"First come love, then comes marriage, then comes baby…". A popular childhood jingle that suggests that before becoming married and having children, there should be that period of dating which will determine whether or not love is the feeling that is abound in a relationship. The two individuals having come to the realization that they love each other might then make the crucial decision that they should spend the rest of their lives together in holy matrimony. Having made the decision enter into marital bliss, there is usually a period of counselling where the couple is 'educated' on the pros and cons of being in a long-term commitment such as marriage, but are they really being educated?
Let us look on what education really means. Philosopher and educationist Krishnamurti (1953), is quoted as saying that, "to understand life is to understand ourselves and that is both the beginning and the end of education" . In this definition of education, it is suggested that education goes beyond the scope of knowing something, or to be equipped with the knowledge of something. It is having gained that knowledge and utilizing it because of the understanding that you have gained, is where education is obvious. Having established what education is, we can now decide whether or not education prepares men and women for marriage.
Pope John Paul II distinguished three stages in marriage preparation, namely, the remote, the proximate, and the immediate. John Paul II explains that the remote stage begins at childhood, where children learn from the values and decisions of their parents, which includes interacting and socializing with individuals in and outside of their family. The proximate stage begins at about purity when the child's hormon...
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... role of the man and the woman. When couples are counselled, these educated truths are pointed out, and couples often agree that this is so, but this point of view is not guaranteed to remain within marriage. In this century where women seem to be dominating the work force and leadership roles in a number of areas, they can sometimes become over zealous about what role they should play and sometimes become bored with the man not being able to match their earning power, which with all the education on marriage, could not have prepared her for the actual experience of being married.
It is true that education can help to prepare you for aspects of life, such as a successful career, but I believe that experience is the best teacher in marriage, and that no form of education, whether individually, as a society, or as a couple can prepare a man or woman for marriage.
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Do you ever think about marriage? If so, where, when, how, and who do you want to marry? Do any of those things even matter to you? Everyone regardless of age, gender, background, or culture will contemplate about marriage at least once in their lifetime, in fact some even plan their dream wedding since they were a kid. However, in reality, marriage is more than just a fairytale-like, dreamy concept as some cliche Hollywood films would portrait. Marriage requires countless serious negotiations and decisions, that couples would soon realize deciding on a marriage was only a tip of an iceberg of decision-making. Couples will have to decide on where to live, how to split the work at home, if they want to expand the family, have children, and etc,
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The rights of women have been revolutionized over the last century and have influenced their household role, which resulted in having power balanced in marriage and couple’s relationships, a favorable attribute. The stay-at-home mother is no longer the typical situation in modern families since women can now be financially independent. What used to be a conventional motivation to take on marriage has diminished because modern women are not restricted in terms of earning a salary. Women have gained rights and therefore there is “more education among women…leading to better career prospects” (Harris). Consequently, it can be concluded that these careers allow them t...
Education will help you grow as an individual because the more knowledge you have the better understanding you will have in any given problem that will come your way. It will give you self satisfaction and will boost your self confidence. As an individual I know it will help me in a lot of aspects in my life. It will give me a financial stability because I will be able to land a good job and a high paying salary. I will learn how to spend my money and will learn how to invest it wisely. The more education I have the more respect and acknowledgement I will get from people. Knowledge is really important that is why we need to take it seriously. It is the strong weapon you can have to conquer this complex world. If you have a good education nobody can fool you and you will not tolerate any mistreatment from people. It will give you a better views in life if you are well educated.