How many kids do you know with divorced parents? Or better yet ,how many kids do you know who are being raised by single mothers? Personally ,I know more kids raised in this manner than kids raised by both parents whom are still married. I am one of these kids who was raised by a single parent. I've noticed when growing up I was more mature than most of my classmates, being that I went to a Catholic school and majority of kids had both parents raising them under one roof. I thought this was just my biological makeup, until I realized my home life was very different than my friends. Meaning we were focused and prioritized different things. My friends only focused on school, sports, and weekend plans, while I focused on making dinner, taking …show more content…
The effects can range from positive to negative. Michael Kismet, author of Psychological Effects of Being Raised Without a Father published on Owlcation.com, wrote about his own personal findings and experience associated with being raised without a father. Published on January 14, 2018 , Kismet talks about an article he read about the “psychological ramifications of growing up fatherless”, as Kismet puts it. Leaving him devastated ,he wanted to learn more about the psychological effects of how not having his father throughout his childhood has affected him. He found that common effects include: depression, low self-esteem, drug use, and a tendency to be aggressive. Being a male, his already prone to these characteristics but not having a male figure to teach him how to control it heighted his aggressive tendencies. Although all the evidence presented is negative some good came out of his findings. He was able to learn that life isn't fair, but he doesn't have to let his father's absence determine his destiny. Kismet says” I have to believe I can overcome the disadvantages of growing up without a father. I have to believe that I can still determine my future”. On the positive side of being a child of a single mother you learn to be more independent, value inner strength, and are heavily influenced by the parent who raised you; which is stated in 5 Things To Know About Kids Who Grew Up With Single Parents. Written by Bob Alaburda, 5 Things To Know About Kids Who Grew Up With Single Parents discusses five characteristics kids with single parents adapt. Alaburda is infact a child raised by a single parent and his findings are based off of his own personal experience. While Dr. DePaulo’s findings are based on scientific research. A substance abuse survey performed by 22,000 adolescence, published in Psychology Today, found that 5.7% of children with single parents suffered from substance
The way a father acts toward his wife around their daughter or children is vital in they way they have love relationships later in life. Fathers take up the role of teaching their daughters about what is expected of the opposite sex. Not receiving the adequate nurturing and information of a father will lead a daughter to grow into an insecure woman. According to a paper named “ Fatherless Women: What Happens to the Adult Woman who was Raised Without her Father” By Gabriella Kortsch, she mentions how a girl sees her self worth reflected by her father's attitude towards her, so a woman who was raised having a positive relationship with her father will be more self-confident. However, the woman who is deprived of someone to assure her self-worth will have a low self-esteem, therefore making it more difficult for the woman to overcome obstacles throughout her life. Kortsch has given three different names for women who tries to fix the broken connection with their fathers through other men. It therefore seems that a father indeed has influence on his daughter and on her development as a whole person. A daughter will be a different kind of person depending on the level of involvement her father has. Having a father figure plays a bigger role in a young woman's life than most people
When you love someone, you tend to do things that you never thought you would do. Yes, we all think about having kids with a dream girl or guy when we get older. Although, the problem is that some relationships don’t always last. This sometimes leads to kids not having both parents in their life. The statics shows that 15% of children in the world are now living in a single parent household. Single parenting can affect the way a child grows up. It can lead to sexual behaviors, drug and alcohol abuse and more.
Becoming a single parent can effect the family. A single parent is the one supporting the family financially; this makes their life become very busy working long hours. This makes it difficult for the child and parent to spend time together, even though it is important for the parent and child to communicate with each other in a single-parent family. Not only does the single parent need to worry about paying the bills, but also has to deal with the household chores. Life can become very busy but also stressful. ...
This leads to my next point on how going to school with other kids that have their fathers affect the fatherless children. Growing up kids have class mates that have fathers. They have stories they share with their friends something fatherless kids can’t do or relate to. This usually starts in grade school when they start to ask questions like where is there father, or what happen to him. Why did he leave him?
Single Parent Struggle For many years, children growing up in a single parent family have been viewed as different. Being raised by only one parent seems impossible to many yet over the decades it has become more prevalent. In today’s society many children have grown up to become emotionally stable and successful whether they had one or two parents to show them the rocky path that life bestows upon all human beings. The problem lies in the difference of children raised by single parents versus children raised by both a mother and a father.
Twenty-three, that's the percent of children who lived in fatherless homes in the U.S. in 2015 (Home). Scientists have done countless programs, research, and experiments to understand the impact fatherless families and fatherless children go through and what it could mean for their future. When there is an absent father the children’s rates for; drug and alcohol abuse, suicide, educational neglect, and poverty go up tenfold (Parentless).
In the trajectory of humanity, single parenting has become a concept internationally accepted by most modern cultures. What exactly causes single parenthood? Well there are many factors in which could result in a single parent household. Death of a partner, divorce, and unintended pregnancy are just some of the causes of single parenthood. Based on this worldwide acknowledgement and understanding, single parenthood is usually aided by monetary help from the government or unions. Although financial help is available, the psychological effects a child goes through could never be fixed by any type of cash value. These psychological traumas and mental changes could affect the parent raising the child as well. Even with some financial help, single parents sometimes struggle to make ends meet. A study featured in Time magazine informed Americans that middle to lower class single parents will work 40+ hour weeks at minimum wage to provide for their child. If the parent is so busy at work, who's watching the child? Sometimes, the single parent might still have connection with their own families. Grandma and grandpa have to raise the child since the parent is hard at labor to provide for their offspring. Occasionally, some of our elderly folk do not have the competence to watch over a child. It might even be that the child is too energetic and could wear out the seniors. The child will then resort to the television, street, friends, etc to learn and grow. These influences might be negative for the child especially if they're not coming from the mother or father. An investigation of single parenting leads to the affirmation that raising a child by yourself is very difficult and must be approached very leniently and effectively.
The Family structure has changed significantly in the last fifty years. With higher percentages of marriage ending in divorce, and higher rates of childbearing out of wedlock, single parent families are increasing rapidly. “Seventy percent of all the children will spend all or part of their lives in a single-parent household.” (Dowd) Studies have shown that the children of these families are affected dramatically, both negatively and positively. Women head the majority of single- parent families and as a result, children experience many social problems from growing up without a father. Some of these problems include lack of financial support, and various emotional problems by not having a father around, which may contribute to problems later in life. At the same time, children of single-parent homes become more independent because they learn to take care of themselves, and rely on others to do things for them.
Growing up in a single parent household can have positive and negative impacts. Some effects of growing up in a single parent house are behavior issues, financial issues,
Single parent households are becoming so common that is is expected. The amount of children living with their father has gone up but it is still pretty low compared to children living with their mothers. Which parent you are raised by is important. Each parent can only teach you what they learned. You mother can only teach you how to be a mother and your father can only teach you how to be ...
Throughout history a one-parent household has been deemed as a nontraditional family, but in today’s society it seems more and more common with every day. Although the reason and causes vary, each year the number of children raised by a single parent increases. Most people don’t seem to realize how much this can change a child’s future. The impact of childhood experiences simply set the disposition of adulthood and the rest of their lives. There is not one sole factor that affects child development, but one very important one is the role and relationship created with one’s parents. How a child is parented and raised leaves a lasting impression on them, commonly for a lifetime. You can see how this might alter a child, being that one parent is missing. Child development based off of living in a one-parent household is very circumstantial because each child and each parent are different individuals. But one thing is for sure; all areas of child development can be affected due to a missing parent, including social, cognitive emotional, and physical areas. I sat down with Dr. Carlos Antoline, a children’s school psychologist to see what the real impact of growing up in a one-parent household has on child development.
Another possible outcome of growing up without a father is the increased chances of a life of crime for the child. For example, these fatherless children are more likely to become murderers, and have higher rates of juvenile crime than children from two-parent homes (Williams, 2014). Another effect I see of the absence of a father is in the level of education. The child is more likely to have bad grades, lower test scores, and perhaps lower IQ levels. Most concerning is that the child is much more likely to become a drop out and become trouble for the community (Gabel, 2004).
It has been said, children from two-parent families are better off. The setting is also a factor to take into consideration. The increase in single- parent homes has had an extensive and negative effect on children’s development. 50% of marriages end in divorce. We have young people with young minds having children, they can hardly take care of themselves at the age of 21, yet they have decided to bring four children into this world to be raised by one parent. In some communities, majority of the children are being raised by a single parent. Statistics have shown that children raised in a healthy single parent home have more problems emotionally, psychologically, in school, and with the law than those raised in healthy two-parent homes. No matter how good a single parent is, that a single parent can NEVER do for the child how two present, committed, parent partners share and work together; communicate together and solve problems together as equals.
As a child of a single parent household. I have first hand experience on the affects of having only one parent to not only take care of me but also show me and teach me about life and the correct choices that I should make in my life to better myself. Parenting is hard enough but parenting by yourself as a single parent is nearly impossible. You want to do everything for your kid to have a flawless life but the unfortunate news is that you can’t give them everything. Along the lines of helping your child in life as a single parent you are
In my personal experience, being raised by a single parent allowed me to realize that it is very important to have a the affection of a parent in life and it also helped me learn on how to become independent and at the same inspired me to achieve my goals despite the obstacles. This shows that a single parent can also contribute in forming a good parenting structure in a child’s life. One must keep in mind the main goal which is to place a child by considering what is in the child 's best interest and to place other assumptions aside. According to the statistics of orphans without a family, it would really help that agencies as well as attorneys would make it easier for single parents to adopt a child because this way more kids would at least have a chance to experience what is like to have real affection and real