Throughout life individuals go through many different losses in life. In Grief and Losses across the Lifespan I have learned that death is not the only type of loss that people experience in life. Before taking this course, I was not aware of the multiple type of loss individual could experience. For most individuals not educated on these losses, they look at them as expected. From the typical occurrence of these loss they become disenfranchised by society which causes people to experience complicated grief. As people develop through different age groups they experience different typical and maturational losses, that need to be grieved. As I age I anticipate going through different losses that will each have a lasting effect on me. Some of …show more content…
During this present stage of my life I can already senses different losses approaching. One loss I anticipate, is the loss of less responsibility filled time. In high school, I was never stressed about school, I could balance all my responsibilities and get by without stressing about classes. However, once I entered college I realized my high school antics would not get me to where I wanted to be in classes. With school kicking up responsibility and needing to work to pay for certain necessities, an always being pressured to plan out every detail of my future it is hard to find the care free time I used to experience. In addition to this loss during emerging adulthood, I am sure that I will go through a loss of love. This is a common loss, but in this class I have learn it is okay to grieve this loss. I realized it is not just “puppy loss” that I simple need to move on from. When I imagine my life as I become increasing old there are more losses I anticipate. One loss that I anticipate going through is the loss of my family home. I assume this loss would happen during middle adulthood. I know this loss will have a big impact on me. The home I am currently living in has been the only home that I have ever known. This home holds numerous memories for …show more content…
One major loss I fear, is the loss of my marriage by divorce. In addition, to my fear of divorce I believe I have a fear of losses dealing with childbearing. Deciding to have a child is such a big decision, that I do not plan to make lightly. I believe that my fear of divorce and child bearing, both root from a bigger fear of loss of identity. In the book while talking about both of these losses there was also a big secondary loss of identity. With divorce, I would have to rework a lot of my life to find out who I am without this significate other in my life. While if I do decide to have a child, I have to figure out how to not loss myself. This could be a challenge while taking care of my new baby. Finally, my greatest fear has to be a loss of health, as I am taking care of my family. This has to do with the fact that my father had a loss of health that affected me while growing up. I do not want my children to feel responsible for taking care of me, as I felt responsible taking care of my father. The fear of these losses does make the future seem terrifying but from the skills I learned from this class I am sure I will be able to handle them. If I cannot handle
Loss and How We Cope We all deal with death in our lives, and that is why Michael Lassell’s “How to Watch Your Brother Die” resonates with so many readers. It confronts the struggles of dealing with death. Lassell writes the piece like a field guide, an instruction set for dealing with death, but the piece is much more complex than its surface appearance. It touches on ideas of acceptance, regret, and misunderstanding, to name a few. While many of us can identify with this story, I feel like the story I brought into the text has had a much deeper and profound impact.
or any issues with her urine production. Mrs. L stated that she does not urinate excessively and that she has never noticed an extreme change in color of her urine. A urinary tract infection or yeast infection is not something that Mrs. L said she has experienced in the past. Mrs. L stated that she is not currently sexually active because of her age and it is more difficult than it used to be. She has never had any sexually transmitted infections or other issues with her genital health. Mrs. L stated that she does have arthritis in her feet and hips. She has never had a muscle tear or tore a ligament or tendon. Mrs. L also said that she has never had any issues with her ACL. Her back surgeries are the only things Mrs. L stated that have been
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
Individually, everyone has their own methods of dealing with situations and emotions regardless of any positive or negative connotation affixed to them. One prime example of this comes with grief. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying” suggests that there are five stages of mourning and grief that are universal and, at one point or another, experienced by people from all walks of life. These stages, in no particular order, are as follows: Denial and Isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance. Each individual person works through these stages in different orders for varying levels of time and intensity, but most if not all are necessary to “move on.” In order for positive change to occur following a loss, one must come to terms with not only the event but also themselves.
Lossography is the concept that death can be meaningful based upon cultural values, traditions, and personal beliefs. There are many situations that pertain to the concept of Lossography one particular relation is death education. According to Lossography pertaining to students studies show that students tend to express the issues of death more elaborately through writing (Bolkan, 2015). This is an important aspect of Lossography due to the students being able to express how they feel about death, and be able to express their experiences and cultural beliefs pertaining to a loss loved one. According to the study the most frequent reported death is the loss of a grandparent; many students have encountered the loss of a grandparent at an early
The therapist in The Legacy of Unresolved Loss used active interventions to help this family, and let them determine what their problems are instead of diagnosing the issue first off. The therapist first tried to place the issues in a broader context that include, extended family, community, gender, class and cultural background. (Mcgoldrick, The Legacy of Unresolved Loss) The therapist believes that “we are connected to all who came before and to all who will come after” (Mcgoldrick, The Legacy of Unresolved Loss). The therapist found out the majority of this information after she constructed a genogram during the first session of therapy. The genogram helped to support the individuals and their backgrounds, but it also was a useful tool
I have felt the pain of the loss of a Sister; have felt the pain of the death of my Mother, and felt the death of my Father. I know how it feels. I experienced it. It is painful, looking at those old kind folks who bore you; who took care of you; went through all kinds of sacrifices and pains just to look after you for years and years, until one day the child stood on one’s own two feet, and then … there they are, the parents, helpless and lifeless in front of you.
Everyone has or will experience a loss of a loved one sometime in their lives. It is all a part of the cycle of life and death. The ways each person copes with this loss may differ, but according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s novel On Death and Dying, a person experiences several stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance. There is no set time for a person to go through each stage because everyone experiences and copes with grief differently. However, everyone goes through the same general feelings of grief and loss. There are also sections in Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” that connect to the process of grieving: “On Pain,” “On Joy and Sorrow,” and “On Talking.” Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” reflects on Kübler-Ross’s model of the different stages of grief and loss.
People cope with the loss of a loved one in many ways. For some, the experience may lead to personal growth, even though it is a difficult and trying time. There is no right way of coping with death. The way a person grieves depends on the personality of that person and the relationship with the person who has died. How a person copes with grief is affected by the person's cultural and religious background, coping skills, mental history, support systems, and the person's social and financial status.
The “The five stages of grief” by Linda Pastan and the imageries related to the poem provokes an idea that if an individual just follow what others say without attempting to make a change, they are unlikely to look forward and move on. The protagonist fails to step out of her melancholic nostalgia past, while others think it’s as easy as “learning to climb/ Stairs after amputation”. Relearning to climb after amputation suggests that what was previously known is either forgotten or unuseful similar to how a newborn baby is learning to climb. They start fresh with no previous knowledge affecting them, so this requires that the individual to neglect their past and start fresh. However, as she moves through the stages of denial, anger, bargaining and etc, a common theme present through her actions is that her thoughts, emotions, and memories only revolve around loved one, and consequently, everything she does acknowledges his
The first chapter of Ecclesiastes, a book in the Bible, concludes with the words, “For in much wisdom is much grief, and increase of knowledge is increase of sorrow.” This quotation explains that the more you understand and discover about the world the more despondent you will become. In The Awakening, Kate Chopin shows that knowledge can cause grief while knowledge can also cause empowerment and self-fulfillment.
I will be able to empathize, because I know how it feels. I am going to challenge myself, dig deep into these feelings of loss, and take what I have learned from this class and live a happier life. Finally, the last thing I am going to reflect on from this class is being more mindful. I am going to pay more attention to what I am feeling, both inside my body and mind and on what is going on the outside. I am going to make a conscious effort to be in the now, without judging or criticizing what I find.
It was a traumatic and unexpected loss that shook my family. The loss of my husband stopped me in my tracks, and it felt like I was from another planet learning to survive in an entirely new world. Of course I am still affected and triggered by my grief, but the journey has been bittersweet and transformational, to say the least. However, the time of transition I am basing this paper on is how my new relationship has affected my family and the ways in which we are making the transition from loss to renewal and what they once viewed and knew me as, to the person I am today. To understand the impact of the loss one would have to know that my late husband and I had known one another since sixth grade, married out of high school and for ten years prior to his death. We “grew up together” for some of our relationship and he became part of our family of origin, as did his nuclear family. Our relationship and his families with ours changed my family’s identity, as we joined the characteristics of two different families (Bennet, Wolin & McAvity, 1988). My late husband’s death disrupted the continuity of our family identity, and roles shifted to maintain a balance in the period of
In my life time, I have experienced many deaths. I have never had anyone that was very close to me die, but I have shed tears over many deaths that I knew traumatically impacted the people that I love. The first death that influenced me was the death of my grandfather. My grandfather passed away when I was very young, so I never really got the chance to know him. My papaw Tom was my mothers dad, and she was very upset after his passing. Seeing my mom get upset caused me to be sad. The second death that influenced my life was the death of my great grandmother. My great grandmother was a very healthy women her whole life. When she was ninety three she had
When reminiscing about my childhood a home is hard to recall. It seemed common for others to have a place called home. Moving from house to house was not the problem, but the empty feeling. Home to me was my grandparent’s house. I spent nearly all of my childhood there. My grandparents bought the one story house with two bedrooms in the early seventies. From the spacious bedroom, to the kitchen with endless possibilities and the way I spent my time this house defined my character.