Divorce

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Marriage Components vs. Divorce Today

"... society's greater acceptance of divorce may itself be contributing to the decline in marital happiness. A study published in the Journal of Family Issues recently concluded that "by adopting attitudes that provide greater freedom to leave unsatisfying marriages, people may be increasing the likelihood that their marriages will become unsatisfying in the long run. "It seems that the divorce culture feeds on itself, creating a one-way

downward spiral of unhappiness and failure." - David Brenner

In a society where gradually, by means of technology, everything is becoming easier for us; marriage ends up being one of the only difficulties that isn't simplified by the advancement of society. Therefore, in a sense, our culture adapts the idea that marriage should be simple as well, and if not, it must come to an end. There is no "Disney World" package kind of marriage, but unfortunately many people believe there is. Many couples believe that the entire marriage is going to be as "perfect" as the first year, but later find out otherwise. Marriage, in fact, takes work. Many leave current situations in search of another, but soon realize that the "grass isn't greener on the other side." And the trend continues

"Americans love to get married, but half our marriages don't take. Then we switch partners and remarry, with roughly the same odds of success." - Amy Dickinson

In two of the three synoptic Gospels (Mark 10:2-12 and Luke 16:18) Jesus claims divorce is unacceptable and remarriage is the same as adultery. He also says that once a man and woman are united as one, they should not separate (Rubio, 166). Though the bible says this, what does a spouse do when they are being abused in a marriage? As noble as it would be to try to "work out" issues to save a marriage, I firmly believe that one should take themselves out of any kind of abusive relationship or situation, especially when there are children involved. Even if the children do not see the violence directly, they unfortunately see the effects it has on the abused. Sadly it's been shown that there is a cycle when it comes to violence, and in a way it usually doesn't end. Abuse can be not only hitting one's husband and wife, but forcing one or the other to have sex when not in the mood, or humiliating one another in front of others.

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