An Analysis Of Joyce Carol Oates Where Are You Going? Where Have You Been?

”Where Are You Going? Where Have You Been?” is a short story written by Joyce Carol Oates, which explores the life of a teenage girl named Connie. One of the issues this story divulges is the various stresses of adolescence. Connie, like so many others, is pressured to conform according to different social pressures, which displays the lack of respect female adolescents face. The music culture, young men, and family infringe upon young female minds to persuade them to look or act in certain ways, showing a disrespect for these girls. While some perhaps intend their influence for good, when put into practice, the outcome often has a negative effect. Moreover, this can lead young women to confusion and a lack of self-respect, which proves

Being sexualized by the boys around her, Connie is self-conscious and finds her worth in beauty. The story even states, “She knew she was pretty and that was everything” (Oates 422). She is concerned about her appearance and what others think of her because she has been taught that she lacks any value outside of physical beauty norms. Arnold Friend, even tells Connie, “...be sweet like you can because what else is there for a girl like you but to be sweet and pretty and give in?” (Oates 432). Between this coaxing and the consistent message about the importance of beauty, Connie is nearly forced to conform to this mentality, which displays the lack of respect for young females as human beings. This in turn leads women to self-degradation as they are consistently viewed as sexual

While her mother may intend this pressure for good, to help her daughter mature into a wonderful woman, her mother’s method’s generate nothing but negative attitudes within the mother-daughter relationship. After a study conducted at Tel-Hai Academic College, this was concluded: “The current research findings emphasize the importance of the mother-daughter relationship and the mother’s emotional support in forging a positive body image. They also show that the girl’s perception of her body image significantly affects her sense of wellbeing” (Walter 555). Connie’s mother provides no emotional support and degrades Connie’s prettiness, which would lead to negative effects on Connie. All of the reproach Connie faces induces exasperation leading her to wish, “her mother was dead and she herself was dead and it was all over” (Oates 422). The pressure Connie faces to conform to her mother’s will adds to her internal conflict and further demonstrates the lack of respect she