I interviewed Ann (pseudonym), who is a middle-aged woman who is a mother of three and has always been a happy, loving, and positive human being. However when I knew that I was going to interview her, I instantly knew that I was going to focus on the topic of how extramarital affairs (emotional and or sexual relationship a spouse has outside of their relationship) and divorce affects middle aged women. I chose this topic as the effects it has on a woman can be life-changing and can result in them becoming an entirely different person, and in the case of Ann it couldn’t be any more apparent. It is important to acknowledge that a divorce and the effect that it has is one subject matter, but a divorce caused by extramarital affairs is an entirely separate issue as it can have damaging short term effects, long term effects, and financial consequences. While divorce is not a primary process of aging, it is a secondary process that affects a large amount of women as they age in life. Understanding the basics of extramarital affairs such as the prevalence of them, who participates in them, and why they participate in them is the first step in understanding the effect they can have.
There isn’t a known culture that accepts extramarital affairs (Jankowiak, Nell, and Buckmaster, 2002). Eric Widmer, Judith Treas, and Robert Newcomb (1998) published an article concerning attitudes on premarital sex, teenage sex, homosexual sex, and extramarital sex in 24 different countries. Their research consisted of surveying over 33,000 people. Their findings were very interested as while premarital sex gathered the strongest acceptance and homosexual sex gathered the most varied responses; it was extramarital sex that countries agreed on the mo...
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Divorce is a plague that is destroying numerous families across the United States of America. Sadly, when husbands and wives divorce, the children are often caught directly in the middle. Throughout the years divorce has been becoming more and more common. In the 1920's it was a rare find to know a person whom had been divorced, today it is a rarity not to know of one who has been, or will be divorced. Divorce has numerous effects on the structures of families, and many devastating effects on the children that must experience it, although sometimes necessary, divorce radically changes the lives of adolescents and adults alike.
In today’s society, infidelity is one of the leading causes of marital disruption and divorce. In accordance with societal norms many myths have been associated with infidelity. The following myths and their effects on marriage will be discussed: Everyone has affairs, the affair is the direct result of the faithful mate and, the marriage must end in divorce. In examining the various myths, this paper will challenge the greater issue, can marriage survive infidelity?
During the 19th century (early 1920s), the divorce rates increased by every 1000 marriages, 6.6 of them ended in divorce. Until the end of WWII, divorce rates double every five years mainly due to the expectation of what a marriage is and the separation between a soldier and his wife. Separation between a newly married couple can cause distrust due to the distance. Most newly married wives expected the life of happiness and excitement, however, they did not expect to lose their husband to the war nor did they expect the abusive behavior, also known as PTSD, from soldiers coming home from the war, whether it ended or the soldier was honorably discharged due to an injury. In American, divorce rate skyrocketed mainly caused by many reasons, such as boredom, lying, money, overbearing personality, and the ignorance of sex. Even in today’s society, divorce can be cause by all of these reasons. However, after WWI, divorce rates increase to over seventeen percent. Although a married woman was never taught about sex until she wedded, the married woman being ignorance about sex can cause a divorce, blaming the married woman to be at fault. Another reason is seen mostly in wealthy society where a wife gets bored and files for divorce. Boredom is one of the biggest cause for marital failure. Although the married wives file for divorce due to boredom, she will less than likely to be ridiculed by
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