The golden rule has served as a cornerstone of communication for millennia. The rule, which states to treat others as we would treat ourselves, encourages us to place our personal perspective and self-views into the communicative process. It targets our self-serving bias indicating our tendency to treat ourselves better than others. In theory, this bias prescribes that when acting through the golden rule, we will treat others the best way we can because we believe that treatment is what we, and by extension others, deserve. Although the golden rule has served as a time-tested method of communication, it is not a panacea. Like all communication methods, the golden rule has flaws and limitations which limit its effectiveness.
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Because we are forced to consider the differences in value systems between ourselves and others, we are brought to a greater understanding of one another. By using the Platinum rule as opposed to the golden rule, we place a greater emphasis on the other party in conflict negotiation. We are forced to learn about the other person’s culture and account for their personal values and beliefs. The platinum rule encourages us to have a greater sense of sympathy for the other person and to acknowledge perspective more than we would have otherwise. In addition, the Platinum rule encourages us to break down our own communicative barriers. Because we are forced to take the values and cultures of the other person into account, we are better able to move past the stereotypes which can blur our perception of …show more content…
The larger the divide between two people, the more difficult it becomes to develop an empathetic relationship. As a result, it is difficult to acknowledge the separation in values systems between the two parties. If there is an insular divide between two parties, the platinum rule can serve as an ideal way to bridge the divide. In addition, many of the problems associated with the platinum rule, most notably mind-reading, can be avoided by simply developing a forefront of open communication and asking how the other person would like to be treated
“Treat others the way you want to be treated” is something burned into the minds of
I would hope that everyone behaves as we wish others to behave, because it shows you have integrity. Self-interest is not unethical; if you do not behave as we wish others to behave that is your personal choice and based on your ethical values. Many would think of “The Golden Rule”. However, it is easier to tell others to live by this rule than to actually put this rule into action. According to a newsletter written by William Scott Green, called Parsing Reciprocity: Questions for the Golden Rule, “The Golden Rule is easier to endorse than to enact. As a general moral principle or as an abstract statement of ethical value, the Golden Rule makes intuitive sense and enjoys wide acceptance across religions and cultures. But the generality and abstraction that enable its broad appeal make the Golden Rule problematic as a directive for practical action. Indeed, on Gert’s analysis, it is possible that the Golden Rule must be read figuratively or very expansively in order to be used, surely a challenge for any basic moral principle. The Golden Rule can be accepted unambiguously but applied only after considerable reflection and qualification.” After reading this article, it confirms to me that it is easier to tell others to behave as we wish others to behave than to actually do it. People will live by “The Golden Rule” only if they choose to in certain situations. My answer to this question does not conflict with my answer to question
There are those of the thought that helping the bully who is the source of all the trouble is the proper course of action. There has been so much time and literature spent on helping the victim when not much thought or discussion is given to trying to target the bully his or herself. Sometimes it is easier to just treat the symptoms and not the problem. The bully is the problem and maybe if time is spent to try to change his or her behavior that might make the lives of everyone else that surrounds this person a lot better and ironically the bully his or herself will probably have a better life as well. This line of thinking is the concept that should be tried first in my opinion. If we recognize the bully as a root problem then we can target this situation by pulling up the root and planting a new flower. How do we do this? How do we get at this bully and make him or her stop their behavior? We will discuss this in the next few paragraphs.
Gandhi argues that the golden rule of conduct is mutual tolerance, because of everyone's varying thoughts and views of the subject. Gandhi also argues although conscience is a good guide that everyone's conscience is not the same and it should not be used to interfere with someone else's way of thinking.
Describe and explain the five (5) ethical systems of communication and how each can influence interpersonal communication. Illustrate your descriptions with real life-type scenarios or examples. (10 points)
... and that everyone matters. Our children's future and success will be enhanced by the use of appropriate behavior. Let us create an environment in our homes, schools, and churches where manners are taught and valued so that every child feels safe and becomes all they were created to be. A quote by William Arthur Ward makes people wonder whether they have been polite and good-mannered during the day: "God gave you a gift of 86, 400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?"
life: the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule states “do unto others as you would have them do unto
Compassion, also known as “The Golden Rule," is what brings every human being together. Compassion makes it possible to feel other humans sufferings not just our own or of our concern. It 's about putting yourself in someone else 's shoes and walking around in
One cannot help but think about how these principles can be utilized in one’s personal dealings. Loyalty, decency, and lifting up of your fellows are wonderful ideals to strive for in friendships, marriage, and in the rearing of children. It is difficult to think of any place in our lives that these ideals would NOT be applicable.
The first chapter deals with how to handle people successfully. In this chapter it highlights one of the most important things you can do when dealing with people and their particular situation is to rationalize with them, meaning that to better understand were the person is coming from you must put yourself in their shoes. Every one can and will rationalize why they make the decisions they make. People like the infamous Al Capone never thought he was a bad person. He had rationalized the actions he took and the decisions he made. This is a good example to lead into the first principle, which is that no one should ever critize, complain, or condemn other people. Principe two suggests that you always give people or sincere appreciation. You shouldn?t sit and think about your own individual accomplishments and successes, but compliment others on their successes. The most important thing that others can give is their genuine appreciation. That is the key to getting what you want, threatening people by force or harsh words, but to get others to do what you want is to give them what they want; appreciation for their deeds. Principle three explains that most people do not care what you want. They care mostly for themselves and are not really interested in what you want. The key is to expose them on how what you want will also benefit them; it establishes eagerness and willingness in the other people. A good example of this is fishing, you don?t bait the hook with what you want to eat, you bait the hook with what the fish want. Again, thinking from the other side?s perspective.
Principled negotiation allows disputants to obtain what they are entitled to, while enabling them to be fair, at the same time protecting against those who would take advantage of their fairness . Although the points made are logical and indeed a great approach to certain types of conflict, I found that in some cases the method did not completely come together. More than anything, I found the method altogether was simplistic and for an ideal situation. While going through the four elements, I shall illustrate these points.
B. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Rating:1! Ahhh, the Golden Rule-you gotta love it. I suppose the only problem is like the example in the book of the African tribe that eats their dead, if I died there, they would eat me because they would want to be eaten. Very tricky.
This is more of an individual and individual versus the larger group dynamic. Under core beliefs we try see if people are here to attain their self-interest or that of a larger group. Also, we try to apply the methods of conflict resolution learned from our family. This stage also enable one determine their belief of justice and fairness –the perception of justice and injustice. The second stage on theories that unify and explain abstract concepts elaborate on power and the principles of distributive justice. These principles are equality (fairness/justice), equity (the share of the pie, in terms of everyone having enough and as much as they contribute), and the need principle (those who need the pie the most get it). In most cases what looks just on one side can be unjust on the other side. Fairness is demonstrated under retributive justice whereby those who do wrong must be punished accordingly. The third stage of constellation is that on models of mediation and negotiation. It focuses on the models and conceptual frameworks the mediator has acquired from their profession, the logic behind it, limitations and past experiences and outcomes from using this model. The fourth stage is on facts and information pertaining to my mediation style, as well as the ethics and standards I must
Another way we can follow this philosophy is by, as Jesus said, “Do unto others as you would have done unto you.” Think about this, no one would want someone to harm them, emotionally or physically, and the other person probably feels the same way.
the Golden Rule approach. We are told that it is right to be moral. This is an