As Americans we never really think about the idea of having someone to choose our life-long partner. We believe that everyone has the right to decide who they want to spend their lives with. We also feel no one should be forced to marry a person they have no feelings for or no common interest in. But in other countries such as India, that is not the case. Some cultures in the world do not allow their children to meet that special someone on their own. This brings me to the tradition of arranged marriages. In the arranged world, they believe marriage comes first and love comes later. People in India believe as their marriage progresses, the feelings develop.
In the United States arranged marriages are perceived differently while arranged
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Even though we may disappoint our families everyone should have the right to choose their own husband or wife. Some people believe in love at first sight, while others believe it takes time to love someone.
In today’s society many Americans will disagree with this arrangement and say that true love cannot be proficient in a marriage that is not agreed by both partners. For the most part, weddings in India are no different than in most of the countries around the world. In America it is also a very special event for the bride and groom. The Indian culture believes that marriage is the biggest decision you will make in your entire life and they do not believe in divorce. They value family relationship and take pride in raising their
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We must realize there is a difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage. The words ‘forced’ and ‘arranged’ are used interchangeably when they are clearly two very different concepts. A ‘forced’ marriage is conducted without consent and an ‘arranged’ marriage is finalized after a long period of consultation and includes the willing consent of both parties. Forced marriage, on the other hand, occurs when a man or woman is coerced by the family to marry, using threats, emotional blackmail, fraud, and even
According to the author, Lizette Alvarez, in the article “Arranged Marriages Get a Little Reshuffling”, Arranged marriages are better than modern marriages and parents can choose good mates for young. First, the arranged marriage has changed a lot in modern time. Arranged marriages are more flexible because young people can meet several times in some public venues without family members. Parents and elders have become more lenient. Second, arranged marriages have more advantages than modern marriages. Arranged marriages can preserve religion and identity and help people to find their mates in the same social class. Arranged marriages can outlast modern marriages because couples can avoid social and religions disharmony. Finally, young people prefer arranged marriage to modern marriage. Young people would spend less time to find their mate because their parents, chat rooms and dating websites help find mates for them. Young people can easily find their mates who have the same education level and social status. As a young person, I do not agree with the author because other people migh...
Epstein, Robert, Mayuri Pandit, and Mansi Thakar. "How Love Emerges In Arranged Marriages: Two Cross-Cultural Studies." Journal Of Comparative Family Studies 44.3 (2013): 341-360. Academic Search Complete. Web. 31 Mar. 2014
However, there is evidence of a positive correlation between love and the length of an arranged marriage (Epstein, Pandit, & Thakar, 2013). Furthermore, the authors summarized previous research findings in which researchers found arranged marriages had a higher level of satisfaction than love marriages in modern civilizations. The fact that both of these trends have come up shows that some western arguments against arranged marriages are founded upon inaccurate
The culture that exists in America is one that is constantly changing to suit the times and the many different types of people that reside in the country. One aspect of American culture that has changed profoundly is the institution of marriage. Marriage began as the undisputed lifestyle for couples willing to make the ultimate commitment to one another. However in less than a century, pointless and destructive alternatives such as premarital cohabitation, have developed to replace marriage.
Marriage, as an institution, has evolved in the last few decades. As society progresses, the ideas and attitudes about marriage have shifted. Today, individuals are able to choose their partners and are more likely marry for love than convenience. While individuals are guaranteed the right to marry and the freedom to choose their own partners, it has not always been this way. Starting from colonial times up until the late 1960’s, the law in several states prohibited interracial marriages and unions. Fortunately, in 1967, a landmark case deemed such laws as unconstitutional. Currently, as society progresses, racism and social prejudice have decreased and interracial marriages have become, not only legal, but also widely accepted.
In a scene the film Ravi goes to a wedding in India where a family member is being wedded. Ravi asked if he was happily marrying his wife, in love, and not having second doubts, all his family member expressed was no remorse, but it seemed as if it was something casual for him, it was necessary to marry, and that the bride he had chosen was approved from his parents, and the community of Patels. It seemed that throughout the film arrange marriage is viewed as normal in India, they don’t seem to ask their children if they’re happy about being arrangbeds into a marriage, it something that when you come of age you have to do. However in Indians living in America are challenging their parents and their cultures religion of arranged marriage. In America they are looking at the diverse cultures and falling love with people outside their culture, and making work, while others are still in the biodata and probably decided to marry into a Patel or other Indian name, yet still experienced dating other men before deciding. What was weird is that some Indian women don’t date until later in their college years when they are away because of the strict household their parents had and from fear of disappointing their family, and being
The article begins by introducing general knowledge about arranged marriages in India. First is the proof of commonality. Arranged marriages are so customary that marriages not arranged
One of the main arguments for arranged marriages is that parents, being older and more experienced, are better able to find a suitable match for their children. This belief relies on the trust the offspring has that their parents understand what would be best choice or most suitable for their children. This trust is often discouraged by the individualist ideal and rebel teen mentality sponsored by American mass-media. However, in India trust between parent and child are common. When Nanda tried helping arrange a marriage, we see that parents in India weigh many considerations when choosing partners for their children including the statuses of the individuals (including their caste and career path), the social dynamics between the members of both households, and what resources the other family and potential partner have. At least in the case given in the reading, this process can be though and produce a good marriage with stable family ties. Another argument made for arranged marriage is that since the parents are handling the marriage, the children are free to enjoy life and not worry about the details. To a lesser degree in our country, people delegate part of the relationship forming process to others by allowing friends, family, and dating sites or shows to play matchmaker. Though in general, in America the person who would be in the relationship is more involved, and has to worry about handling some of the details. In India, culture is more dependent on family structure so marriage is just as much about forming ties between families as the couple itself, which is part of the reason why the family is so involved in these
Arranged marriages have been around for a while and they still are. In some countries arranged marriages are actually tradition but it is wrong to arrange a marriage for necessity instead of love. Did you know that arranged marriages can be annulled? You can legally annul your arranged marriage with a legal court session. With arranged marriages, you hurt your children more than help them. By marrying them at a young age, they don't get much education. Arranged Marriages are cruel because people deserve the choice of who they marry and a chance of love.
Mollie McCaffrey IST 05-01 Satya Parayitam December 7, 2015 Indian Marriage System The continent of India has been known for its variety in weddings and marriage ideas. Most marriages are arranged by the father and in some other cases the mothers who chooses who her son or daughter can marry. This has dated back for centuries, where a king will choose who his daughter will marry so the kingdom and the power will stay in their family. Arranged marriages in India lack legal recognition or support from the outside including its own government.
Arranged marriages promote and reinforce family bonds and values. In the Dravidian speaking southern regions of India, families tend to seek and arrange marriage bonds between blood relatives (Marriage). They do so to literally bring the family closer together, as well as strengthen existing kin ties. In the south marriage consists of multiple daughters being exchanged between few select families. This ensures that the couples marrying and their relatives will be blood kin (Marriage).
In arranged marriages, parents greatly influence the big decisions, such as family planning, financial, and education. Everyone should experience freedom. I believe arranged marriages can take away a freedom of choice which deprives partners of their independence. In the article, ‘’Arranged Marriage Statistics- Marriage Patterns in Africa’’, it states that pressuring women into entering marriage before they are ready doesn’t allow them to have independence.
In an arranged marriage it’s tough at the beginning, the couple do not know one another as well as they should but the relationship progresses the bond becomes stronger. There are many positives in an arranged marriage for example the divorce rate is much lower then other marriages. Since this type of marriage is practiced most in eastern side of the country there is a social stigma for divorce and leaving your children and wife, due to this stigma the couple usually just learn to live with or work out. Another positive is the man and the woman come from the same social class, and have similar religious and cultural background, which helps them get along. It is difficult for a couple that have different cultural and religious backgrounds to get along at times due to lack of understanding on both ends.. “Mixed marriages often face additional struggles and challenges in the field of parenting.
While arranged marriages are still a common practice, and some girls believe that there are benefits from the arranged marriage, some future brides feel uncertain and scared of getting married because it would mean that they would have to leave the comfort of their home. Not only that, but it is not uncommon for the family of the groom to put extra pressure on their new daughter-in-law. Everything, including her behavior, her clothing, and her housework will be under observation. Whether or not arranged marriages are the best way to create families or find love, it is interesting to see how there is not just one way to get married.
Many of the marriages in India are arranged. While the tradition is becoming less and less popular, parents will often search to find the right partner for their children. It is not just two people getting married,