Confronting and Shaping Identity

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Confronting and Shaping Identity

Identification and confrontation of identities is very important as it gives one the opportunity to understand the society, their different perspectives and the interpretation of behaviors and characters (Woodward and Open University 9). During the summer of 2008, I was invited for a party by my friend, Dempsey who lived in North Carolina. The birthday party was to be attended by many friends, most of whom I knew, although I came to find others that I didn’t recognize. Upon arrival at the party’s location, I found the party had already begun and my first move was to look for the host.

For many years, my friend had known me as a shaggy person since my hair was always unkempt and so were my clothes. This day was no different and just as usual, I had left the house in a hurry for the party. The clothes that I wore were not ironed and although my jeans didn’t require much attention, they were not in their best condition. After cleaning them, I had roughly kept them and this had made the trousers creased. The shirt was also creased despite being forced daily by my mother to always tuck it in, I normally felt comfortable leaving it out.

My hair was in its worst state, after washing I always roughed it up using a towel and left it to dry without focusing on it again. This made my hair to look rough and gave other people the wrong impression about me. The appearance gave the persons present a different idea of who I was. While it was not the first time that people had generated a wrong impression about me, the issue became worse at the party. When we met with my friend who was the host, he was in a company of three girls and one guy who looked like he was already drunk. The party was supposed to be al...

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...lothing with some behaviors like indulging in drugs and crime is a common assumption made by people (Mills and Sen 45). My case was such an example where individuals associated my appearance with indulgence in alcohol and love of punk music. Therefore, identities are shaped by either appearance or character, which are interpreted in different ways by people. Confronting the different identities and reshaping them to be correctly understood is a task that many people fail to achieve.

Works Cited

Appiah, Kwame. Anthony. The State and the Shaping of Identity. n.p., 2001. Web. 30 July 2011.

Mills, James H and Satadru Sen. Confronting The Body: The Politics Of Physicality In Colonial And Post-Colonial India. London, UK: Anthem Press, 2004. Print.

Woodward, Kath and Open University. Questioning Identity: Gender, Class, Ethnicity. London, UK: Routledge, 2004. Print.

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