A Cheater's Guide To Love By Junot Diaz

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Cheaters and Love Actually In Junot Diaz’s short story, “A Cheater’s Guide To Love”, Diaz goes through his main character’s, Yunior, journey after his fiancé finds out that he has been cheating on her with fifty women, through email during a six year period. Throughout this story, Diaz makes Spanish references and uses Spanish slang, this goes back to where the Author himself was originally born in the Dominican Republic. Diaz’s heritage and his experiences while pursuing an education in the states is reflected through his main character’s trials in “The Cheater’s Guide To Love”. Following Yunior’s fiancé’s discovery, Yunior starts his journey to recover from his broken heart due to his reckless decision. Diaz’s main character goes through …show more content…

After Yunior’s fiancé found out about the emails, she sticks around for a while according to Yunior, “Because you’ve gone through so much together-her father’s death, your tenure madness, her bar exam. And because love, real love, is not so easily shed.” (Diaz, “The Cheater’s Guide To Love”) Yunior says it himself in that line, real love isn’t easy to let go of. Then Yunior tries showing his love in a number of ways trying to fix what he broke. Yunior and his fiancé do the things she always wanted to do, such as traveling from the Dominican Republic to Mexico, but her broken heart still pushed him away. He admits to “…trying every trick in the book to keep her.” (Diaz, “The Cheater’s Guide To Love”) He changes everything from changing his phone number to claiming he is a sex addict and attending meetings, all these things hoping for the end result of forgiveness. All these efforts make his heartbreak even worse when she asks him to move out and ends their relationship. This is where the ups and downs of his break up begin, as the cheater he tries to justify his actions and say the negative things he thought about her. He is trying this tactic in hopes to trick his mind into not missing her. Then He starts up with all his old habits and hanging with the guys, and moves to

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