addressing almost every aspect of interpersonal communication. This is easily seen here, as I’ve gone through and shown how all these principles of interpersonal communication apply to real-life, using only two short interpersonal interactions from the movie. I’ve explained aspects of interpersonal communication, nonverbal communication, verbal misunderstandings, communication styles, gender issues, and self-disclosures. With that said, I believe I have demonstrated my ability to apply principles of interpersonal communication with simulated real-life examples.
There are five styles of communicating romantic interest in others: traditional, physical, sincere, playful, and polite, as cited in Hall, Carter, Cody, and Albright’s (2010). Flirting styles, consciousness, and intent are all linked based off of some of the core issues concerning consciousness and intent. One of them being that more than one intention can occur during a communicative act, and the other being that, consciousness and intent can change during the act of communicating. Particularly with the playful style of flirting the intent of the flirtation may change throughout the interaction. Since, the playful flirt is not likely to seek romantic intimacy by flirting, but this intent could change during the flirting interaction if an interest is sparked (Hall et al.,
Nonverbal cues fall into two basic categories, nonverbal messages produced by the body or nonverbal messages produced by the broad setting (Tidwell). This paper will focus towards nonverbal messages produced by one’s body. Eye contact and posture are two of the most significant nonverbal cues that one can use to make or break a situation. Imagine a customer chatting with a sales agent discussing the perks of the item for purchase. If the sales person does not make eye contact with the customer or is constantly glancing away there is reasonable cause to assume that the customer is either going to feel as if the sales agent is shady or that the agent is otherwise preoccupied. This will lead the potential customer to feel non-important to the agent and the customer ma...
make eye contact, communicate, and to behave. However, a new, more unlikely method is being
During conversations, I have to put extra effort to maintain eye contact. One of the most important aspect of nonverbal communication is eye contact. The use of eye contact can be one of the most crucial and influential feature of our face. In America eye contact is essential “eye contact serves as a signal of readiness to interact and the absence of such contact, whether intended or accidental, tends to reduce the likelihood of such interactions”(Ruben & Stewart, 2015, 34). Eye contact shows that the person is interested in communicating with you, and has respect and appreciation for you. It gives the conversation a sense of flow. However the lack of eye contact can often seem disrespectful across culture. It is due to cultural comparison present regarding nonverbal communication. Every culture has its own altered
It was much larger than I had imagined, there were swing sets, slides, monkey bars, and numerous other odd structures that I’ve never seen before. I found myself a spot against the wall where sunlight can’t reach and decided to sit there until it is time to go back. It wasn’t long before someone approaches me. It was one of the boys in my class, he was thin with blond hair and a tad taller than I am. “Hey, what’s your name?” he asked. Although I understood the question, I still gave him the usual response. “Sorry, I don’t speak English.” I don’t think that I’ve ever talked to him again afterward. I think it was my tone that drove him away, I recall saying that in a way that I want to be left alone instead of a friendly apology for not being able to understand him. Looking back, I regret not introducing myself. He was one of the only few that ever approached me during that time and had I introduced myself properly even it is just my name, there’s a good chance we could have become friends. During my next few minutes of solitary, I made up conversations and scenarios in which I’m talking with someone and see how far I can get with my limited proficiency in English. I thought about how I can use hand gestures or facial expressions to convey my thoughts without having to use words. It wasn’t long before I decide to drop the idea because of how ridiculous I imagine it would
If it is a dinner date, then it does not seem to happen just as quickly as if it is just a drink date. These quiet moments are when it usually becomes awkward and either it leads to a quick end of the date or the guy starts asking me why I am staring at him. Of course, before I learned about cultural norms and folkways I never understood this question and quite frankly the question used to make me feel uncomfortable. Germans generally do not smile all the time like most Americans do, it is not because we are in a bad mood, angry or rude, it is just not part of our cultural norm to use facial expressions or hide behind a fake smile or in order to appear extra friendly. There is a distinction in demeanor between interacting with a stranger or a person considered a friend. The request made for me to smile and the looks of caution I receive because I do not wear a smile at all times left me often a bit confused. Thinking to myself, why am I asked not to stare or to smile (on command)? I suppose the gentleman I am conversing with can read my facial expression yet does not necessarily decipher it in the way it was intended. By now we are both uncomfortable and the conversation slows to a halt. In the past I have often wondered if I have used a wrong word, a word with a different interpretation than he has, which is not uncommon when one speaks the language as mother tongue
Spoken language is just one aspect of communication- the nonverbal conversations that happen are just as important, if not more so, in understanding what’s happening around us. Depending on the culture that a person is raised in, they will have different associations to various nonverbal cues, such as facial expressions, hand symbols, and head movements. Without grasping the different meanings, it is impossible to completely know what is happening in the conversation, therefore leading to a misunderstanding, which in turn leads to frustration. When one doesn’t know what a person means, they are bound to become aggravated. A time in my life when this related to me was when I traveled to California compared to when I visited Hawai’i. In California, smiling at strangers wasn’t too common, other than at commercialized places. In Hawai’i, however, the people were very friendly and welcoming. When a person didn’t smile back in Hawai’i, they seemed a little uptight, whereas in California, not smiling was the norm. Even though I was within the U.S. both times, the culture varied with