The book Boundaries in Dating is a simple but powerful tool to have in any dating relationship or a forming friendship. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend have great take away tips to make healthy choices in a dating relationship. If you already have a relationship you can still take away great tips from Boundaries in dating such as how to grow a healthier relationship. This is not necessarily a book for married people but it still has some great tips that you can take away. Dr. Henry and Dr. John aimed Boundaries in Dating to form rules for romance that can definitely help you find the love if your life. Reading this can help you maintain healthy boundaries, which help you grow in freedom, honesty and self control and also how to form your love based on truth and love. This book is a great tool for finding a significant other who loves The Lord and is equally yoked to have healthy boundaries in a friendship and dating. Dating can be such a rough and awkward yet exciting time in your life, but this book has great points to too give you chunks of wisdom to affect your own heart and for that to bleed over onto the other person. Boundaries in Dating is a book that is a step-by-step process, starting off with "why do we even have boundaries in dating?" The book ends with how to really set those boundaries and what it looks like in your relationship. The in-between chapters are just as important with awesome take away tips to sum up the while chapter and give you key points if what the chapter was truly about. Something you will receive from Dr. Could and Dr. Townsend writings is stories from other people's experiences in dating and the journey if what that looks like. Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend really aim to the teenage and young a...
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...nt in seeing if you want to spend your life with that person and also asking your own self personal questions like "Does this person make me laugh?" In situations, "What is this person's first reaction?" You must evaluate yourself but you cannot forget to evaluate your partner as well, in dating. In this course, reading Boundaries in Dating, taking other classes and hearing guest speakers, I have learned that the biggest thing they have in common is keeping God the center in all things, in marriage and relationships. Boundaries in Dating is a very fast and easy read but the writing is very unique and makes you think and it also helps you remember key points in any dating relationship.
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Cloud, Dr. Henry & Townsend, Dr. John. Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2000. ISNB 978-0-310-20034-5
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