Expectations In Only Daughter By Sandra Cisneros

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Growing up I thought that the only way to make my parents happy and to notice me was to follow the expectations they had for my older brother. I thought their expectations were supposed to be my goals, but as I got older I started to realize that meeting their expectation wasn't good for me. I wasn't supposed to just have goals to make them happy. I was supposed to have goals that I wanted, goals that were supposed to benefit me. After reading "Only Daughter" by Sandra Cisneros it helped me confirm this feelings I was having. You don't always have to meet up with your parents standards to be acknowledged or for them to be proud of you. You shouldn't let that stop you from accomplishing your goals and that one day the people that love you will be proud that you achieved your goals. …show more content…

They expected so much from him, he was the one to go to college and major in medicine or engineering. To get this great job that made good money, and to support the whole family. He was my parent's American dream, while my little sister and I we're along for the ride. As a kid I thought that since they expected that from him, I had to do to the same. I started to develop a mentality that education wasn't for me, but for my family to become successful. I fail to realize that what my parents were doing to my older brother was wrong. That they were going to use him to live the life they couldn't have. I didn't realize the stress they put him through and that because of that stress he was slowly becoming depressed. I was so stuck in this world that their expectations we're supposed to be mine. After my brother graduated high school, I started to doubt the mentality I developed after he had enough and left. But because I didn't want to disappoint my parents like my brother did, I just pushed the issue

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