The article “Why French Parents are superior” written by Pamela Druckerman talks about the different between how French parents raise their children compared with American parents. The article begins with a story of Druckerman and her British husband going on vacations to a beach in France with her 18 months old daughter. She thought it wouldn't be so hard spending a few days out of her house, but as soon as they started their vacations, they discovered how difficult for them was,. At one point when she was trying to calm her daughter, Druckerman noticed that French parents did not suffer the same problem as her. Besides their kids were calm eating their food and not shouting in the middle of the restaurant making a scene. After that she tries …show more content…
The weird thing here is that they take their time to answer, analyzing and trying to comprehend the question. After some time they ask to her if she is referring of how they educated their children (Druckerman). Given this statement they explain that disciple is viewed as a form of punishment. When their kids misbehave, they first call of attention is sending them signals of warning and letting them know that they are doing something wrong. First, the parents send a strong look that they refer as “big eyes”, by doing this, the parents let know the kids that they actions are not properly. This action helps not doing a big scene in public and the kid understand quickly. Another point that Druckerman make is that they are not afraid of telling NO to their kids. By doing this, kids get used that they cannot obtain everything they want. Parents do no shout the word; they said calm but with authority and the kids fully understand the message. And for last option, if the kids do not understand the first two call of attention, they spank them. They do no like to hit their kids, but they are not afraid to do it, if the children do something bad. Compared to American parents the methods they use are really …show more content…
Spending time with their parents is a very important part of the life for any kid. This help to generate trust and being more confortable with them. Having extracurricular activities help to improve their brain, helping them to have a better future. In an article in Forbes magazine called Bringing up Bebe? No Thanks. I'd Rather Raise a Billionaire the author states: “Most of the parents Druckerman profiles discourage their children from standing out, speaking up or getting in the way of their parents' good time. The advice they dole out is focused on keeping one's child in his place, rather than enabling him to imagine and construct one of his own.” However, the authority they manage for behave of the children is a really good method that many parents could apply in their families. Also, they good alimentation for they kids is a very good aspect of them; by doing this they teach they children from a very young age to eat healthy and adopting a well balanced alimentation making it a habit. To conclude, French parenting is not superior from others. Each country or culture has their own way to educate or discipline their children. What other families in the world can do is adopt some lessons from other cultures and applying in their own terms and forming a well-balanced education for their
“In one study of 50 Western American mothers and 48 Chinese immigrant mothers, almost 70% of the Western mothers said either that ‘stressing academic success is not good for children’ or that ‘parents need to foster the idea that learning is fun.’ By contrast, roughly 0% of the Chinese mothers felt the same way. Instead, the vast majority of the Chinese mothers said that they believe their children can be ‘the best’ students, that ‘academic achievement reflects successful parenting,’ and that if children did not excel at school then there was ‘a problem’ and parents ‘were not doing their job.’ … Chinese parents spend approximately ten times as long every day drilling academic activities with their children. By contrast, Western kids are more likely to participate in sports teams” (Chua 5). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua is an engulfing novel which clearly distinguishes the difference between Western style of parenting and the Chinese style of parenting. The quote stated above shows some of the statistics that we completed to write this book. The story is a breathless and emotional memoir of Amy Chua, consisting mostly her two daughters and husband. While the Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother appears to be about the battle between a parent and a child and the relationship they share, the author, Amy Chua, has actually implied that it is important for the children to start developing skills early on to benefit in the future as well as be successful in their lives.
There is communication with the children on why there are rules in the house. With this type of parenting style you see that the some of the rules can be flexible when the parent thinks it should be flexible. The best way to picture authoritative parent is combing authoritarian and passive parent with moderation. The development that you will see in these type of children will have a sense of security, confidence, they are interactive in the school setting. They are a well-rounded type of child (Liberty,
Punishments, such as spanking, and shouting are the major forms of discipline frequently preferred by the parents. The main goal of this style is to teach the child to behave, survive, and thrive as an adult in the harsh society and preparing the child for negative responses such as anger and aggression that the child will face if their behaviour is inappropriate. It is often believed in this style that the shock of aggression from someone from the outside world will be less for a child as the child is accustomed to enduring both acute and chronic stress imposed by
For example Chua said that her father called her “garbage” because she was disrespectful to her mother. Western parents on the other hand would never think about saying that to their children. Education is a huge part of Chinese culture so Chinese parents do not let their children to get below an “A”. If a child gets below an “A” then a chinese mother will find tons of resources to help their child succeed. Chinese parents do not let their children give up, they will make them practice for hours at a time. Chua made her daughter practice over and over on the piano until she got the song right. Chua even threatened her daughter that is she did not get the song by that night then she would never get to celebrate a holiday again and that her toys would be donated to the Salvation Army. After countless practicing her daughter finally got the song correct. Western parents would not push their children like that and let them give up. Chinese parents will tell their children what they are and are not going to do and they will override their child's desires because they know what is best for them. Chinese parents think that their children owe them everything
Webster’s dictionary defines parenting as the process of raising and education a child from birth until adulthood. Everyone has or had a caregiver, whether it be pests, animals or human beings. However, the thing that differs is the method of parenting. There are many methods of parenting, but there are only three main parts. They include authoritarian parenting style, permissive parenting style, and democratic parenting style. The next few paragraphs will give the reader a detailed description of these three parenting methods and what my parents have used in parenting me.
In conclusion, parents who hover over their children and do not give them space to breathe and lead more independent lives harm their kids while thinking that they are helping them. These parents might, in the real sense, be creating new long lasting problems for their kids, which could potentially be transferred to their grandchildren. Children need to learn to interact and engage in college and beyond while parents should stop hovering and give their children some space to experience life. In fact, it is said that love and independence are what every child needs to succeed in life, too much or too little of either and no child prospers. Therefore, parents should stop hovering in their children affairs and allow them to learn through experience.
To sum up, discipline is a central topic for dealing with your child, from babies to becoming adults. Therefore the parents should know and understand the four types of parenting styles because it highly contributes to the child’s development to adulthood. It is significant to know in which they belong and what would be the outcome for the child and how they can change and balance things for the better of the child. Their temperament and mood now and their personalities later in adulthood is highly attributed to the parent’s parenting style so when choosing, us as parents should choose what is better for
Rosen, Christine. "The Parents Who Don't Want To Be Adults." Commentary 127.7 (2009): 31. MAS Ultra - School Edition. Web. 13 Dec. 2013.
According to Webster’s dictionary, the definition of parenting is of “the process of raising and educating a child from birth to adulthood.” Have you ever pondered on how different you would be if your parents would have raised you differently? Everyone was raised differently, therefore we all will be different types of parents. We may cherish the way our parents raised and disciplined us, so we’ll utilize those techniques when we become parents. On the other side, we may despise the way our parents raised and disciplined us, therefore we’ll create our own techniques based on what we would have preferred as a child when it comes to raising our children. As a 43 year old mother, I’m proud of the way my parents raised and disciplined me and I’m proud of the way I’ve raised my daughter, nieces and nephews. As a parent, I’ve constantly asked myself, “why is parenting so hard?” At one point in time, I wondered if a mother should automatically know how to handle and raise an infant, if this is her first child. There’s a conflict when it comes to parenting. There’s a significant difference between the biological needs of a child and cultural needs that have been placed by society. For starters, we cannot say that one particular way of parenting is “the right way”. Every parent should trust their techniques of parenting as the best as long as there is no abuse involved. Permissive parenting, Authoritarian parenting and authoritative parenting are the three main parenting styles. Each parenting style is different and produce different types of results. The next few paragraphs will give an overview of these techniques and we’ll be able to compare each.
Successful parenting may be judged by many different standards. Raising a child to be a respectful, mature, and independent adult requires a great deal of effort. There are several parenting styles, and not all lead a child to reaching their full potential. Overpowering sternness leads may lead to a rebellious child, while passive parenting may lead children to inept for the challenges of adulthood. Parenting requires more than teaching children submissiveness, or building of self-importance. Children learn best from a role model who is admirable. Parenting is a great opportunity to set the course of one’s entire life in the right direction.
Parenting in today’s society is extremely competitive. Raising children has become the new sport interest to the parents, and the success that the kids achieve in life is the gold medal. You see the articles in magazines, the websites online, and the ads on TV that promote the newest and greatest parenting methods used by mothers and father everywhere. The differences we see in parenting can differ from family to family, but the biggest contrast is between the different ethnicities of the world. How a Western mother raises her child may be completely different than that of a Chinese mother. These differences are the ones that are observed by author Amy Chua, as well as mothers who have read her works of literature.
Parenting, which is somewhat akin to teaching, should be regarded as one of the three cooperative arts. Thus conceived, it calls upon parents to assist their offspring in the process of growing up, doing so by observing carefully the steps the children themselves take in the process and doing what is necessary to facilitate their progress. Parenting departs from being a cooperative art, as teaching does also, when it tries to be the active and dominant factor in the process -- when parents or teachers think that what they do should be like the molding of passive, plastic matter.
Parenting styles have the capacity of influencing a child’s social, cognitive, and psychological growth, which would then affect the child both in their childhood years, and as an adult.
Parenting causes a large impact in the upbringing of a child. Many cultures and different families believe in different disciplining styles, and each different kind of parenting style influences the child’s future. Although there are millions of families and each has their unique ways of raising their children, the different parenting styles can be classified into 4 major categories. According to research conducted by psychologist Diana Baumrind in the late 1960’s, the major discipline styles are Authoritative, Authoritarian, and Permissive (1967). Later on, a fourth parenting style, Uninvolved parenting, was added.
French culture and society has evolved from many different aspects of French life. From the mastery of French cuisine to the meaning of French art, the French have changed and evolved in many ways to produce a specific modern culture, the dignified culture of the French. One thing that parallels the progress and continuation of French culture is the role of women throughout France. Compared to other nations, the role and rights of women in France were confronted earlier and Women’s suffrage was enacted earlier. The role of women in France, because of the early change in perception of women, enabled France to develop faster and with less conflict than other competing nations.