Marriage and family therapists Gary and Joy Lundberg’s article on the Family share website argues why it is important for couples to have children. Gary and Joy’s mission is to strengthen marriages and families worldwide through their books, music and family counselling business. The article “Why couples need to have kids” addresses why the reasons for couples, especially young ones, need to have children. The article states that there are practical reasons, emotional reasons and Biblical reasons for having children. In my opinion, I feel that a couple does not “need” to have children as the title of the article states. It is important for couples to privately decide whether they should have children or not. Each individual couple knows themselves and can determine if they are ready for children. The desire to have children is not in everyone and this article assumes so. The first argument in the article is the practical reasons for having children. The article lists reasons such as society counting on you and the elderly being without family in the future. To begin with, the argument that society counts on you should not be a major reason why couples should have children. It is true with the saying “it takes a village to raise a …show more content…
Firstly, for selfish reasons, the article states that although raising a child may be expensive and difficult, it will be the most rewarding thing for the couple. It gives the example of holding a newborn baby in your arms and having love for them. This does not include mothers that do not feel anything for their children right after they are born. The article does not consider the mothers that may have trouble bonding with their child immediately or at all. Another reason for having children is the desire your family to continue. This reason might not be a priority for everyone. Having a successor may not be important for every
The idea of bringing an unwanted baby into the world is wrong in so many ways. I personally believe having a child is an important decision that requires consideration, preparation, and planning. Having both parents to love, protect and care for the child should be the ideal way, but not having any of those would be devastating. According to “ The Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment Article , it stated that “unintended pregnancies are associated with birth defects, low birth weight , maternal depression, increased risk of child abuse ,lower educational attainment, delayed entry into prenatal care, a high risk of physical violence during pregnancy, and reduced rates of breastfeeding.” (75). As stated in the article, unintended pregnancies can become a result of many risks. I strongly agree with this statement because as I mentioned before a pregnancy requires plenty of consideration. For example, if a woman becomes pregnant and she is a drug addict, she is prone to put the drugs over the baby ,and that baby is likely to be born with some disabilities because of he or she was not taken seriously. In addition, a woman is more likely to become unemployed and therefore the woman would not be able to take care of herself or the baby. Furthermore, what about teenage girls that get pregnant
One argument supporting premise 1 is built around Kant’s Dictum “never to use a person as a means, but to treat him or her as end”1. Many parents do in fact have desires related to their children that with sex selection could come to fruition, however using a child solely as an end seems unreasonable . Savulescu argues that if parents “love their child
there is also an increase in friends placed in the voluntary kin category. The article states that people who are single or live alone think of themselves as a family. Yet studies shown that these single families tend to keep more in touch with the relatives. A statement that Dr. Coontz makes is that We’re seeing a class divide not only between the haves and the have-nots, but between the I do’s and the I do nots,”. The article also states that the way demographer noticed differences in today’s family from previous one was through the birth rates, today’s rate is about half of what it used to be in 1960. After the era of the baby boom in 1964, the rate was 36 percent, and last year the number dropped to 23.5 percent predicting a 21 percent of child births by 2050. This because less women are become mothers – yet those who are only have one or two children compared the 3 children per family in the 1970s. Another reason the articles bring up about child care is the expenses, a child can easily cost a family as little as 241,080 to about a million dollars. However, the article agrees with chapter when it states that women with a bachelor or higher wait longer to get married and have children (about 90 percent)
Perhaps the first thing one must consider is why there are increasing numbers of poor women having children out of wedlock. One explanation of this concept that Edin and Kefalas use is that the poor women view raising their own child as a sense of accomplishment. For instance, they explain “in the social world inhabited by poor women, a baby born into such conditions represents an opportunity to prove one 's worth.” (11.3). Essentially, the women of a low social class view their children as an opportunity for success. It represents a sense of hope and fulfillment that the mother feels when she has a child. Also, interestingly enough, women of a poor class viewed “marriage as a luxury” (11.2). There are also reasons that involve a sense of fear in control. For instance, Edin and Kefalas explain that “poor women do not want to marry until they are set… a young mother often fears marriage will mean a loss of control” (13.3). Essentially, a poor women who has a child
In Wade F. Horn’s article “Promoting Marriage as a Means of Promoting Fatherhood,” Horn discusses how having a child and being married is better for children because the father is more involved in the child’s life. Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas’s “Unmarried with Children,” on the other hand, takes the reader through Jen’s story about getting pregnant at a young age and deciding not to marry the father of her son. While both sources make appeals to emotion, reason, and character, Edin and Kefalas’s article makes more successful appeals and thus is the stronger argument.
It is written in Genesis 1:27 that when God created man and woman, the Torah states that He created them in “His Image” (Gen. 1:27). Many Jewish Orthodox scholars conclude from this, that each human being has a powerful, inherent value. After God created man and woman, He commanded them to, “Be fruitful and multiply” (Gen. 1:28). The commandment of “Be fruitful and multiply” explains the importance of the religious responsibility of the Jewish people to have children.
It is widely accepted that the birth of a child changes the parents’ marriage or relationship, but to what degree and to which areas of the relationship depend upon the individuals. One literature review by Cowan and Cowan, regarding the transition into parenthood, concluded that; changes that occur in parents’
In this time where science makes dreams feasible, and what years ago was saw to be difficult, now is promising, for this reason is okay and respectable when a traditional married couple try different methods to become parents. There are many treatments to solve this issue, such as in vitro fertilization, use of hormones, and the most new and revolutionary; ‘shop a gamete or baby’ the same as you shop for a car or a house; you can pick the color of the eyes, the color of the hair and the physique you want. Inside out is important to mention, all these treatments are not entirely effective. So what happens when all the resources are exhausted? The possibility to adopt a child who needs a family can be one of the best options, and the most valued accomplishment for this married couple. Scott Simon says “Many couples pay tens of thousands of dollars for rounds of medical wizardry instead of adopting children who are already among us, crying for our love and support” (The case for Adoption, par. 2). In America and other countries, the number of children waiting for the opportunity to be adopted by a family is immense; these children are waiting for someone to rescue them, hoping for love and safety before it is too late for them.
The first point Shaw brings up is that the main purpose of childbearing. This was for the wife to produce an heir for the husband. The father organized the whole house around this, in preparation for a son to take everything over when he died. O'Roark states that a major factor in having children was to love and to care for them. He however cannot deny that before this the realization is that the father must have children to pass everything on to.
...e are now able to have children. Human beings have a deep and basic need to procreate, and if we can help to fulfill this need I believe that we should, we should just make sure we do so with the possible child’s best interest and future in mind as well.
Many scientist and specifically sociologists are concerned with the population on planet Earth. Many couples today are choosing not to have children. This choice does not just effect the couples personally, however it effects the whole country's demographic. The increase in childlessness among couples generates economic and social problems. Many countries are facing this problem. Hara in a journal article mentions that Japan and Germany are a couple of the countries that are going through childlessness (Hara, 2008).Today, more than 80 countries depend on immigration to prevent the populations from declining, due to the death rate being higher than birth rate. (Becker-Posner, 2013) How will declining birth rates affect demographics in many countries around the world? How will it affect the Global economy? How will it affect societies in different countries; will it raise social and racial tensions? Will it affect relations
Children should be seen as blessing from God, and god should decide when a couple
Mills, Claudia. "Are There Morally Problematic Reasons for Having Children?." Philosophy and Public Policy Quarterly 25.4 (2005): 2-9. Philosophy and Public Policy Quarterly. Web. 29 Nov. 2013.
In U.S., having a child is a blessing, but not an easy task. Someone who is not financially independent, a teenager for example, having a baby at that age would be a difficult task. The individual might or might not have a strong family ties that will support her and the baby. If the individual isn’t in a place where she can have the baby, it is not the social value that will pay the bills. It is the skills she has that will qualify her in the work force to be financially independent and care for the baby, but she is not. She will have to come up with the money because college has to wait, and Macdonald won’t take care of the rent.
Research tells us--not that it is a surprise--there is a difference between the outcomes of a planned and wanted pregnancy compared to a mistimed or unwanted pregnancy. Specifically, many of those studies examine the risky behaviors and adverse experiences that are more common among women with mistimed pregnancies compared to those that are most common among women whose pregnancies were described as unwanted.