For my liberating action, I decided to take my boyfriend out on a date for our fifth year anniversary. Growing up the women in my family always taught me that I was supposed to go out with a guy who had money and could take care of me. If he was poorer than I was he was not worth my time. As a child, I have seen men spoiling my mother and sister with things they wanted and I wanted that too. It is a pattern to see the women in my family depending on men for things like paying bills or buying food. They tell me to grow up to be an “independent woman”, yet tell me I need a guy with money, so that he can take care of me. They contradicted themselves often and are not great role models as independent women.
This is a pro women act because the idea that a man is supposed to pay for a date is unfair. Women are more than capable to pay for dates. I feel this happens a lot in our society. It is the norm and this continues the thought that women are less than men and need men to take care of them. I do not believe that I fit the description of a needy helpless women who needs a man....
If there was a problem my mother had with my father and she tried to address it, the problem was turned around on her. My dad would blame his mishaps on her, he would insult her indirectly. My mother’s only mistake is putting up with that behavior, and for the simple reason of it’s just how he is. Boys will be boys, and boys will be cruel and disgusting as much as they please, but when a woman is just the same she’s demonized and called “a crazy bitch.” It’s a woman’s fault if she’s with an abusive man, it’s a woman’s fault if she has his child, and suffers in silence because he’s crushed her spirit. That’s a comment my father posted “it was her fault for being with a man like that” well maybe men shouldn’t be like that in the first place. In “A Trifling Media,” Shakira Smiler describes something similar to this when making the comparison towards how women and men give one another gifts. Women put thought into what they give their significant other, while men give unthoughtful gifts, and expect the same gratitude in return. In my home, my father preaches about how women are, as if he’s a guru on how they work. He takes no consideration on how my mother and I feel about that subject, and won’t let us speak on the subject. He tells us that we’re wrong in our opinion about women as if we aren’t a woman, and he holds that double standard of not
As a society, we oppress people by their social class, education, gender, race, ethnicity, and the culture. We have created men who think they are not allowed to show their feeling if they I grew up in a very poor household filled with abuse and no supervision or structure, both of my parents are high school drop-outs and still work dead-end jobs today, they devoiced each other twice. My husband’s social location was very different from mine. Raised by his single father, his mother left him and his sister at a very young age. His father was a college graduate, and did the best he could, to provide for them, but they also have very little supervision and structure.
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
This ideology that women be accounted for the private lives, separate from men in the public lives is an overall result of what Patemen describes to be patriarchal- liberalism. This is where social construction theory take place. This idea of a patriarchy is a result of history. Rooted in the mid 19th century, the role of a woman happened to be limited to simply a dependent individual who has her own limitations that were imposed upon her by society, history and culture. It was viewed that the man work for his family so he could provide food while the mother ‘performed unpaid tasks’ like taking care of the children and cleaning. As we move towards our current generations, we see a shift between gender roles. There are stay at home fathers who take care of the children while the women work. Nature plus biology gives us this being(women), who physically differentiates from another being (man). Had she been given the chance she holds the same capacity, strength and intellect from that of a male she would be viewed as an equal rather than insignificant. However, through the influence of social initiation, relations and culture she was identified as dependent. This is proven by female figures such as Rhonda Rousey, Oprah Winfred and Molalla
Instead, my mother played the role of both the husband and wife. She worked, cooked, cleaned and cared for me; she was the breadwinner and caretaker. As a current college student, I have never aspired to be a stay at home mother, not a housewife – I have goals and ambitions that I intend on achieving. Because of this, it was important for me to find a significant other that did not expect our relationship to be governed by gender roles. Now, as an adult in a serious and committed relationship, neither my boyfriend or I expect one another to adhere to the guidelines of a traditional family and marriage. As the woman, I do not only cook and clean, but I also work full-time and go to school. As the man, my boyfriend does not come each day from work and expect me to wait on him hand and foot. We share the responsibilities equally among the two of us – we have a fair and level relationship, the opposite of what is considered
My parents beamed with joy, however, I suffered. I was tired of being alone, unheard and unseen. Instead of being at the back of the classroom, I chose to sit in the front. Instead of choosing to block out others ideas, I took note and tried to incorporate them into my work. I took initiative and put myself out there more by speaking during discussions, and by challenging ideas, I embraced a community I had originally blocked out due to fear. I ended up challenging myself, and my parents. These decisions clashed with my parents’ teachings and our relationship grew strain. They were displeased with the idea of me focusing on anything other than my education, it caused them to get defensive about anyone I knew or tried to hang out with. However, my confidence grew and I learned to speak and handle conversations, I didn’t struggle trying to speak as badly as I previously had and I built a safety net for myself emotionally. When it came to my parents, speaking to them emotionally had always been difficult. Telling them about my emotions was showing weakness or femininity, both things my parents didn’t expect in their son. In Guyanese culture there is a huge emphasis on what a man does and how he lives, he should avoid women's work like cooking and cleaning, and focus on being out with the guys and working on the fields (my mother comes from farming background). My
70 years after the American Revolution, white males enjoyed freedoms they viewed as their god given rights, but woman were somehow left out, they even seemed to be excluded from the constitution (“All men are created equal.”) “After so much had been done to ensure America’s freedom, it was hypocritical that woman were not allowed to vote, married woman had no property rights, and husbands possessed so much legal power they could beat or imprison their wives on a whim. Even most professions were closed to women, it would be unheard of to see a woman practicing medicine or law. The jobs that were available to women only paid a fraction of what the men were making.” [Eisenberg] This made women completely dependant on men.
A bell jar is an environment where something is protected or cut off from the outside world. In The Bell Jar, a novel by Sylvia Plath, Esther feels trapped by societal expectations and finds her cut off from the world. She is caught between what she wants and what people expect of her. This conflict proves to be even more difficult when important people surround Esther with their own set of expectations. Only when she fully relinquishes herself from outside pressures is she able to return to a healthy mental state and continue with her life. Esther’s insanity is the natural result of her living in a culture that has ridiculous expectations—about school, marriage, and career—for women.
If someone sees an injured bird they will want to help it. The same rule applies for humans, so when I have children and they grow up I will do my best to help them along in life. I will teach them to cook, help them with their homework when they need it, and when they go through fazes where they act like idiots. I will not call them idiots, I will call them something else. Because I am nice and I know I was an idiot when I was their age to. I will tell them that the dumbest thing they can do is date to young. They do not know who they like and they do not know what people are like. So in my house we will have three golden rules about dating.
A secret agent. A professional football player. A fire fighter. These would have been my responses when asked that inevitable question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?" Family, Media and Peers are said to have influenced my views concerning the role I am to play society. All of these factors had one thing in common. They all were influencing me to behave according to my gender. Everything from the clothes I wore to the toys I played with contributed to this. Even now as a young adult my dreams and aspirations are built around the gender roles that were placed on me.
Tennessee Williams, an American theater writer, has quickly made a great play A Streetcar Named Desire which reflect the society in 1950s as both social and art work, all included references to elements of his life such as mental instability and . Williams’s character Blanche DuBois was a feeble lady who loves fantasy and dependence on man. According to the play, Blanche “hurls” her continually denied love out into the world, only to have that love revisit her in the form of suffering(1). Today we find ourselves in a very different world than the people who lived in 1950s. It should also be admitted that the views of amphoteric relationship are obviously z
People who think that in America all men are not created equal need a change of mind. Just because people may not have as much money as you, that doesn’t mean you are better than them. Equality should be defined by personality, not possessions. People are too worried about what they have and not worried about how they act. It’s sad when people are ungrateful and don’t realize how fortunate they are to have shelter, food, water, and clothes on your back. Those are the things you need to live a good life. However, people still complain about not having the popular or expensive clothes and items when there are people living in a box on the street. That’s the problem in America today. People are more worried about what they want ins...
Before the Feminist movement, women were stay at home moms and rarely left the house. They were not independent at all. Times have changed and women are now as strong and independent as men. It brought women out of the household, and into the workforce, changing the economy greatly. On the other hand, there are still anti-feminist, such as Phyllis Schlafly, who believe women don’t need equal pay, that they should be dependent on men. She recently argued, “Another fact is the influence of hypergamy, which means that women typically choose a mate (husband or boyfriend) who earns more than she does. Men don 't have the same preference for a higher-earning mate. ... Suppose the pay gap between men and women were magically eliminated. If that happened, simple arithmetic suggests that half of women would be unable to find what they regard as a suitable mate”,
As a woman, I can encounter many advantages in life. Typically a man is expected to pay for the first date if one is request this entitles me to free food, a movie or such. Rewind to the part that I said “typically”. Two days ago I went on a date with a man, I did not get my coffee paid for. This is because, just because it is expected, it does not mean it will happen. As a female I have many privileges, not to argue that males do not have just as many. Many of these privileges go unnoticed at times. Today, I went to class wearing an “Iowa” baseball cap, male sweatpants, no make-up, and a loose fitting blue sweatshirt. The average person would not see anything wrong with my class attire. Imagine if a male went to class in attire opposite of that, he would be wearing a floppy hat, female yoga pants, make-up, and a tight-fitting pink sweatshirt. Most would have a different opinion and view on the way they he dressed and it would not be seen as normal. Pink is obviously for girls, right? That might be what an opposing view would think. In that case, blue is for boys. However, no one lo...
Have you ever noticed the word strong always precedes independent girls? I think the very definition of the world implies strength, however, I also believe that the word strong is added to further add an element that really gets the message across. When it comes to a man, we usually say 'strong men ' or 'independent men ' but not both together. Independent girls are strong. In fact, they may be stronger than men because they have to fight against the stereotypes put in front of them in regards to Independence. Not sure you understand independent girls? Following are 20 things you need to know.