Connor Kelly highlights and brings insight to the development and cultural effect the hookup culture has evoked on college campuses in “Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture”. Connor starts out with the statement: “Hooking up-the practice of pursuing sexual activity without any expectation of a relationship” (Kelly 27). It is also explained that hooking up can constitute as kissing, sexual intercourse, or anywhere in between. The mystery of the “in-between” allows individuals to participate in the hookup culture as a means to fit in, without being specific on what level of sexual activity they are partaking in. A main theme of this article can be described by the idea that hooking up allows for a greater realm of independence than …show more content…
For women in particular, they believe they have to please everyone around them including their parents. With partaking in the hookup culture, they are able to work towards their career, which pleases their parents, while still being sexually gratified, therefor also pleasing themselves. As a general statement for both men and women, both parties across college campuses are looking to just hook up now, and save marriage for later. With that being said, there is still statistical evidence that women seek marriage at a higher rate in college than men. Although everyone who partakes in the hookup culture does so for different reasons, some women do join as a way to conform to society. Others even join the hookup culture with the intentions to find a relationship, thinking that they can “change” a man into getting into a committed relationship: “Men are more willing to engage in the hookup culture for sexual gratification alone while women are more likely to be seeking relationships from their hookups” (Kelly 38). Many women who do have this mindset are aware they likely won’t be …show more content…
Going along with this quote, it is stated that hooking up is detrimental to a possible future relationship with that person, and that the days following the hookup could be awkward. A key aspect of the hookup culture that differs from committed relationships, is that there is a need for the separation of emotion from the physical activity: “A true expulsion of commitment requires a separation of emotions from physical activity that is challenging to accomplish” (Kelly 37). This is one reason as to why the hookup culture is skewed against women. It is scientifically suggested that it is easier for men to separate emotions from physical activity than it is for women. Along with this aspect, there are feminist that believe the hookup culture is skewed against women for multiple other reasons as well. Some feminist believe that: “Women should participate in the hookup culture in order to match the freedom of men” (Kelly 41). This quote suggests that men have more freedom than women, even on college campuses and in regards to sexual gratification. Others suggest that women that take part of the hookup culture, and are known to take part in it by males, are less desirable because they have the connotation of a “slut”.
Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
Conor Kelly argues in her article, “Sexism in Practice: Feminist Ethics Evaluating the Hookup Culture” that the hookup culture discriminates women and disempowers them too. I will like to agree with Kelly, many women do not become stronger from the hooking up culture. They tend to become weaker from the men that encourage them to feel a certain way but the second they stop paying attention to them, they feel less of themselves. Yet, for many women hooking up gives them more control of their own life making them feel that they have more power. And as time starts to change, people start to grow and mature try to accept one another equally. But we have to conclude that the double standard is not going to change.
Farley in the “Norms for Just Sex” argues that social justice has accepted the norms on hooking up. “The norm derives from our obligation to respect relationally, but not only from this. It derives more generally from the obligation to respect all persons as ends in themselves, to respect their autonomy and relationally, and thus not to harm them but to support them (Farley, 228)”. This correlates with my argument that hooking up is moral based on the acceptance of society. In addition “whether persons are single or married, gay or straight, bisexual or ambiguously gendered, old or young, abled or challenge in the ordinary forms of sexual expression, they have claims to respect from the Christian community as well as the wider society (Farley, 228).” Again, this proves my argument to be right when I said that acceptance is the key to hooking up, no one really cares anymore of who you are, what you do, and how you do it, as long as you can accept one another hooking up is the norm of
As stated in the book, “college students have much to teach about sex” (8). That is because the values, ideologies, and worldviews of the students are representative of greater American culture. Although flawed, hookup culture on American campuses hold the possibility of accepting a culture of inclusivity, care, pleasure, and freedom while also rejecting predatory behavior, racism, classism, and abuse. Dismissing hookup culture all together is blind to the reality that young adults are going to have sex, and since sex is non-negotiable, one’s aim should be to foster open dialogue and critical thought onto a future where everyone enjoys the ability to freely explore sexuality, sex, and gender on their own
One of the points Freitas makes in the beginning of the book is, “The rise and “progress” of hookup culture rests in the fact that young adults are simply getting better at being uncaring.” (13). Is it “uncaring” of the active independence of choice to engage in hookups without the shame? Women for centuries have been sexually repressed by societal pressures, so when they choose to become liberated from the shame, they are met with the idea that they are ambivalent to sex. She says that hookup culture hinders people from becoming successful in her terms, “ We cannot encourage our students and children to become whole, integrated, empowered, and virtuous people if we fail to adequately address hookup culture and to articulate how it works against these goals.” (15). So, not only does it make people “uncaring” to Freitas, it also somehow discredits your capability to be successful. Those ideas sound very much like the rhetoric used on women for centuries to defuse their empowerment. She also includes, “Ultimately, we need to empower them to seek the kinds of relationships they want…”(16). Freitas neglects to acknowledge that some women might want to engage in hookups and not desire a relationship in the traditional sense. There is constant ignorance of choice behind sexuality and expression, confused with a lack of
Hooking up on a college campus has its positives and negatives. First off men benefit more from hooking up than women do. Women benefit more from traditional dating. The article “To Hook Up or Date: Which Gender Benefits?” by Carolyn Bradshaw, Arnold S. Kahn, and Bryan K. Saville explains how men benefit from hooking up and how women benefit from traditional dating. It explains the consequences of hooking up and the consequences of traditional dating. Hooking up has become so popular on college campuses that it has become the norm. In the article it explained how both genders have a similar ideas to hooking up as well as similar ideas to traditional dating. Both genders said hooking up is more popular than traditional dating because there is no commitment to continue the relationship. You meet a stranger at a party and if there is alcohol involved it makes the “hooking up” an easier process. You then start flirting with the stranger and engage in sexual behavior whether it is kissing or having sex. Traditional dating does have its benefits as well because you have the feeling of being liked/loved and also your partner is a friend to share happy moments with. The article did mentioned that both genders wanted a traditional date if you knew the other person had the same feelings for you.
When you hear the term “hooking up” you generally think of a sexual encounter with a stranger, but as explained in the book Hooking Up: Dating, Sex, and Relationships on Campus by Kathleen Bogle, this is not the true definition of the term because there is no true definition of the word. Bogle effectively addresses the social issue of hooking up as well as accurately addresses the ambiguity of the term itself in her book as he goes through the history of dating and how things have progressively changed over the last 115 years as well as the atmosphere of the college campus and how it is ideal for hooking up. She moves into the actual hook up and what exactly that consists of, next into the biases between the sexes and then into relationships after college and how they differ from the ones in college.
Young adults in college typically are not looking for commitment, but rather a positive sexual experience. Two outlets for this preference are friends with benefits (FWB) and hookups. Hookups involve two people engaging in sexual activity with the foreknowledge that there are “no strings attached”. For people who actively avoid commitment, and emotional involvement hookups are preferential. This is because the two can engage in meaningless sex for the sake of pleasure. I remember once reading a New York Times article that calls hookups appealing because they are low cost, low investment engagements. Factors such as the false consensus effect, social media, and the modern collegian attitude influence the
Traditionally, sex was to happen after couples got married and the main purpose for reproduction of the human race. With time sex has evolved into today’s culture with the act of a “hookup,” which represents a marked shift in openness and acceptance of uncommitted sex that collaborates with physical and sexual attractions. Even though sex has become acceptably casual within society there are still those who value the meaning of sex and can only express it with one person because they both feel the same way emotionally. An regardless sex will always create a beautiful creation.
This article first goes on to describe how feminist and writers are talking about how girls want to appeal to men. It is common for girls to show up to a party with the intentions of “looking hot” in the eyes of men. This can bring on casual hookups. This can cause women and men to eliminate dating and reverting to “hooking up”. The article describes how many believe that younger ages are having more casual sex than their parents did at that age, and this is false. In my opinion, I disagree. I always hear of individuals loosing their virginity at lower ages as I grow older. College students participate in more casual hookups, and “69 percent of heterosexual students had been in a college relationship of at least six months”. These relationships
Hooking up was once used mostly when referring to your college days. But, scarily enough, it is now leaking into the young teen population. Newfound technology is allowing teens to meet for one reason and one reason only-casual sex. Many cases of these hookups going wrong are surfacing on the internet, and have horrific outcomes. Hookup culture is becoming more rampant with newfound teen dating apps, that are practically an open door way for sex. It’s harming the youth of today through forms of instant gratification and mind-numbing guilt. Not to mention physical dangers such as rape or a STD.
This macrosystem is what the college students see as a whole. These are the so-called norms to follow. Sex over the years finds its way from a taboo to an "everyone 's doing it" attitude. Mothers and fathers would never tell their child about sex. The child did not even know that there parents still had sex after they were born. Today, it is a general understanding or ideology that all people have sex all the time. College students, thus do not find anything wrong with it and it does not help that they in general find themselves invincible. The culture of a college student includes studies during the week and parties on the weekend. The parties are full of fun and the nights are generally filled with boys taking different girls home every night. This culture will only bring on negative effects and it has been found that college students have a higher chance of acquiring an STD. Every aspect of the systems has shown direct correlation with why college students have more
In actuality, many black students are abstaining from hook up culture. Also a 2013 study presented at the annual meeting of the American Sociological Association finds that only a small fraction of college students have had more than one partner in the past year (Szalavitz). This research would contradict the claim of hook up culture being the predominate culture on campus. If hook up culture is simply a sub culture, the power of social stigma is significantly less for students who don’t participate. The negative consequences that may be experienced by women is only happening to a small fraction of wealthy white women (Heldman). Kelly argues that students who choose to remove themselves from the hookup culture run into social difficulties, because other student still engrained in hook up culture presume their platonic signals as sexual. While they may have social misunderstanding because these individuals interpret interactions differently these misunderstandings should not be perceived as something to be avoided. Embracing cultural diversity will result in misunderstanding and miscommunication. When students who participate in hookup culture interact with those who aren’t it is a mutually beneficial learning experience which may be uncomfortable and awkward but not harmful to
In the Rape culture, rape is common ruled out because of the hookup activities among college students. Female are common blamed for getting themselves rape when it is the rapists responsibility. When a female have multiple hookups within her college experiences she is consider as a “‘ho’ and she’s not as quality of a person” (Armstrong, Hamilton, and England 2010). This plays as a double standard and gender inequality. Female also focus on pleasing the opposite sex during the hookup to be view as sex appeal figure. With this concept, the female put the male feeling first and disregard her self-image. If the hookup ends up bad, the female could possibly become depressed or have low self-esteem because she did not achieve her goal of satisfying the
The reason that many students find casual sex appealing is the fact that it is wrong. We as human beings find the danger of doing some thing wrong intriguing. We are animals and are always testing our limits. Sex is an explored subject that is hushed as we are children growing up. We are taught that is not to be talked about and that we should always have boundaries before we practice this interesting, yet provocative action. As college students we are free from all authority and we tend to explore these new actions. Our animal instincts kick in and we are soon experiencing new emotions and feelings that we end up succumbing to under different circumstances. We explore all the different things that we are shunned away from as children and are able to do so without any authority telling us other wise. Our boundaries are set free and then we are dealt with the choice of emotional sex or casual sex. Most people do not see the emotional side of sex until they become older. As college s...