Adoptive parenting generally commences as a possible option, an idea that the couple entertains as serious doubts about whether they will ever be able to become biologically parents start seeping in (Blomquist, 2009). This seems to suggest that while still trying to conceive their biological child, couples may try to create the mental space to be open to the idea of accepting a child born from another couple. The intimate way in which the option of adoption is entertained mentally could mean that the decision to adopt may be taken with fear and hope at the same time. This argument resonates with the theme of mourning underscored in the article by Noy-Sharav (2002) which however, needs to be understood in the context of the self-object relations framework it adopted.
2.3.1 The implication of gender on the decision to adopt
The decision to adopt may carry different meanings for husband and wife. De Beavoir contends that we do not become mothers simply by bearing a child but that we are made into mothers (as cited in Woertman, 1993). Notwithstanding the ongoing social changes that challenge the meaning of kinship as biologically-based (Miall & March, 2003), women may resist adoption in the belief that procreation and bearing a child is the very essence of womanhood (Cudmore, 2005). Similarly, men’s willingness toward adoption may be influenced by their dynastic duty to keep the thread of family genes going and infertility to denote a lack of virility and masculinity (Cudmore, 2005). This often translates in men often requiring more time to accept the idea of adopting a child (Högbacka, 2008).
2.3.2 The implications of the larger context on the decision to adopt
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... al., (2011) connote this to the stigmatizing attitudes around adoption. The qualitative study of McKay and Ross (2010) which study took also the perspective of fathers also revealed parents’ tendency to view themselves as less capable than biological parents.
Dealing with subliminal yet pervasive culturally induced attribution of parenthood and family formed by bloodlines may encumber the formation of a positive parental identity (Leon, 2002). Adoptive parents may doubt whether they are ‘real’ parents (Blomquist, 2009; Timm et al., 2011) perhaps due to internalised cultural beliefs about “real parents” being tantamount to conceiving one’s own child (Leon, 1998;) and feeling intense emotions germane to the experience of becoming pregnant and having a biological connection to the child (Cudmore, 2005; Levy-Shiff, Goldschmidt & Har-Even, 1991; Miall & March, 2003).
In Wade F. Horn’s article “Promoting Marriage as a Means of Promoting Fatherhood,” Horn discusses how having a child and being married is better for children because the father is more involved in the child’s life. Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas’s “Unmarried with Children,” on the other hand, takes the reader through Jen’s story about getting pregnant at a young age and deciding not to marry the father of her son. While both sources make appeals to emotion, reason, and character, Edin and Kefalas’s article makes more successful appeals and thus is the stronger argument.
When a couple or individual decides to adopt a child, they know they are going to take on the responsibility of taking care of someone else’s child. Due to the biological parent(s) who can’t take care of that child anymore, because of either drug abuse, alcohol abuse, abuse to the child or if the parent(s) had died and there is no other care for the child. So that’s why this gives other couples who cannot have kids, the opportunity to promise themselves to be a great parent to a child in need. Though there are some bad things about adoption as well. Like adopting a child from another country of another race, because once that child is adopted into an American family, he or she will be cut off from their culture and never know about their history. Everyone should to know about their culture and history.
Adoption is in place to balance, to nurture and create a structural environment of safety in which the child can thrive and develop into a productive individual contributing to society. Also, it allows older children to abandon old maladaptive behaviors and make their first steps toward the construction of new behaviors influenced by their new environment. In years past, parents who adopted a child as an infant often debated whether to tell him or her about the adoption. Many children grew up not knowing they were adopted, and the birth mother’s identity was kept secret from those who did know (Ashford, LeCroy and Lortie 249). This paper provides facts on widely acceptance option of open adoption rather than the traditional practice of closed adoption. Adoption separates real biological family members, removing the adopter heritage whether the adoption is open or closed. Open adoption can lead to problems, but there are proven facts that open adoption is the best option for all parties working together in the best interest of the children.
Sealed records for adoptees should be illegal due to the emotional, medical and the history of an adoptee. How is sealing a person’s life away upon any kinds of adoptions and never allowing them to know who they are, where they came from, and their medical background be close to right? How can being for sealed records ever help the ones who really need the support?
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According to American academy and adolescent psychiatry, about 120,000 children are adopted in the United States alone. That is a lot of children that need to find a new home to stay in. Not only do adoptions affect the child after they are adopted, no matter the age; but adoption also affects the parents giving their child up for adoption. There are many types of adoptions. Along with that, there are many reasons for giving the child up for adoption. There are three main perspectives that I will be talking about. One function would be the structural functionalism. How society cooperates. The second would be the conflict perspective. The third would be symbolic interactionism approach. There are many different aspects of adoption, making it
Reinoso, M., Juffer, F., & Tieman, W. (2013). Children's and parents' thoughts and feelings about adoption, birth culture identity and discrimination in families with internationally adopted children.Developmental Psychology, 18(3), 264-274. Retrieved from http://ejournals.ebsco.com.logon.lynx.lib.usm.edu/Direct.asp?AccessToken=9IIIMIJ8X5D5KEREZM4EMUQ4D9PK8X5QIX&Show=Object
Many people grow up in loving families and cannot imagine not having their parents and siblings around, but each year, 18,000 or more American born babies are put up for adoption (Newlin Carney). That means at least 18,000 children face the harsh truth of maybe not having a family to grow up in. Childhood is a very important part of one’s life and helps shape who one is. These children that are eligible to be adopted just need loving parents, good homes, and stability. And who is to say the high price of adopting is not ho...
Families are becoming more diverse and they come in all shapes and sizes. Some people consider families to be strictly biological, while others consider people they love to be their family. Although two-parent families, also known as a nuclear family are the majority, one-parent families are becoming more common in today’s society. A sole-parent is considered to be a parent without a partner or spouse who is the primary care giver of one or more children in a household (Ministry of Social Development, 2010). From the age of 14 onward I was raised by m...
"Introduction to Issues in Adoption: Current Controversies." Issues in Adoptions 2004. Gale Opposing Viewpoints In Context. Web. 17 Nov 2011.
Adoption is a very important part of the American lifestyle. The welfare of children needs to be put in front of homophobia. There are an estimated 500,000 children in foster care nation wide, and 100,000 of these children are awaiting adoption. In 2013, only one child of every six available for adoption was actually adopted. (Sanchez, 13) Statistics like these show the true importance of adoption. People seem to prefer to have their own children biologically, but adoption should be taken into consideration, even if natural conception is possible.
“Adopting one child won 't change the world: but for that child, the world will change.” (Unknown)(Buzzle.com). Adoption can take place in multiple shapes, forms, and fashions. You can adopt from a local adoption agency, or adopt from an orphanage half way around the world. You can adopt a child whose parents are no longer living, or you could adopt from a young mother who is not ready to raise a child. You can adopt one child who has touched your heart from an orphanage in Uganda, or a set of triplets being moved around from house to house in foster care. There are still further motivations and reasons for adopting. What if you and your spouse are unable to become pregnant? The desire to be parents does not diminish with the lack of
The best things in life come free to us. Our parents are one of the most important and fundamental in our life. However, people generally wonder, do adopted children feel the same way we do? Adoption is not easy, it's full of risks, simply because no one is aware of the future, the person adopting a child will never know how the child will react once he's aware he's adopted. Will they grow to love them, hate them, admire them or fear them? All of these unanswerable questions makes any person think twice before having the courage to adopt. Adoption never fails to put down any parents' feelings, whether they were homeless, abandoned, poor or runaway children and also families who don't have the option of being biological parents, the pleasure it gives to all of those people exceeds all of it's expected problems. However; adoption has some positive sides. It's one of life's fair treaties. It gives hope and integrity to the families who weren't fortunate to conceive; moreover, it changes the life of the child forever mostly positively. That's why many people support adoption worldwide.
What is adoption? Adoption is a legal process by which permanent legal custody is transferred from the birth parent to other parents. In this case Adoption is the process of making a child your own. Adoption is usually a process from non-biological parents. There are far more people wanting to adopt babies than there are babies to be adopted, only about twenty thousand babies a year are put up to be adopted, if an adoption agency places your baby up for an adoption only the best fit family can choose to adopt your child. All adoptions involve some form of consent – an agreement by the birth parent that the child should be adopted. If there are no living birth parents or the child was abandoned, then the consent must be given by the state or country where the child is a resident. Kinship adoptions occur when the birth parents are unstable to care for a child and some member of the child’s family seeks to adopt him or her.
What is adoption? Adoption is to take into one's family through legal means and raise as one's own child. I'm sure everyone in this class would like to become parents someday. But how many of you have ever considered adoption? Growing up as a child I had a friend that was adopted from Russia. Over the years we began to get closer, not just friends, practically brothers. We did absolutely everything together, band, drama, and tennis. Then one day he started to talk about his life and how much different it would be if he wasn't adopted. This sparked my interest in adoption and all the benefits behind it. Everyone wanting to have children should consider there options and keep an open mind about adoption. The benefits of adoption are endless. First, it can promote sharing within a house hold. Secondly, it provides many benefits for the child being adopted. Finally it can gives the parents the satisfaction of raising a child. Adoption is a great way to enhance a family's bond.