• seek to move onward and upward in life
• find healthy playgrounds and playmates to associate with.
• have enough self-confidence to cope with new challenges and to view them positively.
Traits of a Negative self-concept include:
A negative self – concept represents weak self-approval. People with a negative self-concept…
• people with a negative self-concept…
• have low self-esteem and strong self-refection, even if they are in denial of it.
• tend to expect failure in what they do
• lack motivation because they have not done well in the past.
• look for the easy way out of situations because they lack self-confidence to work through the situation.
• lack confidence in social situations when meeting new people.
• tend to be unaware of the world and life, usually due to a lack of appropriate exposure.
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• sometimes set goals that are unrealistically high then they feel like failures when those goals can not be reached.
• sometimes set lows that are too low then they feel little success because the challenge was too easy.
On a special note: Hurt children (especially teenagers) are very good Oscar Award winning actors and actresses; Angelina Joelle, Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise, please step aside. Hence, they can appear to be very self –confident. However, if you look very closely and observe over time, you will see their “true colors” emerging. When they are acting, it is as if their live is a bit too perfect and smooth running.
Do a quick assessment of the teen’s self-concept after you have known the teen for a while. You can use the following checklist that I have compiled, based on clinical observation, over the past few decades.
Checklist for positive self-concept
• Does he seem to have self - confidence? How often and under what circumstances?
• Can he point out specific aspects about himself that he likes, which are
David Mamet once stated, “..it is the human lot to try and fail..” This quotation implies that an individual will attempt to achieve success throughout their lifetime, but he/she will also have to face the failures as well. The quote relates to the philosophy that in order to achieve something, one will have to work for it. This quotation is correct and is further supported by two literary works. The two novels are Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck and The Pearl, also by John Steinbeck. In these two novels, the protagonists know that their goals are very farfetched and out of the norm, yet they both try to achieve it and ultimately fail.
...view of the circumstances presented, allowing ignorance to become the downfall of their own well-being.
a lot of stress in their lives and cannot deal with it as easily as
that if they reach a goal that seems so hard to accomplish, that they will get their
...oped by the system that keeps them within the cycle. Society is the wall that blocks one to success, but it is their own shadow of fear and normalcy that ultimately covers the opportunity.
People usually do not have a concrete plan for their future, so they do not know what direction they are going to take; it is so difficult for people to set themselves up for success when they have no real support system put in place. They often have negative people around them that will bring them down, too, which will lead to a lack of motivation, and this will set them up for failure, especially when they set goals that are not clear enough or realistic. People are usually not motivated or disciplined enough, use too many excuses, and get overwhelmed by obstacles, causing them to fail.
In everyday life, each ( infant, toddler, adult) observe others person’s actions and behavior and make inferences about other’s attitude based on what they see and find. Psychologist Daryl Ben (1967) who developed SPT (Self-Perception Theory) state that, people develop their attitudes by observing their behavior. Parents and primary caregivers play a significant role in child’s developing self-concept and self-esteem.
What is your immediate reaction following a bad event or an unfortunate day? Do you move on, or do you start blaming yourself for something that was entirely out of your control? If you’re fidgeting right now because you’re guilty of the latter then your negative self-talk is fueling feelings of stress, anxiety, and depression. You can reduce your stress levels by finding the positive in every situation. Don’t beat yourself up when something isn’t going your way, dust yourself off and promise to get it right the next time.
Moreover, Rodger always exploits other people for his selfish gains which is a distinguishing narcissistic quality. As for exploiting, author W. Keith Campbell in his article, “The Narcissistic Self: Background, an Extended Agency Model, and Ongoing Controversies” explains that, “Likewise, narcissists’ low levels of guilt and social anxiety (Gramzow & Tangney, 1992), and their willingness to exploit others, make them more suited to self-regulation that benefits the self at the expense of others” (5). As a result of this, Rodger, in pursuit of money and women, but never try to get them through his own effort so he uses others to get what he wants. For example, Rodger regardless of his mother’s thought, constantly asks his mother to marry a wealthy
Sometimes achieving goals can be hard for me when other things step into my path and I focus on that more than what I am trying to achieve. I have not achieved any of my goals ranging from eating healthier to learning how to play guitar. When trying to achieve the goal of eating healthier McDonalds sounded much better than healthy food. Also, trying to play the guitar was great until I just gave up because I did not see any progress. I know I could have achieved these goals if I strived harder to make these goals happen.
because they feel a sense of hopelessness. All of these problems and factors come into play when
Everyone thinks negatively, it is human nature, but if one thinks negative all the time, maybe they should consider changing their perspective to help guide them into a positive life-style. Negative thinking patterns can lead to many different thoughts, “what if” thoughts, continuously ruminating the scene in their head, making it worse and more difficult to move on, assumptions start to build, the individual begins to think, “this should have happened like this” or “it must be like this”, overreacting, etc. Someone with a negative mindset might say it is impossible to change the way they view things, or “this is how I am”, but overcoming the stubbornness is the first step. “Developing an optimistic outlook
feelings, which makes it difficult to learn how to cope with them. This behavior may lead
experiences they build to make them better people. A lack of social and emotional development
using their days the wrong way. instead of conversing with people person with person, they lose